Leaving siblings

Hello, i move to University this saturday, and leaving my parents im feeling good about it. But leaving my 5 year old brother is really taking its toll on me the last few days and it’s only gonna get worse 🥲. does anyone know how i can get myself together and feel okay about leaving him, he’s my best friend and i feel like i can’t part with him..

Reply 1

JF ZAK

Original post by Anonymous

Leaving for university is a big change, and it’s totally understandable that you're feeling emotional about being away from your little brother. When you're really close to someone, especially a younger sibling who looks up to you, it can feel like you're leaving a part of yourself behind. It’s important to remind yourself that this separation doesn’t mean the bond you have with him will weaken. In fact, it can actually make your relationship stronger as both of you learn to adapt to this new chapter in life.
One way to manage the separation is by staying connected in creative ways. You can schedule regular video calls or FaceTime sessions, so you both still have that connection even from afar. Even sending him short voice messages or videos throughout the week can remind him that you’re still thinking of him, and he’ll feel reassured by your presence in his life, even if it’s virtual. Maybe you can also send him small surprises in the mail to keep him excited about your next catch-up.
Another thing that might help is planning visits in advance. Whether you’re going home during holidays or having him visit you on campus, knowing when you’ll see him again can make the distance feel a little less overwhelming. It gives both of you something to look forward to and can help ease the feelings of separation.
Lastly, remember that your move to university is not only about your growth but also a chance for him to develop his independence too. It might be hard at first, but over time, you’ll both adjust, and you’ll still be his big brother, just a call away. It’s okay to feel sad about leaving, but try to focus on the exciting new experiences ahead while cherishing the relationship you’ve built with him.

Reply 2

hallamstudents

Official Rep

Original post by Anonymous

Hi there,

This can be really tricky and most people struggle a bit with leaving family behind and if you have siblings that you are close to this can be really hard. I would say that if you haven't already, printing some pictures out of friends and family can really help as it is a nice reminder of home and will help you to feel a bit less homesick.

FaceTime is also really good if you are really missing family, and as your brother is a lot younger, this will be a good idea as you won't necessarily be able to text him. Try and organise with your family when you can do this, and also organise when they can come and see you. I found it really helpful when I felt homesick to have a plan of when my family was going to visit, or when I was going to go home as I had this to look forward to when I was missing them.

Try and stick it out and stay at uni for a couple of weeks before you go home as it can be really tricky to go back once you have been home for a bit as you will feel more homesick. However, there is no shame in going home if you are struggling and need to see family.

I hope some of this helps,

Lucy -SHU student ambassador.