Ca it be called stealing your best friend's crush?

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Imagine there are two best guy friends, Jake and Bob. Bob has a crush on a girl, Rose, who is already dating someone else. They are all high school students.
Bob follows her around everywhere and works a part time job at the same place that she does. But he never says a word to her and doesn't even try to talk to her in a friendly manner let alone confess to her because he is trying to be respectful towards her.
Jake notices him looking at Rose and asks if he has a crush on her but Bob denies it. Jake repeats his question many times over several days but Bob continues to deny that he has any feelings for the girl.
Rose is unaware of Bob's feelings and has no idea he even exists. They work at the same place but they have never interacted in any way. She didn't even know he was studying at the same school as her.
Jake also has an interest in Rose and since Bob won't admit to his feelings, he decides to make a move on her even though he knows she is dating another guy.
Now Rose herself is having second thoughts about her relationship with her boyfriend; she doesn't care for him much and wants to break off but is unsure how to do it.
When Jake approaches her, she is uncomfortable but she doesn't put up any boundaries between herself and him. In an act of impulse and maybe some lust, Jake decides to kiss Rose and she doesn't refuse him.
Eventually, she breaks off with her boyfriend and starts dating Jake instead, unaware of Bob's feelings who backs out and refuses to fight his friend for his crush.
Now, my question is: was Jake wrong in making a move on Rose knowing his friend liked her or even that she was dating someone already?
This is the plot of a show I recently watched, and I have been torn about it ever since and can't get it off my mind so I would really love to know others opinions about the situation and what if this happened in a real life setting?

Reply 1

Zarek

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It could be considered as bad form going for someone your mate fancied first, but he denied interest so I would say that’s ok. Going after someone who already has a partner is also questionable although for me the it is the person in the relationship who has the ethical dilemma. Generally it’s turns in to no holds barred in the quest for love anyway

Reply 2

anosmianAcrimony

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Jake and Bob are both jerks for approaching or forlornly hanging around near a girl who is already committed. They need to get a life, get mature, realise that there are plenty of other fish in the sea, and move on.

Reply 3

lurker23

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Original post by anosmianAcrimony

Jake and Bob are both jerks for approaching or forlornly hanging around near a girl who is already committed. They need to get a life, get mature, realise that there are plenty of other fish in the sea, and move on.

I wish that was how the show went though. The whole plot was so frustrating it hurt to watch it.

Reply 4

lurker23

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Original post by Zarek

It could be considered as bad form going for someone your mate fancied first, but he denied interest so I would say that’s ok. Going after someone who already has a partner is also questionable although for me the it is the person in the relationship who has the ethical dilemma. Generally it’s turns in to no holds barred in the quest for love anyway

The girl in the show is a very indecisive and frustrating person. She is the cause of a lot of people's misery. The whole show is one long painful watch and that's my main reason for not being able to get over it.

Reply 5

anosmianAcrimony

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Original post by lurker23

The girl in the show is a very indecisive and frustrating person. She is the cause of a lot of people's misery. The whole show is one long painful watch and that's my main reason for not being able to get over it.

With all due respect I don't understand why people watch this kind of frustrating thing at all XD

Reply 6

StriderHort

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Yeah they all kinda suck, but you can't steal something that someone never had.

Bob sounds a bit obsessed and like most lovelorn men, utterly fails at hiding it, and if he wanted Jake to back off he had many chances, tbh they don't have a stake here.

Jake is a jerk for making a physical move on someone who is taken but he prob knew she would go for it

Rose is a bit of a cow for cheating, she wasn't sure how to get out of her current relationship so she chose pretty much the worst way.

Reply 7

lurker23

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Original post by anosmianAcrimony

With all due respect I don't understand why people watch this kind of frustrating thing at all XD

Tbh I had no idea what I was going to get going into it and once I was in I just had to find out what happened next. Rather silly of me I know 😂

Reply 8

lurker23

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Original post by StriderHort

Yeah they all kinda suck, but you can't steal something that someone never had.
Bob sounds a bit obsessed and like most lovelorn men, utterly fails at hiding it, and if he wanted Jake to back off he had many chances, tbh they don't have a stake here.
Jake is a jerk for making a physical move on someone who is taken but he prob knew she would go for it
Rose is a bit of a cow for cheating, she wasn't sure how to get out of her current relationship so she chose pretty much the worst way.

Love your response

Ca it be called stealing your best friend's crush?

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