is love bombing ever not a red flag?

I don't think "love bombing" is a real thing.

we've only met once irl, and tbh the plan was to just be friends with him. but straight away after that first meeting, hes started going kinda crazy. i'm talking borderline love declarations, way too excessive compliments, promises i never asked for etc. he knows about my complicated relationship-situation btw.
part of me just wants to block him. i'm so overwhelmed by everything right now that i'm not sure if i can cope with his unhinged behaviour lol. it's kind of flattering but everything he says sounds too good to be true. or am i reading too much into this? has anyone actually ever experienced 'love at first sight' or is he just crazy? because i'm pretty cynical about these things and always assume people have an ulterior motive so need some opinions

I dunno about the rest of it, but I'm reasonably sure love bombing is indeed a thing, I've certainly seen people do it myself and I'd never call it positive behaviour.

no, even my initial posts says that i am? and his intentions matter to me, i'm so over guys thinking of me as some naive plaything. he has no idea who is he trying to **** with.

It feels very cynical to suggest people expressing effusive affection are somehow necessarily doing so in bad faith...

I dunno about the rest of it, but I'm reasonably sure love bombing is indeed a thing, I've certainly seen people do it myself and I'd never call it positive behaviour.

Have you expressed that you're uncomfortable ab it? It's a bit of a red flag too me icl 🤷*♀️

what do you mean the rest of it?
can i ask, what was their endgame/goal in most cases? just fun or?

It feels very cynical to suggest people expressing effusive affection are somehow necessarily doing so in bad faith...

Literally the post directly above this one you said "I'm not in a relationship with him".

Pretty much all the rest of the thread, I was only making a comment on the idea of love bombing in general.
In the cases I've seen the goal was mostly getting someone back after cheating etc, general bad partnering or someone coming on way way too strong from the word go, which seems to be what you're talking about? The people I saw doing it seemed sincere about it, I dunno if they knew how crazy they looked or felt it was a conscious control thing.

oh, i meant this new guy. the one that's doing all this, i'm not in relationship with him. just still in a relationship-situation with my old partner. sorry if some of my posts are confusing, my mind is just a permanent brain-fog, benzed out mess, lol.

i think it's a massive red flag tbh, especially considering you've only met irl once. I'm not a huge believer in love at first sight and even if that was the case, there are less unhinged ways to pursue it. i'd suggest blocking the guy.

That's the one I was talking about though, and I think the one who is the subject of this matter? Unless I've misunderstood who this is about.
In any event I think you're reading too much into it. Some guys just get pretty passionately into those they're seeing even casually. A friend of mine was super into a guy he saw a few times once, even writing poetry and stuff about him...then after a few more dates they kinda drifted apart. Some people just fall into love hard and out of it just as hard. Equally some fall into love pretty hard but stay that way.
Doesn't mean they're doing it in bad faith or with malicious intent.

oh i see. yeah it's the new guy that's being obsessive. 25 new messages since my last post...... but maybe you're right. maybe i am reading too much into it. maybe he does genuinely like me. i have a lot of trust issues tbh. somehow i always attract the worst kind of people.

If he genuinely likes you and obsessed so much about you it is another red flag. People who easily fall in love with someone are also rend to develop dependency towards the person. You are looking for a different type of relationship, not even speaking about the other things that comes with the dependency