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How to tell a girl you’re not interested in a clubs

There’s a girl I almost had a one night stand with- last minute I decided not to sleep with her and went home..I thought she would get the hint I wasn’t interested from that.

I went out last night and she was at the club I genuinely didn’t notice her presence other wise I would’ve skirted around her area to avoid..but she came up to me and said she hasn’t seen me in ages and asked if I was going to the smoking area- I said I was trying to find my mates bc I’d lost them when we went to the bar cuz it’s so busy… so that was that I luckily didn’t see her anymore bc me and my friends left soon after to go home.

She does seem nice but I’m trying to avoid sleeping with random people atm, she’s a regular club goer- if I see her again I want to tell her directly I’m not interested to stop the awkward encounters from happening again..what’s the best way to say that in a kind way?

Reply 1

ageshallnot

Original post by Anonymous

There’s a girl I almost had a one night stand with- last minute I decided not to sleep with her and went home..I thought she would get the hint I wasn’t interested from that.
I went out last night and she was at the club I genuinely didn’t notice her presence other wise I would’ve skirted around her area to avoid..but she came up to me and said she hasn’t seen me in ages and asked if I was going to the smoking area- I said I was trying to find my mates bc I’d lost them when we went to the bar cuz it’s so busy… so that was that I luckily didn’t see her anymore bc me and my friends left soon after to go home.
She does seem nice but I’m trying to avoid sleeping with random people atm, she’s a regular club goer- if I see her again I want to tell her directly I’m not interested to stop the awkward encounters from happening again..what’s the best way to say that in a kind way?

Tell her that you have a gf? Long distance if that makes it simpler?

Reply 2

EllieDaysx

Or tell her you don't want to have a one night stand. And if interested just a relationship

Reply 3

Zarek

As you say, it’s pretty clear you’re not up for it. Just be friendly if you she comes to you again. If she suggest getting together you can say you’d rather not or invent a gf

Reply 4

Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

There’s a girl I almost had a one night stand with- last minute I decided not to sleep with her and went home..I thought she would get the hint I wasn’t interested from that.
I went out last night and she was at the club I genuinely didn’t notice her presence other wise I would’ve skirted around her area to avoid..but she came up to me and said she hasn’t seen me in ages and asked if I was going to the smoking area- I said I was trying to find my mates bc I’d lost them when we went to the bar cuz it’s so busy… so that was that I luckily didn’t see her anymore bc me and my friends left soon after to go home.
She does seem nice but I’m trying to avoid sleeping with random people atm, she’s a regular club goer- if I see her again I want to tell her directly I’m not interested to stop the awkward encounters from happening again..what’s the best way to say that in a kind way?