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Help! Pregnant and student midwife

Hi guys,
I’ve been back and forth with my decision for a few weeks now.
I have just started studying my midwifery course I’m in my 1st year and really enjoying it. But I recently found out I am unexpectedly pregnant around 12 weeks and I’m considering whether to have an abortion as I don’t know if studying with a young baby will be too difficult. Has anyone ever been in this situation before?
I am also thinking about keeping the child as I am a mature student, I am already having fertility issues and I could always go back to my studies but I’m really on the fence …. Please help! 😭😭

Reply 1

Original post by Ronniethecat5
Hi guys,
I’ve been back and forth with my decision for a few weeks now.
I have just started studying my midwifery course I’m in my 1st year and really enjoying it. But I recently found out I am unexpectedly pregnant around 12 weeks and I’m considering whether to have an abortion as I don’t know if studying with a young baby will be too difficult. Has anyone ever been in this situation before?
I am also thinking about keeping the child as I am a mature student, I am already having fertility issues and I could always go back to my studies but I’m really on the fence …. Please help! 😭😭

Hi Ronnie 😊 😊 congratulations on your news about your baby 🍼 🍼 🍼 😘.

So you are 12 weeks pregnant you said so your baby due about May 2025 approx.
I would consider continuing with your midwife degree up to the point of when you have to go on your maternity leave ( by law you are entitled to continue with things right up to the day of the birth but your university may insist that you go on maternity leave about 11 weeks prior to due date, but as long as you are fit and healthy and everything is fine with you and baby then you can carry on ok) but there's one problem with continuing on is that if you have any days of due to your pregnancy then they will automatically put you on maternity leave.
After the birth you usually don't go back until about 12 weeks after your baby was born, obviously I would suggest you speak with your university about this one asap so they can put things in place for you especially on placement, occupational health should be involved with you and they are there for you okay.

There's many student nurses who had babies during there degree and went on to become qualified nurses.

One thing you need to make sure is that you have childcare in place okay.

I would definitely keep the baby because of your issues with fertility as you may regret this if you had a abortion.

I'm a NHS registered midwife and I won't get involved with any cases that is for abortions at work.

As said above speak with your university course leaders etc ASAP and get things in place for you for your pregnancy. Ask about online learning while you are not attending the midwife degree course and they should be able to do that for you, and you'll have to make up any lost placement hours once back 😞 😞 again talk with your university.

Good luck with your midwife degree and also the birth of your baby in due course 💓 💓 💓

Reply 2

Original post by Tracey_W
Hi Ronnie 😊 😊 congratulations on your news about your baby 🍼 🍼 🍼 😘.
So you are 12 weeks pregnant you said so your baby due about May 2025 approx.
I would consider continuing with your midwife degree up to the point of when you have to go on your maternity leave ( by law you are entitled to continue with things right up to the day of the birth but your university may insist that you go on maternity leave about 11 weeks prior to due date, but as long as you are fit and healthy and everything is fine with you and baby then you can carry on ok) but there's one problem with continuing on is that if you have any days of due to your pregnancy then they will automatically put you on maternity leave.
After the birth you usually don't go back until about 12 weeks after your baby was born, obviously I would suggest you speak with your university about this one asap so they can put things in place for you especially on placement, occupational health should be involved with you and they are there for you okay.
There's many student nurses who had babies during there degree and went on to become qualified nurses.
One thing you need to make sure is that you have childcare in place okay.
I would definitely keep the baby because of your issues with fertility as you may regret this if you had a abortion.
I'm against people having abortions unfortunately unless it's a serious health issue that the baby might not survive the whole pregnancy then fair enough, also if the baby conceived through someone attacking the woman then obviously the choice will be ultimately the woman.
I'm a NHS registered midwife and I won't get involved with any cases that is for abortions at work.
As said above speak with your university course leaders etc ASAP and get things in place for you for your pregnancy. Ask about online learning while you are not attending the midwife degree course and they should be able to do that for you, and you'll have to make up any lost placement hours once back 😞 😞 again talk with your university.
Good luck with your midwife degree and also the birth of your baby in due course 💓 💓 💓

Let's not bring our own views into this, support and be non judgemental.

Reply 3

Original post by L.D.S
Let's not bring our own views into this, support and be non judgemental.

you'll actually find out that majority of nursing staff has the same opinions but at the end of the day we don't judge the patients for wanting to perhaps have a abortion.

I actually support (OP) her in both decisions as it is her decision what she does as gave her insight about her coursework on how things are done for any students who are pregnant.
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