Is he cheating on his gf?
A guy dmed me replying to a story of mine the other day. We’re in the same sixth form (both in year 13) we sit near eachother in most classes, We have a lot in common, both into politics, same music and tv interests, same uni plans, etc, and we ended up dming and sending voice messages for over 5 hours a few days ago.
The conversation hasn’t ended, and we’ve been talking since, I consider it purely friendly but my friends think otherwise
Yesterday we went shopping together to book shops and he bought me food. Again I considered this a friendly outing but my friends got a different vibe.
The issue with there being a different vibe is he has a girlfriend, and he hasn’t seen her in a while, so if he considered it something other than friends, there would be an issue
I have autism, so people’s intentions with me and boundaries I should have sometimes go over my head, so i’m wondering if this is him cheating and should I distance myself?
The conversation hasn’t ended, and we’ve been talking since, I consider it purely friendly but my friends think otherwise
Yesterday we went shopping together to book shops and he bought me food. Again I considered this a friendly outing but my friends got a different vibe.
The issue with there being a different vibe is he has a girlfriend, and he hasn’t seen her in a while, so if he considered it something other than friends, there would be an issue
I have autism, so people’s intentions with me and boundaries I should have sometimes go over my head, so i’m wondering if this is him cheating and should I distance myself?
It's probably worth just talking about this with him and getting it straight from the horse's mouth
Original post by Anonymous
A guy dmed me replying to a story of mine the other day. We’re in the same sixth form (both in year 13) we sit near eachother in most classes, We have a lot in common, both into politics, same music and tv interests, same uni plans, etc, and we ended up dming and sending voice messages for over 5 hours a few days ago.
The conversation hasn’t ended, and we’ve been talking since, I consider it purely friendly but my friends think otherwise
Yesterday we went shopping together to book shops and he bought me food. Again I considered this a friendly outing but my friends got a different vibe.
The issue with there being a different vibe is he has a girlfriend, and he hasn’t seen her in a while, so if he considered it something other than friends, there would be an issue
I have autism, so people’s intentions with me and boundaries I should have sometimes go over my head, so i’m wondering if this is him cheating and should I distance myself?
The conversation hasn’t ended, and we’ve been talking since, I consider it purely friendly but my friends think otherwise
Yesterday we went shopping together to book shops and he bought me food. Again I considered this a friendly outing but my friends got a different vibe.
The issue with there being a different vibe is he has a girlfriend, and he hasn’t seen her in a while, so if he considered it something other than friends, there would be an issue
I have autism, so people’s intentions with me and boundaries I should have sometimes go over my head, so i’m wondering if this is him cheating and should I distance myself?
Yeah the guy is being flirtatious in other ways without his girl knowing
It's not like he's married and cheating on his wife. Girlfriends and boyfriends break up. Maybe he likes you more than he likes his girlfriend cos you have a lot in common. Or he may just like hanging out with you as a friend. Why don't you just treat it as a nice friendship and gradually get to know him better, then maybe there will come a point where the conversation touches on the possibility of a romantic relationship?
Original post by Anonymous
A guy dmed me replying to a story of mine the other day. We’re in the same sixth form (both in year 13) we sit near eachother in most classes, We have a lot in common, both into politics, same music and tv interests, same uni plans, etc, and we ended up dming and sending voice messages for over 5 hours a few days ago.
The conversation hasn’t ended, and we’ve been talking since, I consider it purely friendly but my friends think otherwise
Yesterday we went shopping together to book shops and he bought me food. Again I considered this a friendly outing but my friends got a different vibe.
The issue with there being a different vibe is he has a girlfriend, and he hasn’t seen her in a while, so if he considered it something other than friends, there would be an issue
I have autism, so people’s intentions with me and boundaries I should have sometimes go over my head, so i’m wondering if this is him cheating and should I distance myself?
The conversation hasn’t ended, and we’ve been talking since, I consider it purely friendly but my friends think otherwise
Yesterday we went shopping together to book shops and he bought me food. Again I considered this a friendly outing but my friends got a different vibe.
The issue with there being a different vibe is he has a girlfriend, and he hasn’t seen her in a while, so if he considered it something other than friends, there would be an issue
I have autism, so people’s intentions with me and boundaries I should have sometimes go over my head, so i’m wondering if this is him cheating and should I distance myself?
Hey, I think a good way of finding out in a casual way would be to make a casual joke about “your friends thinking he’s flirting with you” and then see how he reacts to that joke. That might tell you quite a lot. Good luck! Ps. You don’t wanna start something with someone in a relationship out of respect to yourself and the other girl
Original post by Anonymous
Hey, I think a good way of finding out in a casual way would be to make a casual joke about “your friends thinking he’s flirting with you” and then see how he reacts to that joke. That might tell you quite a lot. Good luck! Ps. You don’t wanna start something with someone in a relationship out of respect to yourself and the other girl
I 100% agree, the reason i’m wondering the intention is so that if he does have any interests outside of friendship- i can back away out of respect for the girl
Original post by anosmianAcrimony
It's probably worth just talking about this with him and getting it straight from the horse's mouth
i’m scared of him acting like it’s an absurd claim and affecting our friendship
Original post by Anonymous
i’m scared of him acting like it’s an absurd claim and affecting our friendship
No, do listen to anosmianAcrimony. There's no point going further if you don't know the truth. Sometimes, the lesson learnt is to get frank.
It ultimately comes down to whether or not the agreed terms of his relationship involve one on one meetings with other women. That's not something you'll know without asking him if his girlfriend knows you hang out.
He's walking close to the line i'd say and I wouldn't tolerate it in a woman but there's no way to know if he has crossed the line without speaking with him.
He's walking close to the line i'd say and I wouldn't tolerate it in a woman but there's no way to know if he has crossed the line without speaking with him.
Original post by Anonymous
A guy dmed me replying to a story of mine the other day. We’re in the same sixth form (both in year 13) we sit near eachother in most classes, We have a lot in common, both into politics, same music and tv interests, same uni plans, etc, and we ended up dming and sending voice messages for over 5 hours a few days ago.
The conversation hasn’t ended, and we’ve been talking since, I consider it purely friendly but my friends think otherwise
Yesterday we went shopping together to book shops and he bought me food. Again I considered this a friendly outing but my friends got a different vibe.
The issue with there being a different vibe is he has a girlfriend, and he hasn’t seen her in a while, so if he considered it something other than friends, there would be an issue
I have autism, so people’s intentions with me and boundaries I should have sometimes go over my head, so i’m wondering if this is him cheating and should I distance myself?
The conversation hasn’t ended, and we’ve been talking since, I consider it purely friendly but my friends think otherwise
Yesterday we went shopping together to book shops and he bought me food. Again I considered this a friendly outing but my friends got a different vibe.
The issue with there being a different vibe is he has a girlfriend, and he hasn’t seen her in a while, so if he considered it something other than friends, there would be an issue
I have autism, so people’s intentions with me and boundaries I should have sometimes go over my head, so i’m wondering if this is him cheating and should I distance myself?
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