Have I wasted Freshers Week?

This week is Freshers Week, and the most I've done is go to bingo. My friends from home are kind of making fun of me because of this (they don't make me feel bad cause I don't really care about what they think I should do), but I feel like I should have gone out at least once. Tonight was a big party hosted by my uni, and I'm in my room playing sudoku and watching Doctor Who. I am enjoying myself, but don't know if I'm missing out on a large part of the uni experience. I don't like clubbing (although I've never actually been but just know I wouldn't), but enjoy going out drinking with my friends. Part of the problem is that the people I've met are nice, but they haven't invited me out because they're kind of similar to me and haven't gone out either. I'm not looking for sympathy, more just wondering if anyone is / has been in the same boat and if they felt like they missed out by not participating properly in Freshers Week?

Reply 1

notyaaverage

8

Defo in the same boat. I missed induction days cos my uni failed to give me any information!
Was way too drained to go to events/fairs cos I was doing food shopping and adjusting to living alone - as well as not having as much money as others / not feeling like I wanted to go out with the people who invited me out cos it felt like it was about a vibe and not a friendship, which I'm after!

Reply 2

YSJstudents

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15

Original post by Anonymous

This week is Freshers Week, and the most I've done is go to bingo. My friends from home are kind of making fun of me because of this (they don't make me feel bad cause I don't really care about what they think I should do), but I feel like I should have gone out at least once. Tonight was a big party hosted by my uni, and I'm in my room playing sudoku and watching Doctor Who. I am enjoying myself, but don't know if I'm missing out on a large part of the uni experience. I don't like clubbing (although I've never actually been but just know I wouldn't), but enjoy going out drinking with my friends. Part of the problem is that the people I've met are nice, but they haven't invited me out because they're kind of similar to me and haven't gone out either. I'm not looking for sympathy, more just wondering if anyone is / has been in the same boat and if they felt like they missed out by not participating properly in Freshers Week?

Hi,
It doesn't sound like you've wasted your freshers week to me, if you have spent it doing things that you enjoy rather than being pressured into doing something you don't want to do. I was in a similar situation during my freshers week because I don't enjoy clubbing, so didn't attend many events. However, this has not hindered my university experience in any way. You can always suggest going out for a more casual drink, your friends may actually feel the same way about this.

Hope this helps! Faye 🙂

Reply 3

martin7

20

Original post by Anonymous

I don't like clubbing (although I've never actually been but just know I wouldn't), but enjoy going out drinking with my friends. Part of the problem is that the people I've met are nice, but they haven't invited me out because they're kind of similar to me and haven't gone out either.

They might not have invited you out -- but then it seems like you haven't invited them out either!

Not everyone likes pubs and clubs, so maybe ask if they want to meet up for coffee somewhere.

Reply 4

WrexhamUniReps

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16

Original post by Anonymous

This week is Freshers Week, and the most I've done is go to bingo. My friends from home are kind of making fun of me because of this (they don't make me feel bad cause I don't really care about what they think I should do), but I feel like I should have gone out at least once. Tonight was a big party hosted by my uni, and I'm in my room playing sudoku and watching Doctor Who. I am enjoying myself, but don't know if I'm missing out on a large part of the uni experience. I don't like clubbing (although I've never actually been but just know I wouldn't), but enjoy going out drinking with my friends. Part of the problem is that the people I've met are nice, but they haven't invited me out because they're kind of similar to me and haven't gone out either. I'm not looking for sympathy, more just wondering if anyone is / has been in the same boat and if they felt like they missed out by not participating properly in Freshers Week?

Hi

Please try not to worry there will be so many other people feeling like this.

Not all the fresher events that are put on by the uni will be for everyone. In addition, as the year goes on there will be opportunities to join societies where you can find people with similar interests and I find this a really good way to make friends.

I hope this helps.

Matt
Wrexham Uni Reps

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Kingston Reps

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15

Original post by Anonymous

This week is Freshers Week, and the most I've done is go to bingo. My friends from home are kind of making fun of me because of this (they don't make me feel bad cause I don't really care about what they think I should do), but I feel like I should have gone out at least once. Tonight was a big party hosted by my uni, and I'm in my room playing sudoku and watching Doctor Who. I am enjoying myself, but don't know if I'm missing out on a large part of the uni experience. I don't like clubbing (although I've never actually been but just know I wouldn't), but enjoy going out drinking with my friends. Part of the problem is that the people I've met are nice, but they haven't invited me out because they're kind of similar to me and haven't gone out either. I'm not looking for sympathy, more just wondering if anyone is / has been in the same boat and if they felt like they missed out by not participating properly in Freshers Week?

Hello!

I was exactly the same way during my Freshers Week two years ago - I went to one or two events and met some great people (who I still talk to now!), but spent most of my time getting settled into my accommodation and exploring the local area. Every student's university experience will be completely unique to them, and there's no set standard for what a 'good' Freshers Week should look like. I always like to think of the quote 'time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time' - as long as you're enjoying yourself, you shouldn't feel like you're missing out on too much! 🙂

Eve (Kingston Rep).

Reply 6

University of Bath

Official Rep

13

HI there,

Firstly, I'd second all the great, supportive and very true advice above. Secondly, I'd just like to chime in to reassure you that most people don't find their feet or meet good friends until much later in their course and there will be tonnes of opportunities and doors opening throughout your course to try new things and go out with friends. There is a lot of pressure to throw yourself into everything you can in freshers week, but this is not for everyone, and can be very overwhelming, so it sounds like you've prioritised looking after yourself rather than giving into this pressure, which to me is a good decision 🙂 🙂 🙂

Please don't worry, I was in a very similar boat to you and only went to daytime freshers events and went to bed by ten each night! Like you, I knew I wouldn't enjoy loud nights out. I would make the most of those friends of yours who also don't like clubbing - perhaps suggest a more chilled out night out one night next week, a few drinks or lunch out somewhere? In answer to your question: no, you have not wasted a thing, just go with the flow for the next few months and I'm sure a lot more opportunities will present themselves!

Holly
University of Bath

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