Girlfriend wants to live with another guy in 2nd year of uni

Me and my girlfriend are in the first year of university but at different places. We’ve got a great relationship and fully trust each other but I need some advice on a matter. Only two weeks into term she’s said she wants to live with a gay guy she’s met for the second year. Whilst a straight guy would obviously be a red line for me, I’m not sure how I feel about a gay dude that I haven’t met and she’s only known for a matter of days. Any advice would be appreciated

Why does she choose not to live with you?

Different universities several hours apart

Fairly so on your behalf, but this woman is simply straight up living with the dude. Why not OP?

Why are you comparing meeting someone of the opposite gender with sharing a house with them? It’s completely different.

Why are you comparing meeting someone of the opposite gender with sharing a house with them? It’s completely different.

Me and my girlfriend are in the first year of university but at different places. We’ve got a great relationship and fully trust each other but I need some advice on a matter. Only two weeks into term she’s said she wants to live with a gay guy she’s met for the second year. Whilst a straight guy would obviously be a red line for me, I’m not sure how I feel about a gay dude that I haven’t met and she’s only known for a matter of days. Any advice would be appreciated

Why don't you have a go at answering this question yourself. Plenty of people have already said there's no issue here because the guy is gay. Let's imagine she is living in a house with three other straight guys. Why do you think that makes it more likely that she will cheat on you?

My partner used to house share with someone of the opposite gender, (both straight). You’ll never believe what happened.
Absolutely nothing. Everyone involved just got on with their lives.

His girlfriend said the male in question is gay, but I would advise OP to do some vetting and check whether this is the case. It is about having respect when you are in a relationship for your partner and having boundaries.

That you know of…

Well, yeah. Genuinely fascinated by the people liking this comment. They think it's some sort of gotcha, but the simple reality is that there is always the possibility that your other half is cheating on you without you knowing. The solution is not to make sure you know where they are at all times and ensure that they never have contact with the opposite sex. The solution is to trust them. Cheating doesn't happen by accident. Whether your girlfriend is living with a group of women or the entire university men's football team, her clothes won't just fall off when she is near a vaguely attractive man. Nor will she have sex with someone because she finds them attractive, or because they hit on her. Thinking otherwise does her an incredible disservice. She has chosen to be in a relationship with you, and part of trusting her is trusting that she will honour that and not cheat on you. If you can't do that, you're not going to have much success in relationship in the long term.
I've asked the OP to explain why he thinks it's more likely his girlfriend will cheat on him living with a straight guy, but let's look at this another way. You are in a relationship with a woman. One assumes you intend to be faithful. But what happens when you come across other women that you find attractive? Do you hit on them? Do you try to sleep with them? What happens when a woman flirts with you? Do you sleep with them? I presume the answer is 'no' to all of this. Presumably because you are in a relationship and want to remain faithful to your girlfriend, as you should. So why do you think the answers are any different from your girlfriend's perspective? Because if you do actually trust her, there's no reason why they should be.

Well, yeah. Genuinely fascinated by the people liking this comment. They think it's some sort of gotcha, but the simple reality is that there is always the possibility that your other half is cheating on you without you knowing. The solution is not to make sure you know where they are at all times and ensure that they never have contact with the opposite sex. The solution is to trust them. Cheating doesn't happen by accident. Whether your girlfriend is living with a group of women or the entire university men's football team, her clothes won't just fall off when she is near a vaguely attractive man. Nor will she have sex with someone because she finds them attractive, or because they hit on her. Thinking otherwise does her an incredible disservice. She has chosen to be in a relationship with you, and part of trusting her is trusting that she will honour that and not cheat on you. If you can't do that, you're not going to have much success in relationship in the long term.
I've asked the OP to explain why he thinks it's more likely his girlfriend will cheat on him living with a straight guy, but let's look at this another way. You are in a relationship with a woman. One assumes you intend to be faithful. But what happens when you come across other women that you find attractive? Do you hit on them? Do you try to sleep with them? What happens when a woman flirts with you? Do you sleep with them? I presume the answer is 'no' to all of this. Presumably because you are in a relationship and want to remain faithful to your girlfriend, as you should. So why do you think the answers are any different from your girlfriend's perspective? Because if you do actually trust her, there's no reason why they should be.

I never said or implied that I thought she’d cheat. I’m just not entirely comfortable with her living with other guys as I don’t know what their intentions are. There’s a stark difference between the two.

It’s fine to have reservations. If you were female having concerns about your bf living with a girl, this thread might have looked different.

I feel like there’s a lot of hostility from people with unrealistic expectations. Yes she has her own life and yes I love her and trust her but it’s normal to feel uncomfortable and uncertain about such a dramatic change and how it might affect our relationship. And again, in no way do I think she’d cheat but I don’t know what other people’s intentions are and whether this move would be the best thing for our relationship.

But the OP has started this thread despite saying he and his girlfriend have a great relationship and fully trust each other, so with whom does the problem lie? Surely respect would be allowing her to make her own decisions and having boundaries would not involve investigating someone's sexuality.

Me and my girlfriend are in the first year of university but at different places. We’ve got a great relationship and fully trust each other but I need some advice on a matter. Only two weeks into term she’s said she wants to live with a gay guy she’s met for the second year. Whilst a straight guy would obviously be a red line for me, I’m not sure how I feel about a gay dude that I haven’t met and she’s only known for a matter of days. Any advice would be appreciated

I never said or implied that I thought she’d cheat. I’m just not entirely comfortable with her living with other guys as I don’t know what their intentions are. There’s a stark difference between the two.