Girlfriend wants to live with another guy in 2nd year of uni

If they trust each other fully and the guy wants to go to a strip club but promises not to do anything there, should the woman agree?

That's fairly obviously a different question. Many women do, in fact, not have an issue with their other halves attending strip clubs. But those that do often have an issue with the inherent nature of them. When you say that the man can promise "not to do anything there", I'm not entirely sure that you've ever been to one. Because you very much "do something" just by going into one. Whether a woman has an issue with that is a matter for them, but as I say, not at all what we're talking about here.

Why don't you have a go at answering this question yourself. Plenty of people have already said there's no issue here because the guy is gay. Let's imagine she is living in a house with three other straight guys. Why do you think that makes it more likely that she will cheat on you?

I feel like there’s a lot of hostility from people with unrealistic expectations. Yes she has her own life and yes I love her and trust her but it’s normal to feel uncomfortable and uncertain about such a dramatic change and how it might affect our relationship. And again, in no way do I think she’d cheat but I don’t know what other people’s intentions are and whether this move would be the best thing for our relationship.

I see you backtracked now. There is nothing wrong with having concerns over your partner sharing a living space / house with members of the opposite gender. It is different to encountering members of the opposite gender in everyday life. In this scenario the male is gay apparently so I don't think it's an issue, although it would be in the OP's best interests to make sure that is actually the case.

It does if Imma be honest, I can imagine 3 straight guys immediately tryna pull. Though in this case, a gay dude is perfectly fine, if not even better.

*Sigh*
No, I didn't backtrack at all. Strip clubs are a very different situation, and I explained why that is very clearly. The comparison just doesn't work. But if you can't understand why a women might object to her other half going into an environment where the whole point is to obtain sexual gratification from other women, whether or not you're spending money, I'm afraid I just can't help you.
Sure. But how are they going to pull if the girl is not interested in them?

So the best thing for the relationship would be for you to tell your girlfriend not to live with a gay guy because you don't know what his intentions are towards her?
How do you know there's no girls at uni that don't have intentions towards you and might hit on you at a social event? In future, what about a work colleague? Will you insist she works with an all-female staff even though, you know, you trust her?

You are comparing plums with peaches. Living with someone is completely different. The OP has received the perfect advice to seek first-hand confirmation that this man is gay and that he will be fine with her living in that environment if that is the case.

Plums and peaches are both fruit, though.
How does he seek first-hand confirmation; does he try chatting up the gay guy?

Just gonna throw this out there but i reckon theres mistrust out there already.
Just because someone lives with the opposite sex means things will happen.
In my second year we lived in a mixed house and noone slept with each other, many had other partners and everyone lived together as mates... i know many people that have lived with people from the opposite sex and noone has had an issue, so i dont see why this should be?
Plus everyone says theyll live with so and so in the first few weeks of uni as they still live in a bubble, this quickly changes over time.
I think you need to work on your trust (or possibly lack of) before you worry about who your girlfriend lives with as you dont really get a say lets be honest. She can live with who she pleases.

You are comparing plums with peaches. Living with someone is completely different. The OP has received the perfect advice to seek first-hand confirmation that this man is gay and that he will be fine with her living in that environment if that is the case.

How can the OP seek firsthand confirmation that the lad is homosexual. That’s deep.

Me and my girlfriend are in the first year of university but at different places. We’ve got a great relationship and fully trust each other but I need some advice on a matter. Only two weeks into term she’s said she wants to live with a gay guy she’s met for the second year. Whilst a straight guy would obviously be a red line for me, I’m not sure how I feel about a gay dude that I haven’t met and she’s only known for a matter of days. Any advice would be appreciated

I trust my gf, but I don’t trust her living with a straight man.
Freshers organising second year housing 2 weeks into uni, what could go wrong.
Sounds like the time old tale of insecure teenagers arriving at university. Seen this many times.

I trust my gf, but I don’t trust her living with a straight man.
Freshers organising second year housing 2 weeks into uni, what could go wrong.
Sounds like the time old tale of insecure teenagers arriving at university. Seen this many times.

Maybe talk to the guy and ask in a polite casual way or pass the question in the form of a joke?

Me and my girlfriend are in the first year of university but at different places. We’ve got a great relationship and fully trust each other but I need some advice on a matter. Only two weeks into term she’s said she wants to live with a gay guy she’s met for the second year. Whilst a straight guy would obviously be a red line for me, I’m not sure how I feel about a gay dude that I haven’t met and she’s only known for a matter of days. Any advice would be appreciated

I trust my gf, but I don’t trust her living with a straight man.

Freshers organising second year housing 2 weeks into uni, what could go wrong.

Sounds like the time old tale of insecure teenagers arriving at university. Seen this many times.