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Anonymous12378

Just started uni at Durham and have no friends what do and feel so alone. Anyone else going through this?

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Durham Rep Ghala

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by Anonymous12378

Just started uni at Durham and have no friends what do and feel so alone. Anyone else going through this?

Hiya,

I'm so sorry you're going through this, although I'm no longer a fresher, I did have the same experience when I was a fresher. What lots of people tend to forget is that its quite common to feel that way but it is quite early on and you do need to give it a bit of time. With all the different events, socials and people you come across during freshers, it can feel quite overwhelming and isolating (that's how I felt at least) but during freshers people generally are just testing the waters a bit so the 'big' friendship groups you see by day 2 or 3 aren't really solid groups or are probably comprised of people who are feeling the exact same way but are hiding it. Basically, my advice is to give it time and to remember that everyone is realistically feeling the same way and that eventually, you will meet some amazing people whether during freshers or later on down the line 🙂 Also, don't be scared to put yourself out there a little (obviously don't do anything you're not comfortable doing) but try new things, you'll be surprised by the outcome.

I hope this can help and best of luck!

-Ghala

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