How to change friend groups

I’ve just started uni, the people I ate lunch with are nice enough just not my people. One of them is in my group for all my lectures though, but I wanna meet more people on my course and feel like I’ve been stuck in a small group of people that aren’t my vibe.

The groups they put us in only have about 10 people and it’s for a whole year..

I’m going to apply to join societies and get a job so hopefully I’ll meet more people that way- just feel a bit frustrated with myself tbh wish I put myself out there a bit more.

I’m friends with my flatmates but I feel in need of meeting more people..I’m not terribly outgoing but I think I realised today that I’m okay at starting conversations with other people..I’ve only been at uni officially for two days but hope it’s not too late to make more friends

Reply 1

Scotland Yard

Volunteer Team, Clearing and Applications Advisor

Original post by Anonymous

Of course it's not too late to make more friends! I'm just starting second year and I was meeting new people on my degree just yesterday!

Can you go sit with other people in lectures? Maybe be a bit more active on your degree's group chat, if there is one, and see what happens. Just put yourself out there. Societies are great to meet people too :smile:

Reply 2

Lancaster Student Ambassador

Official Rep

Original post by Anonymous

I’ve just started uni, the people I ate lunch with are nice enough just not my people. One of them is in my group for all my lectures though, but I wanna meet more people on my course and feel like I’ve been stuck in a small group of people that aren’t my vibe.
The groups they put us in only have about 10 people and it’s for a whole year..
I’m going to apply to join societies and get a job so hopefully I’ll meet more people that way- just feel a bit frustrated with myself tbh wish I put myself out there a bit more.
I’m friends with my flatmates but I feel in need of meeting more people..I’m not terribly outgoing but I think I realised today that I’m okay at starting conversations with other people..I’ve only been at uni officially for two days but hope it’s not too late to make more friends

Hi Anon,
Try not to worry, its never to late to make friends at uni, as you will be constantly meeting new people. Societies are a great way of meeting new people, and as everyone there has a similar interest its usually quite easy to start conversations and get to know people. In terms of your course, it might be possible to meet new people during seminars, practical's and group projects as the term goes on, or if you feel confident try to talk to some different people while your waiting outside of lectures ect.
Hope this helps!
-Jasmine (Lancaster Student Ambassador)

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

similar for me, it gets easier :smile:

one thing that helped was not just joining clubs but hanging around to help out before and after, it was really appreciated and quickly got me to know folks

Reply 4

WrexhamUniReps

Official Rep

Original post by Anonymous

I’ve just started uni, the people I ate lunch with are nice enough just not my people. One of them is in my group for all my lectures though, but I wanna meet more people on my course and feel like I’ve been stuck in a small group of people that aren’t my vibe.
The groups they put us in only have about 10 people and it’s for a whole year..
I’m going to apply to join societies and get a job so hopefully I’ll meet more people that way- just feel a bit frustrated with myself tbh wish I put myself out there a bit more.
I’m friends with my flatmates but I feel in need of meeting more people..I’m not terribly outgoing but I think I realised today that I’m okay at starting conversations with other people..I’ve only been at uni officially for two days but hope it’s not too late to make more friends

Hi

It is never too late to make new friends and make new connections.

As you mentioned try joining new societies as you can meet people with common interests there as well as this you could always see if you could switch your lecture groups to meet new people and make new friends. It totally depends on what you feel is best for you.

I hope this helps,

Matt
Wrexham Uni Reps

Reply 5

hayfever32

Here's some good advice was that was posted by Teeside University rep in another thread:

"Most people don't meet their true friends until later in their degrees - through your course/group work, through societies. First year is absolutely not the only opportunity to make friends and you can ALWAYS integrate into new groups and meet new people later down the line; you're all in the same boat and everybody wants to meet new people"

Reply 6

De Montfort University

Official Rep

Original post by Anonymous

I’ve just started uni, the people I ate lunch with are nice enough just not my people. One of them is in my group for all my lectures though, but I wanna meet more people on my course and feel like I’ve been stuck in a small group of people that aren’t my vibe.
The groups they put us in only have about 10 people and it’s for a whole year..
I’m going to apply to join societies and get a job so hopefully I’ll meet more people that way- just feel a bit frustrated with myself tbh wish I put myself out there a bit more.
I’m friends with my flatmates but I feel in need of meeting more people..I’m not terribly outgoing but I think I realised today that I’m okay at starting conversations with other people..I’ve only been at uni officially for two days but hope it’s not too late to make more friends

Hi there,

Student societies is a nice one, it will definitely help you to meet more people. You can also try joining some sport clubs (even if you have 0 experience with sports you can always learn!).

Also keep an eye on university's website to find out about social events that might be going on. It's a nice way to meet people with similar vibe.

Take care,
Ilya