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How do i forget about a toxic ex that caused me trauma?

Hello how do i forget about my toxic ex who caused me bad things
He always on my mind and that he the bad stuff he done to me and he was always nasty to me when we were together and forced me to do toxic things with him over text and irl as well so I'm wondering how I forget about his stupid things he done to me ik people probably won't have answers and also not too long ago he came back again for like a little while and said some nasty things to me than leave but he keeps harassing me and school and that sometimes
Reply 1
that sort of stuff is impossible to forget tbh. you can make new memories to kind of override the bad ones, but you can never truly get rid of them
Reply 2
Original post by Ciel.
that sort of stuff is impossible to forget tbh. you can make new memories to kind of override the bad ones, but you can never truly get rid of them


That sucks that you can't fully forget about it
Two things. First, if he keeps coming back and harassing you, please make sure people know about it. I'm not talking about reporting him to the police (it depends what he's doing), but make sure your friends and family know in case things escalate with him and you need support from them.

Second, you can move on from this, but it takes time, and I'd also recommend counselling. It can genuinely be a significant help with things like this. But whether you do it or not, as time moves on and you grow up, there's every chance that you will be able to put these experiences into context. It doesn't mean that they suddenly won't be bad memories, but there will be some positives from them, such as being able to spot signs of toxic behaviour in future potential friends and partners. You'll also hopefully have more positive relationships in future, and when you do it will be much easier to consign this guy as a footnote in your past, rather than something that is affecting you. You can't fully forget him, but you shouldn't want to, because this is experience that you can use going forwards. But it will get easier to cope with, and will become less important the older you get.
Reply 4
In a year or two you will forget it and if it does come to your mind it won't mean a thing, don't worry :smile:
Reply 5
Original post by Crazy Jamie
Two things. First, if he keeps coming back and harassing you, please make sure people know about it. I'm not talking about reporting him to the police (it depends what he's doing), but make sure your friends and family know in case things escalate with him and you need support from them.
Second, you can move on from this, but it takes time, and I'd also recommend counselling. It can genuinely be a significant help with things like this. But whether you do it or not, as time moves on and you grow up, there's every chance that you will be able to put these experiences into context. It doesn't mean that they suddenly won't be bad memories, but there will be some positives from them, such as being able to spot signs of toxic behaviour in future potential friends and partners. You'll also hopefully have more positive relationships in future, and when you do it will be much easier to consign this guy as a footnote in your past, rather than something that is affecting you. You can't fully forget him, but you shouldn't want to, because this is experience that you can use going forwards. But it will get easier to cope with, and will become less important the older you get.


Thanks for the advice I'll will try these things he is just very controlling with people and randomly leaves and come back
Reply 6
Original post by Anonymous
Thanks for the advice I'll will try these things he is just very controlling with people and randomly leaves and come back

and comes back? you need to cut him off, completely, if you want to at least try to move on. like, block him everywhere, etc.
had a similar experience, 4 years later hes still there in my head (ive cut him off)
best adivce make new happy memories w friends, it keeps your mind off of these things for most of the time 🙂 gl ❤️
Reply 8
Original post by Anonymous
had a similar experience, 4 years later hes still there in my head (ive cut him off)
best adivce make new happy memories w friends, it keeps your mind off of these things for most of the time 🙂 gl ❤️


Thanks for the advice I hope your okay
Original post by Anonymous
Thanks for the advice I hope your okay

im okay ty:smile:) it was a long time ago still healing from it but im okay<3
Original post by Anonymous
Hello how do i forget about my toxic ex who caused me bad things
He always on my mind and that he the bad stuff he done to me and he was always nasty to me when we were together and forced me to do toxic things with him over text and irl as well so I'm wondering how I forget about his stupid things he done to me ik people probably won't have answers and also not too long ago he came back again for like a little while and said some nasty things to me than leave but he keeps harassing me and school and that sometimes

I'm in a similar boat tbh. I just try and ignore him, but it doesn't always work
i hug you 🫂 ❤️
i am so sorry you're hurting. 😞
lie down, empty your mind of the memories, and let the divine love express itself through you
do this as many times as you need for the pain to go away
i would also start to experience good things ☺️ i enjoy listening to One Direction songs and the song "New Romantics" from Taylor Swift. it has the lyrics "i can build a castle from all the bricks they threw at me" or something like that ☺️
after i stretch, i feel better too
you are awesome
stay amazing
I had a cr*p dating past I got cheated on by 3 people but on person stuck out to me bc when my uncle committed suicide he would tell me if I didn't do what he wants he would start whining and saying he will khs and as the funeral was still fresh I was still really shook up so I didn't really argue on day he took my phone (not like I really cared as I didn't have anything to hide) but when I had to go to a dentist appointment so I asked for my phone back and he started saying how I don't trust him and stuff like that and he said I could find him after my appointment but school would be over and he would be gone and he doesnt always show up for school after I broke up with him after him making me let him do stuff to my body bc I didn't want to hear him yelling at me if I didn't and a lot of him trying to get me to do drugs(I never did) and when I broke up with him I learned he got another girl pregnant while we were together and he was dating 6 people in his words he spent more time with me bc I was the hottest and funnest but I'm so embarrassed I ever dated I thought I was so stupid but then I met my current bf and he is the best and he's so sweet and nice and makes me so happy and with him I feel comfortable and with him I didn't focus so much on thinking Abt a bad past when he is my good future
Block everything, social media, phone, etc and cut him off.

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