Hi so im 18 and recently I've been having this issues where a lot of my friends are really desperate for a bf and/or have bfs who treat them horribly and it upsets them but won't do anything about it. So one of my friends got into this relationship like last December and he treats her really poorly and pretty borders on being abusive from my perspective very controlling, she complain about him a lot and they fight all the time, she posts him on social media all the time though.
Then my other friend who's a boy got jealous as he admitted and wanted a bf as well, so he got one and they both complain about each other all the time and fight all the time as well, he admitted he doesn't even like him much he just thinks he's attractive.
Then my other two friends just sort of broke up with their *****y bfs (both cheating) and were talking about how much they miss them and how they really want another bf or get back with them.
I try and be as understanding as possible and of course they're my friends so I try and be there for them as much as I can, but they all complain so much about their bfs, won't take any advice or do anything about it, its all they talk about and they ditch me to be with the bfs which is completely fine but then come to me when it goes wrong, but will again take no advice so what's the point? It won't be as bad if it were one person but it seems a lot of my friends are like this ATM. They all admit they are desperate to be a in relationship and I dont really know what to say or do anymore? They seem to think having a bf makes their life better but they seem more miserable than ever.