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My Friend Ruined My New Relationship Unconsciously

So there was this guy I met recently, we got talking and eventually started dating however, few days after we got together, a friend of mine jokingly told him I was cheating on him with three other guys (she apologised tho and try to explain to him that it was a joke) and he stopped speaking to me. I've been trying to explain to him for the past one week now and he's not replying to my messages just leaving me on read but he's speaking to my friend like nothing happened. He even told her that he's broken up with me so I basically learnt about our break up from her

I'm confused. Please any idea on what I can do. I don't want to lose him( tho it seems like I've lost him already)
(edited 9 months ago)

Reply 1

Original post by numb-chain
So there was this guy I met recently, we got talking and eventually started dating however, few days after we got together, a friend of mine jokingly told him I was cheating on him with three other guys (she apologised tho and try to explain to him that it was a joke) and he stopped speaking to me. I've been trying to explain to him for the past one week now and he's not replying to my messages just leaving me on read but he's speaking to my friend like nothing happened. He even told her that he's broken up with me so I basically learnt about our break up from her
I'm confused. Please any idea on what I can do. I don't want to lose him( tho it seems like I've lost him already)

if she confirmed it was a lie to him and he still doesn't want to get back with you, then i'm afraid there's little you can do.. maybe he was already thinking about breaking up and used the whole thing as an excuse
(edited 9 months ago)

Reply 2

Original post by Ciel.
if she confirmed it was a lie to him and he still doesn't want to get back with you, then i'm afraid there's little you can do.. maybe he was already thinking about breaking up and used the whole thing as an excuse

I've been thinking so as well but been trying to brush it off by making myself think it's because he's probably still mad at me

Reply 3

Original post by numb-chain
I've been thinking so as well but been trying to brush it off by making myself think it's because he's probably still mad at me

why would he be mad at you if he knows she lied though. a really *****y thing to do btw. sounds like she might have a jealousy problem

Reply 4

Original post by Ciel.
why would he be mad at you if he knows she lied though. a really *****y thing to do btw. sounds like she might have a jealousy problem

Just really stressed out honestly

Reply 5

Original post by numb-chain
Just really stressed out honestly

yeah, i can imagine. but he's probably not worth it, judging by his behaviour

Reply 6

Original post by numb-chain
So there was this guy I met recently, we got talking and eventually started dating however, few days after we got together, a friend of mine jokingly told him I was cheating on him with three other guys (she apologised tho and try to explain to him that it was a joke) and he stopped speaking to me. I've been trying to explain to him for the past one week now and he's not replying to my messages just leaving me on read but he's speaking to my friend like nothing happened. He even told her that he's broken up with me so I basically learnt about our break up from her
I'm confused. Please any idea on what I can do. I don't want to lose him( tho it seems like I've lost him already)

He isn’t worth it, and in my honest opinion neither is the friend, who says that to a friend's partner? Just not ok, sounds jealous to me.
Sorry about your luck with both of them.

Reply 7

Original post by Ciel.
yeah, i can imagine. but he's probably not worth it, judging by his behaviour

Thanks xx❤️

Reply 8

Original post by Anonymous
He isn’t worth it, and in my honest opinion neither is the friend, who says that to a friend's partner? Just not ok, sounds jealous to me.
Sorry about your luck with both of them.

It's okay. I'll get over it soon hopefully😊

Reply 9

Original post by numb-chain
It's okay. I'll get over it soon hopefully😊

Surround yourself with people who respect you, and think before they say something ❤️ You deserve that

Reply 10

Original post by Anonymous
Surround yourself with people who respect you, and think before they say something ❤️ You deserve that

thank you❤️

Reply 11

It’s a bit of unpleasant dating rivalry and undoubtedly she was doing other things to undermine your relationship. Treat them both with the contempt they deserve and look for a better friend and partner

Reply 12

Don't bother with this guy, his reaction is over the top and just gave you a clear insight into how he resolves issues, ie he abandons you without a word or chance to defend yourself over a someone else's joke or rumour, what futute is there in that?

As above, it's pretty suss your friend is still in there since she caused the initial issue, as above, I'd be pretty suspicious of your friend and what else they've been whispering.

Reply 13

You're in year 10. You're not going to get any levels of maturity in anything in year 10.

So that these sorts of situations will happen.

About the best you can do is to go into school and talk to everyone in your social circle about this. With you treating it as an amusing anecdote with a large amount of ridiculousness thrown in.

Ridiculous joke.
Ridiculous reaction from the BOYfriend.

Make it clear that you hold no grudge against your friend. And no grudge against your ex.

Reply 14

Original post by Dunnig Kruger
You're in year 10. You're not going to get any levels of maturity in anything in year 10.
So that these sorts of situations will happen.
About the best you can do is to go into school and talk to everyone in your social circle about this. With you treating it as an amusing anecdote with a large amount of ridiculousness thrown in.
Ridiculous joke.
Ridiculous reaction from the BOYfriend.
Make it clear that you hold no grudge against your friend. And no grudge against your ex.

Thanks😊

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