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Does having a BF/GF distract from education (A-levels)

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Does having a BF/GF distract education?

I have been scared of committing , I have signed off MSN. Hidden behind bins etc to avoid the opposite sex. I find it too much hard work mentally , you get that gooey feeling and you can revise cause you keep thinking about them. Have to text / see them etc. It has been getting me down I think I might be along on this one.

What do you think?

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Reply 1

Lord Hysteria

You need to have a balance in life to be healthy. Including food, studying, romance etc ...

Reply 2

cadaeibfeceh

Yes it does but not in a bad way. Obviously time spent with your other half could be spent doing work, but as LH said you do need to balance your life...

Reply 3

GodspeedGehenna

Nope. My girlfriend helped me study. :smile:

Reply 4

Zayne

If either studying or a relationship is getting in the way of the other, you're doing too much of it (pun not intended). A levels aren't 'that' hard, and won't get easier by six hour revision every day, and not having grades at all won't help you with getting ahead in life. So yeah, a balance is what you need, definitely no reason why you can't have love in your life :smile:

Reply 5

TarantuLove

Only get in the way of education if you let it :smile:

Reply 6

somnambulistic grace

i found it did. i failed the past two years at a levels, and i blame it on my ex bf, altho i know i should blame myself, 'cause it was me who ultimately decided to put him before my education. but still, if i could go back, i'd probably not get into the relationship i got myself in, if only to save my grades.

Reply 7

whitepearlbaby

A little. But it's worth it.

Reply 8

Charlski

I never had a problem with my bf distracting me - if anything he was a great source of encouragement for me to really try in my A levels.

Reply 9

Lolly-88

Yeah it did for me but A Level weren't particularly hard so the only effect it had was instead of getting high A's and 100% in exams, I started getting low A's. At the end of the day, an A is an A so it was worth it. It's more of a problem at uni though as the work is harder.

Reply 10

Naxir

If anything she helps me. The amount of times where I've really not been arsed to do something and she's been there to prod me in the right direction is amazing :P

Reply 11

Brook Taylor

I agree with others here, my ex was a source of motivation for me. I never used to want to work hard before, but she gave me a reason to want to do well, so we'd be able to have better lives together. Pfft, fat lot of good that turned out to be.

Reply 12

KJ21

It may distract you but you need to not let it distract you if that makes sense. Surely your partner will understand you need to study and revise. You cant hold off on having a bf/gf just because your doing your studies though, what about Uni

Reply 13

PhilMc

Of course it does. But I wouldn't go back and change it!

You need some distraction from study or else you will become a recluse. What good is doing all that studying and getting a First in Med/Law et cetera if you lack social skills because you've spend all your time locked up in a room on your own?

Reply 14

foundintransmission

It's up to yourself really, if you don't let it take over your life then your fine, you just need to find a happy medium. :smile:

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

i dont know about relationships but i know being totally in love with a friend that doesnt even care can screw things up a fair bit

Reply 16

happydinosaur

Its all about balance. You wouldn't stop having friends because they get in the way of working so why say no to a relationship too. Obviously it might affect your grades if all you do with your life is spend time with your other half, see them everyday, spend all night on the phone etc but that is just silly and not needed for a relationship. Anyway what are you going to do, not have any relationships at university because it would distract you from work. Probably not plus uni is harder than Alevels. Then not have a relationship because you are focused on a career and don't want to get distracted. There is no reason why someone can't have a relationship and do well at Alevels. Loads of people do it every year without a problem.

Reply 17

zzzzzoe

i probably did better in exams after meeting my boyfriend! if anything, it was my old friends who used to distract me from education more.. they were the sort who used to hassle me to come out every night when sometimes i didnt want to..
but yeah, i think thats just some cliche thing that parents say to keep their kids "on the straight and narrow" or something. exams arent the most important thing in life.. haha

Reply 18

fire2burn

If you can't focus and balance your life what do you expect to do in the real world when you have a job?

I had a partner during A levels and have one at uni too, yet still manage to get exceptionally high marks. One shouldn't obsess over a partner and loose track of work, at the same time you shouldn't obsess over work and become a virtual hermit both are extremes that should be avoided.

Reply 19

LiveDub

I guess it varies between different people but last summer having a girlfriend definately distracted me from education. I was forever worrying about the situation with my now ex and this really didnt help with the stress the A Level exam period can bring.