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Embarrassed myself whilst drunk

It’s been freshers week and I’ve already really embarrassed myself, I said to someone that I fancied a girl…the girl I said I fancied acts like she HATES me- someone told her I think, she used to be really friendly now she completely ignores me. I would never say anything sober. I have done it again about another girl just said ahh I think I fancy her and now she’s acting weird too.

I don’t know what to do, I might take a break from drinking but also it’s uni and apart from that I’m having fun etc. just wish I didn’t say embarrassing ****.

Worried that I seem like a complete creep now, I would never say it to a girls face I just said in passing to mutual “friends” who I shall now be avoiding at the pub.

How do I rectify the embarrassing stuff I’ve said? I’m thinking about staying away from the particular group I’ve become sort of creepy in..I totally hate myself rn for it too, I would never want to make someone uncomfortable. It’s just I become overly open with emotions when drunk.

I want them to forget what happened but I’ll probably always be seen as that weirdo that fancies every girl.

Does anyone have advice for this type of thing?
Probably be brave enough to address it. If they don’t accept it then it is what it is or you can avoid them forever. Usually that’s what happens at uni anyways
This is far from the worst thing that anyone has done while drunk. It's not even that embarrassing or that out of the ordinary. It's normal to fancy people and it's par for the course that things you'd ordinarily be inhibited about talking about, come out when you're drunk. I suspect you're judging yourself much more than the other people in your friend group are judging you. This will blow over quickly especially following freshers when everyone will have so much more to think about.
Mate, we've all done stupid things or stuff we regret when we're drunk.

Ultimately, I think the problem here is that girls can get funny when they find out that their guy-mates are interested in them (if they don't like them back). I'm not sure of the logic, exactly... but I think it's on the lines that the whole "friendship" was based on a lie. It's different from a guy's point of view, who would probably still take the compliment, even if he wasn't interested. If you just said you liked her, and didn't try touching her in any way, then you haven't done anything wrong... you tried your luck, and it didn't work out. That's life, sometimes you're the pigeon, other times you're the statue.

I don't think there's anything you can do... just keep your distance until it all blows over (it's only freshers week, so it will... eventually). In the meantime, on the times when you inevitably have to see them, keep it minimal and be civil. You'll know when it's OK to chat to her again. In the meantime, it won't do you any harm if you abstain from alcohol, if you are genuinely concerned about your behaviour... or at least, know your limits.
Original post by Anonymous
It’s been freshers week and I’ve already really embarrassed myself, I said to someone that I fancied a girl…the girl I said I fancied acts like she HATES me- someone told her I think, she used to be really friendly now she completely ignores me. I would never say anything sober. I have done it again about another girl just said ahh I think I fancy her and now she’s acting weird too.
I don’t know what to do, I might take a break from drinking but also it’s uni and apart from that I’m having fun etc. just wish I didn’t say embarrassing ****.
Worried that I seem like a complete creep now, I would never say it to a girls face I just said in passing to mutual “friends” who I shall now be avoiding at the pub.
How do I rectify the embarrassing stuff I’ve said? I’m thinking about staying away from the particular group I’ve become sort of creepy in..I totally hate myself rn for it too, I would never want to make someone uncomfortable. It’s just I become overly open with emotions when drunk.
I want them to forget what happened but I’ll probably always be seen as that weirdo that fancies every girl.
Does anyone have advice for this type of thing?

I used to be overly open when drunk and really embarrassed myself, so I stopped drinking. I still go out to pubs and parties, but I’ve learned how to have fun and interact without needing alcohol. If you’re concerned about your behaviour maybe stop drinking for a bit- you might learn a bit about yourself in the process.

I wouldn’t worry about what’s happened anymore- what’s done is done, and the only thing you can do moving forward is not putting yourself in a situation where it happens again. If it’s any consolation, I’ve done much worse things when drunk.
Reply 5
Doesn’t sound so serious to me and your recovery strategy is spot on. Just learn from your mistakes
Reply 6
People like alcohol and to be drunk, it would be a boring life without fun
On the scale of embarrassing things I've done while drunk this doesn't even register. Literally not even something to worry about!

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