First year in uni already struggling.
I don’t like university. I haven’t been able to enjoy it. I feel completely alone. Completely. Nobody else there with me, really. I just feel like I have no other choice. I can’t quit uni, because the job market is already hard. I’ve seen what it’s like to try and even get a minimum wage job. It would be practically impossible to get a good job, and I would hate the jobs I have. I hate working. I hate minimum wage, low-level paying jobs. I hate them. I’ve done them. I hate them. So university is the only real option I have to pick a career that I can at least be okay with. Architecture isn’t my passion or my dream, but it’s some passion. It could be some of my dream.
Studying at Kingston Uni just feels like every other school I’ve been to. I hate going to uni. I hate being around other people. I feel so much anxiety. I can see people just watching me, looking at me. I feel like every time I go there, I can’t breathe. Not even a little bit. I just can’t breathe. I feel like I made a bad impression on everyone else there, and I really regret it. They think I don’t work. I’m not smart. That’s probably true, but I’m just so filled with so much anxiety, I can’t do anything. I feel like I am just completely lost, completely scared. Everyone else is having banter, making good friends, and I’m just there. Unhappy.
People barely speak to me because they know, and I don’t know what to say to people. I don’t know how to be in such a big environment with so many people, so many boys. I feel like I’m out of my depth. Part of me wants to quit uni altogether, but I can’t. This is the best offer I have for university, so I’m lucky to be there even. I just need advice on how to deal with it.
I’m struggling. Anxiety is crippling. I can barely breathe when I’m in school. I can’t even breathe around my new friends, these new people. It’s so tense. I can’t relax
Please give me some advice on how to cope , and no I don’t want to use university resources.
Studying at Kingston Uni just feels like every other school I’ve been to. I hate going to uni. I hate being around other people. I feel so much anxiety. I can see people just watching me, looking at me. I feel like every time I go there, I can’t breathe. Not even a little bit. I just can’t breathe. I feel like I made a bad impression on everyone else there, and I really regret it. They think I don’t work. I’m not smart. That’s probably true, but I’m just so filled with so much anxiety, I can’t do anything. I feel like I am just completely lost, completely scared. Everyone else is having banter, making good friends, and I’m just there. Unhappy.
People barely speak to me because they know, and I don’t know what to say to people. I don’t know how to be in such a big environment with so many people, so many boys. I feel like I’m out of my depth. Part of me wants to quit uni altogether, but I can’t. This is the best offer I have for university, so I’m lucky to be there even. I just need advice on how to deal with it.
I’m struggling. Anxiety is crippling. I can barely breathe when I’m in school. I can’t even breathe around my new friends, these new people. It’s so tense. I can’t relax
Please give me some advice on how to cope , and no I don’t want to use university resources.
Why don't you want to use university support? Are you too scared to ask?
To me that just further reinforces the idea that you have crippling social anxiety. You NEED to talk to someone about it, ideally face to face. It's difficult but there really is no other way. Suffering in silence would just cause the problem to get worse. This something that can't be ran away from or avoided, only confronted head on.
To me that just further reinforces the idea that you have crippling social anxiety. You NEED to talk to someone about it, ideally face to face. It's difficult but there really is no other way. Suffering in silence would just cause the problem to get worse. This something that can't be ran away from or avoided, only confronted head on.
Original post by Anisa 🥲
I don’t like university. I haven’t been able to enjoy it. I feel completely alone. Completely. Nobody else there with me, really. I just feel like I have no other choice. I can’t quit uni, because the job market is already hard. I’ve seen what it’s like to try and even get a minimum wage job. It would be practically impossible to get a good job, and I would hate the jobs I have. I hate working. I hate minimum wage, low-level paying jobs. I hate them. I’ve done them. I hate them. So university is the only real option I have to pick a career that I can at least be okay with. Architecture isn’t my passion or my dream, but it’s some passion. It could be some of my dream.
Studying at Kingston Uni just feels like every other school I’ve been to. I hate going to uni. I hate being around other people. I feel so much anxiety. I can see people just watching me, looking at me. I feel like every time I go there, I can’t breathe. Not even a little bit. I just can’t breathe. I feel like I made a bad impression on everyone else there, and I really regret it. They think I don’t work. I’m not smart. That’s probably true, but I’m just so filled with so much anxiety, I can’t do anything. I feel like I am just completely lost, completely scared. Everyone else is having banter, making good friends, and I’m just there. Unhappy.
People barely speak to me because they know, and I don’t know what to say to people. I don’t know how to be in such a big environment with so many people, so many boys. I feel like I’m out of my depth. Part of me wants to quit uni altogether, but I can’t. This is the best offer I have for university, so I’m lucky to be there even. I just need advice on how to deal with it.
I’m struggling. Anxiety is crippling. I can barely breathe when I’m in school. I can’t even breathe around my new friends, these new people. It’s so tense. I can’t relax
Please give me some advice on how to cope , and no I don’t want to use university resources.
Studying at Kingston Uni just feels like every other school I’ve been to. I hate going to uni. I hate being around other people. I feel so much anxiety. I can see people just watching me, looking at me. I feel like every time I go there, I can’t breathe. Not even a little bit. I just can’t breathe. I feel like I made a bad impression on everyone else there, and I really regret it. They think I don’t work. I’m not smart. That’s probably true, but I’m just so filled with so much anxiety, I can’t do anything. I feel like I am just completely lost, completely scared. Everyone else is having banter, making good friends, and I’m just there. Unhappy.
People barely speak to me because they know, and I don’t know what to say to people. I don’t know how to be in such a big environment with so many people, so many boys. I feel like I’m out of my depth. Part of me wants to quit uni altogether, but I can’t. This is the best offer I have for university, so I’m lucky to be there even. I just need advice on how to deal with it.
I’m struggling. Anxiety is crippling. I can barely breathe when I’m in school. I can’t even breathe around my new friends, these new people. It’s so tense. I can’t relax
Please give me some advice on how to cope , and no I don’t want to use university resources.
Hey, I hear you, and I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. Uni can be tough, especially with the anxiety you're facing. You don’t have to have it all figured out right now. Start small like, maybe talk to one person or take breaks when things feel overwhelming. You’re not alone in this, even if it feels like it. If you ever need to talk or figure out next steps, I’m here to help😚
Original post by Anisa 🥲
I don’t like university. I haven’t been able to enjoy it. I feel completely alone. Completely. Nobody else there with me, really. I just feel like I have no other choice. I can’t quit uni, because the job market is already hard. I’ve seen what it’s like to try and even get a minimum wage job. It would be practically impossible to get a good job, and I would hate the jobs I have. I hate working. I hate minimum wage, low-level paying jobs. I hate them. I’ve done them. I hate them. So university is the only real option I have to pick a career that I can at least be okay with. Architecture isn’t my passion or my dream, but it’s some passion. It could be some of my dream.
Studying at Kingston Uni just feels like every other school I’ve been to. I hate going to uni. I hate being around other people. I feel so much anxiety. I can see people just watching me, looking at me. I feel like every time I go there, I can’t breathe. Not even a little bit. I just can’t breathe. I feel like I made a bad impression on everyone else there, and I really regret it. They think I don’t work. I’m not smart. That’s probably true, but I’m just so filled with so much anxiety, I can’t do anything. I feel like I am just completely lost, completely scared. Everyone else is having banter, making good friends, and I’m just there. Unhappy.
People barely speak to me because they know, and I don’t know what to say to people. I don’t know how to be in such a big environment with so many people, so many boys. I feel like I’m out of my depth. Part of me wants to quit uni altogether, but I can’t. This is the best offer I have for university, so I’m lucky to be there even. I just need advice on how to deal with it.
I’m struggling. Anxiety is crippling. I can barely breathe when I’m in school. I can’t even breathe around my new friends, these new people. It’s so tense. I can’t relax
Please give me some advice on how to cope , and no I don’t want to use university resources.
Studying at Kingston Uni just feels like every other school I’ve been to. I hate going to uni. I hate being around other people. I feel so much anxiety. I can see people just watching me, looking at me. I feel like every time I go there, I can’t breathe. Not even a little bit. I just can’t breathe. I feel like I made a bad impression on everyone else there, and I really regret it. They think I don’t work. I’m not smart. That’s probably true, but I’m just so filled with so much anxiety, I can’t do anything. I feel like I am just completely lost, completely scared. Everyone else is having banter, making good friends, and I’m just there. Unhappy.
People barely speak to me because they know, and I don’t know what to say to people. I don’t know how to be in such a big environment with so many people, so many boys. I feel like I’m out of my depth. Part of me wants to quit uni altogether, but I can’t. This is the best offer I have for university, so I’m lucky to be there even. I just need advice on how to deal with it.
I’m struggling. Anxiety is crippling. I can barely breathe when I’m in school. I can’t even breathe around my new friends, these new people. It’s so tense. I can’t relax
Please give me some advice on how to cope , and no I don’t want to use university resources.
Hey!
Sorry you feel this way- University can be extremely challenging when it comes to starting over again and not like it seems on social media!
With the anxiety you say you are feeling, I would definitely recommend getting in touch with your lecturer or our care team as both options will be able to support you and have you best interests at heart. My friends too were reluctant to use these resources but have found them so useful and uni lecturers are extremely helpful when taking care of students.
With friends, I found it difficult at the beginning too, struggling with making first impressions. It is good to remember that everyone else is all in the same boat and a lot of the people in my class can't even remember the first few weeks of talking to anyone as they were so nervous themselves! I found that after a while I started becoming friendly with people in my accommodation, joining societies and meeting people through student jobs you can apply for within the university.
I hope this helped and I am happy to answer any questions
-Yasmin (Kingston Rep)
Original post by Anisa 🥲
I don’t like university. I haven’t been able to enjoy it. I feel completely alone. Completely. Nobody else there with me, really. I just feel like I have no other choice. I can’t quit uni, because the job market is already hard. I’ve seen what it’s like to try and even get a minimum wage job. It would be practically impossible to get a good job, and I would hate the jobs I have. I hate working. I hate minimum wage, low-level paying jobs. I hate them. I’ve done them. I hate them. So university is the only real option I have to pick a career that I can at least be okay with. Architecture isn’t my passion or my dream, but it’s some passion. It could be some of my dream.
Studying at Kingston Uni just feels like every other school I’ve been to. I hate going to uni. I hate being around other people. I feel so much anxiety. I can see people just watching me, looking at me. I feel like every time I go there, I can’t breathe. Not even a little bit. I just can’t breathe. I feel like I made a bad impression on everyone else there, and I really regret it. They think I don’t work. I’m not smart. That’s probably true, but I’m just so filled with so much anxiety, I can’t do anything. I feel like I am just completely lost, completely scared. Everyone else is having banter, making good friends, and I’m just there. Unhappy.
People barely speak to me because they know, and I don’t know what to say to people. I don’t know how to be in such a big environment with so many people, so many boys. I feel like I’m out of my depth. Part of me wants to quit uni altogether, but I can’t. This is the best offer I have for university, so I’m lucky to be there even. I just need advice on how to deal with it.
I’m struggling. Anxiety is crippling. I can barely breathe when I’m in school. I can’t even breathe around my new friends, these new people. It’s so tense. I can’t relax
Please give me some advice on how to cope , and no I don’t want to use university resources.
Studying at Kingston Uni just feels like every other school I’ve been to. I hate going to uni. I hate being around other people. I feel so much anxiety. I can see people just watching me, looking at me. I feel like every time I go there, I can’t breathe. Not even a little bit. I just can’t breathe. I feel like I made a bad impression on everyone else there, and I really regret it. They think I don’t work. I’m not smart. That’s probably true, but I’m just so filled with so much anxiety, I can’t do anything. I feel like I am just completely lost, completely scared. Everyone else is having banter, making good friends, and I’m just there. Unhappy.
People barely speak to me because they know, and I don’t know what to say to people. I don’t know how to be in such a big environment with so many people, so many boys. I feel like I’m out of my depth. Part of me wants to quit uni altogether, but I can’t. This is the best offer I have for university, so I’m lucky to be there even. I just need advice on how to deal with it.
I’m struggling. Anxiety is crippling. I can barely breathe when I’m in school. I can’t even breathe around my new friends, these new people. It’s so tense. I can’t relax
Please give me some advice on how to cope , and no I don’t want to use university resources.
Hi there,
This sounds like a really tough situation. I would really recommend you talking to the student support services at uni as they will be able to help you and support you in this situation. They will be used to seeing lots of different people who feel like this, so don't be afraid to reach out to them as this is their job and they will want to help you. If you are feeing anxious, it is best to talk to someone and I think this would be a big help.
If you don't want to talk to the support team, maybe talk to your personal tutor if you have one of these, or just one of your tutors if you have one you would feel comfortable taking to about how you feel. It is a good idea and getting your feelings out can really help. This also means they can then support you and if you are feeling like you want to quit, they can help you with feeling better at uni and can support your as much as they can with your work which might help you to feel more on top of things and less anxious.
If you really don't want to use the university resources, make sure you are talking to your friends and family about how you are feeling as I have always found this helps and it helps to feel like you are not alone.
Try and take things one day at a time and just focus on what tasks you have to do that day. Try and remember that everyone is in the same boat being new to uni and lots more people will be struggling than might show it. You are not alone and you won't have made a bad impression so don't worry about this. You meet so many people during freshers week and just at uni in general, so trust me people will not remember you for making a bad impression!
I hope things get better for you,
Lucy -SHU student ambassador.
Original post by Anisa 🥲
I don’t like university. I haven’t been able to enjoy it. I feel completely alone. Completely. Nobody else there with me, really. I just feel like I have no other choice. I can’t quit uni, because the job market is already hard. I’ve seen what it’s like to try and even get a minimum wage job. It would be practically impossible to get a good job, and I would hate the jobs I have. I hate working. I hate minimum wage, low-level paying jobs. I hate them. I’ve done them. I hate them. So university is the only real option I have to pick a career that I can at least be okay with. Architecture isn’t my passion or my dream, but it’s some passion. It could be some of my dream.
Studying at Kingston Uni just feels like every other school I’ve been to. I hate going to uni. I hate being around other people. I feel so much anxiety. I can see people just watching me, looking at me. I feel like every time I go there, I can’t breathe. Not even a little bit. I just can’t breathe. I feel like I made a bad impression on everyone else there, and I really regret it. They think I don’t work. I’m not smart. That’s probably true, but I’m just so filled with so much anxiety, I can’t do anything. I feel like I am just completely lost, completely scared. Everyone else is having banter, making good friends, and I’m just there. Unhappy.
People barely speak to me because they know, and I don’t know what to say to people. I don’t know how to be in such a big environment with so many people, so many boys. I feel like I’m out of my depth. Part of me wants to quit uni altogether, but I can’t. This is the best offer I have for university, so I’m lucky to be there even. I just need advice on how to deal with it.
I’m struggling. Anxiety is crippling. I can barely breathe when I’m in school. I can’t even breathe around my new friends, these new people. It’s so tense. I can’t relax
Please give me some advice on how to cope , and no I don’t want to use university resources.
Studying at Kingston Uni just feels like every other school I’ve been to. I hate going to uni. I hate being around other people. I feel so much anxiety. I can see people just watching me, looking at me. I feel like every time I go there, I can’t breathe. Not even a little bit. I just can’t breathe. I feel like I made a bad impression on everyone else there, and I really regret it. They think I don’t work. I’m not smart. That’s probably true, but I’m just so filled with so much anxiety, I can’t do anything. I feel like I am just completely lost, completely scared. Everyone else is having banter, making good friends, and I’m just there. Unhappy.
People barely speak to me because they know, and I don’t know what to say to people. I don’t know how to be in such a big environment with so many people, so many boys. I feel like I’m out of my depth. Part of me wants to quit uni altogether, but I can’t. This is the best offer I have for university, so I’m lucky to be there even. I just need advice on how to deal with it.
I’m struggling. Anxiety is crippling. I can barely breathe when I’m in school. I can’t even breathe around my new friends, these new people. It’s so tense. I can’t relax
Please give me some advice on how to cope , and no I don’t want to use university resources.
I hope you are doing better. Can you talk to your parents about how you are feeling?
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