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I need help

I am in me mid 30s and have a girlfriend.

My father is 68 and has the full state pension, two private pensions and another income.

He has his mortgage paid off, saves £400 per week, has his daughter married off and more.

I cater for his needs.

My sister has just moved out brought has her own place with his partner.

He moans, complains, argues.

He says I do not get married and don't need to and moans to people I am not married. I can just have a gf. He doesn't listen.

People say why don't you marry so she can cook for my father.

I don't understand.

They may it look like a sacrifice, don't have what I wish. Something bigger than it really is. It's like don't have someone I like,just have someone to do domestic chores.

So I have to sacrifice and my partner has to sacrifice? It means I marry not for myself?

He is still in good health.

I understand small sacrifices have to be made. I can get someone if need be to drop meals off. He doesn't listen.

Should my sister start helping? He doesn't do nothing with the £400 he saves per week, he doesn't really go out.

I think it's extremely unfair if I was to sacrifice my life, my potential married life.
Original post by Anonymous
I am in me mid 30s and have a girlfriend.
My father is 68 and has the full state pension, two private pensions and another income.
He has his mortgage paid off, saves £400 per week, has his daughter married off and more.
I cater for his needs.
My sister has just moved out brought has her own place with his partner.
He moans, complains, argues.
He says I do not get married and don't need to and moans to people I am not married. I can just have a gf. He doesn't listen.
People say why don't you marry so she can cook for my father.
I don't understand.
They may it look like a sacrifice, don't have what I wish. Something bigger than it really is. It's like don't have someone I like,just have someone to do domestic chores.
So I have to sacrifice and my partner has to sacrifice? It means I marry not for myself?
He is still in good health.
I understand small sacrifices have to be made. I can get someone if need be to drop meals off. He doesn't listen.
Should my sister start helping? He doesn't do nothing with the £400 he saves per week, he doesn't really go out.
I think it's extremely unfair if I was to sacrifice my life, my potential married life.

I Honestly believe you guys are both adults who cares if he is your father if you can support yourself and you love the girl then go for it he is in good health and is complaining about nothing you cant close a new chapter of your life wondering how it would've went for somebody who complains about stuff that is no concern to them do what makes you happy

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