Relationship

Hi, I’m looking for advice on an issue in my relationship.
This isn’t an insecurity thing before I start…
Basically my partner has a job who is surrounded by women his age and men and they do a lot of work outings. Days out, nights away as the group but I just can’t seem to be ok with him doing these things with other women.
Yes there is a tiny bit of doubt where cheating comes into this but I want to try and be better in these situations. I just don’t like the idea of my bf living his life doing these really good activities, going posh places just experiencing these things in life with other women and I don’t get to.
Is it understandable for me to feel like this?? If so how do I just chill about it??

So what you have is a problem with your boyfriend achieving employment in a great job. Were these 'good activities and posh places' on a 'to-do' list for you before he started working, or are you only bothering about them now he's doing them? Would it matter if he was only going with men, because he's still experiencing it all?
And if there's activities you want to do with your boyfriend, why not discuss it with him and organise them?

I think it is perfectly normal to feel like this and there is no one way to be chill bout it maybe bring up your concerns to his to gain some reassurance

I have plenty of times but I just kinda get dismissed, basically says he can’t do anything about it etc

Its ok, is normal to feel it bit unsure about your boyfriend go out an doing stuff with other women. Has there been any indication that he may use the occasion as a opportunity to cheat or has already done so? If not then you just need to trust him. Maybe speak to him about how your feeling so he can reassure you.

i dont know then if he really keeps dismissing it maybe ask somebody who he works with if he is cheating

It’s not the cheating, that’s not what my post is about.. it’s about trying to feel comfortable with him doing these things and hoping to find ways that are valid enough for him to understand. He’s never the type to cheat and never has, he’s just not that person and he defo woukdnt cheat with a Co worker either

Hi, I’m looking for advice on an issue in my relationship.
This isn’t an insecurity thing before I start…
Basically my partner has a job who is surrounded by women his age and men and they do a lot of work outings. Days out, nights away as the group but I just can’t seem to be ok with him doing these things with other women.
Yes there is a tiny bit of doubt where cheating comes into this but I want to try and be better in these situations. I just don’t like the idea of my bf living his life doing these really good activities, going posh places just experiencing these things in life with other women and I don’t get to.
Is it understandable for me to feel like this?? If so how do I just chill about it??

He’s been in this job industry for years now, I’ve been with him for 3 and never had him doing things like this with work.
I would still feel annoyed him doing it with me, like I said it’s not an insecurity thing! I’m just pointing out the fact I don’t like my partner who I have a child wigh going out experiencing life with these females which makes me feel uncomfortable.
We don’t plan doing these activities etc bcos we can’t afford it so what I find hard is that I work so much and I don’t get to do these things while he just gets given it on a plate.
That’s my issue, not sure why you’re trying to make out like it’s just about the women when even if it was, there’s nothing wrong with me feeling insecure about it when everyone feels insecure about something?