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Are men okay? Why so much misogyny online?

Yes, misandry is also common, but whenever I go on social media, I notice there is a concerning amount of misogyny, where men make highly sexist and hateful remarks about women, and receive hundreds and thousands of likes.

Men make comments about women hitting the wall- but we don't see women saying the same to men. Men mock women that they will die alone with cats, if they don't lower their standards, but in the same breath will judge women for not picking better or tell them to pick from their "friend zone", when they have trouble meeting a quality man. Meanwhile, we don't see women pester men about dying alone nor telling men to check their "**** zone" for quality women who are worth settling down with.

Men also seem to believe they have the right to police what other women wear, calling her a 304 simply because she has on shorts and a crop top. Modest women and virgins seem to be pedestalized as wife material, yet the types of women who get the most attention, follows and likes are IG models, OF girls and fun time girls. We live in a world where women are damned if they do, damned if they don't because our societies generally hate women, and misogyny is embedded in our toxic systems. I believe misandry only exists as a product of misogyny
Original post by Nellyb96
Yes, misandry is also common, but whenever I go on social media, I notice there is a concerning amount of misogyny, where men make highly sexist and hateful remarks about women, and receive hundreds and thousands of likes.
Men make comments about women hitting the wall- but we don't see women saying the same to men. Men mock women that they will die alone with cats, if they don't lower their standards, but in the same breath will judge women for not picking better or tell them to pick from their "friend zone", when they have trouble meeting a quality man. Meanwhile, we don't see women pester men about dying alone nor telling men to check their "**** zone" for quality women who are worth settling down with.
Men also seem to believe they have the right to police what other women wear, calling her a 304 simply because she has on shorts and a crop top. Modest women and virgins seem to be pedestalized as wife material, yet the types of women who get the most attention, follows and likes are IG models, OF girls and fun time girls. We live in a world where women are damned if they do, damned if they don't because our societies generally hate women, and misogyny is embedded in our toxic systems. I believe misandry only exists as a product of misogyny

"Whenever I go on social media..."

I think I see the problem here. You've fallen victim to social media algorithms. Essentially, social media platforms have one goal: the retention of user attention through any means possible. They've realised that you interact with or are infuriated by misogynistic content, and so are recommending it to you. Hence the term 'echo chambers'. I don't blame you for falling into this trap, since many men have also fallen down it. Many young men also believe society hates men (hence the rise of Andrew Tate, Donald Trump and Nigel Farage.)

You need to realise that things promoted by social media can be harmful but also unreflective of what society really is. Do you really think that our society "hates women." Really?
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Original post by Rob Bellic
"Whenever I go on social media..."
I think I see the problem here. You've fallen victim to social media algorithms. Essentially, social media platforms have one goal: the retention of user attention through any means possible. They've realised that you interact with or are infuriated by misogynistic content, and so are recommending it to you. Hence the term 'echo chambers'. I don't blame you for falling into this trap, since many men have also fallen down it. Many young men also believe society hates men (hence the rise of Andrew Tate, Donald Trump and Nigel Farage.)
You need to realise that things promoted by social media can be harmful but also unreflective of what society really is. Do you really think that our society "hates women." Really?

This is a very interesting point. Thank you. And yes I do believe many men do not like women, especially heterosexual men. An example: In USA the most popular and followed religion is Christianity, and one of the first things taught is that a woman is the cause of all of the pain and suffering of the world, because Eve ate an apple.

The internet is a place where people feel free to say the most unhinged things they'd never say irl to peoples faces. Considering that soo many men feel free to share their contempt of women online, this makes me think how many of these men do I personally know and men I interact with irl share these beliefs
Original post by Rob Bellic
"Whenever I go on social media..."
I think I see the problem here. You've fallen victim to social media algorithms. Essentially, social media platforms have one goal: the retention of user attention through any means possible. They've realised that you interact with or are infuriated by misogynistic content, and so are recommending it to you. Hence the term 'echo chambers'. I don't blame you for falling into this trap, since many men have also fallen down it. Many young men also believe society hates men (hence the rise of Andrew Tate, Donald Trump and Nigel Farage.)
You need to realise that things promoted by social media can be harmful but also unreflective of what society really is. Do you really think that our society "hates women." Really?

Pretty much what I was going to say. Everyone's social medias experience is different, this content is out there, but the more you look at and get outraged the more the algorithm shows you. My social media sure isn't full of this stuff.

OP the amount of this you seem to see online isn't representative of the actual population, also when you say 'You don't see women doing this...' it's wishful thinking, if you look for it you'll find a minority of women talking outlandish man hating venom just the same.

Also, uh, your view of Christianity and use of it to explain your point is a bit... extreme? again I think you're focussing on a very small but loud minority of weirdos - I was raised Christian and live in the largely Christian UK but I was never told any variation of 'this is all woman's fault' 😅 even going by the Adam & Eve example, I don't think anyone ever really claims there wasn't pretty much the same chance of Adam being talked into picking the apple, and he knew the rules just fine when he ate it. If Eve was born of Adams rib in a place of innocence, then she shouldn't have been inherently any more suspect to temptation or corruption than Adam.
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Original post by StriderHort
Pretty much what I was going to say. Everyone's social medias experience is different, this content is out there, but the more you look at and get outraged the more the algorithm shows you. My social media sure isn't full of this stuff.
OP the amount of this you seem to see online isn't representative of the actual population, also when you say 'You don't see women doing this...' it's wishful thinking, if you look for it you'll find a minority of women talking outlandish man hating venom just the same.
Also, uh, your view of Christianity and use of it to explain your point is a bit... extreme? again I think you're focussing on a very small but loud minority of weirdos - I was raised Christian and live in the largely Christian UK but I was never told any variation of 'this is all woman's fault' 😅 even going by the Adam & Eve example, I don't think anyone ever really claims there wasn't pretty much the same chance of Adam being talked into picking the apple, and he knew the rules just fine when he ate it. If Eve was born of Adams rib in a place of innocence, then she shouldn't have been inherently any more suspect to temptation or corruption than Adam.

Thank you
Original post by Nellyb96
Yes, misandry is also common, but whenever I go on social media, I notice there is a concerning amount of misogyny, where men make highly sexist and hateful remarks about women, and receive hundreds and thousands of likes.
Men make comments about women hitting the wall- but we don't see women saying the same to men. Men mock women that they will die alone with cats, if they don't lower their standards, but in the same breath will judge women for not picking better or tell them to pick from their "friend zone", when they have trouble meeting a quality man. Meanwhile, we don't see women pester men about dying alone nor telling men to check their "**** zone" for quality women who are worth settling down with.
Men also seem to believe they have the right to police what other women wear, calling her a 304 simply because she has on shorts and a crop top. Modest women and virgins seem to be pedestalized as wife material, yet the types of women who get the most attention, follows and likes are IG models, OF girls and fun time girls. We live in a world where women are damned if they do, damned if they don't because our societies generally hate women, and misogyny is embedded in our toxic systems. I believe misandry only exists as a product of misogyny

If you go online you can find any group of people who hate anyone really, including some men who hate women.

My question is, why do you even care what these people think? Just live your life as you do, and if that results in some basement-dwellers calling you a "304" or not pedestalising you as wife material... oh well?
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Original post by Nellyb96
This is a very interesting point. Thank you. And yes I do believe many men do not like women, especially heterosexual men. An example: In USA the most popular and followed religion is Christianity, and one of the first things taught is that a woman is the cause of all of the pain and suffering of the world, because Eve ate an apple.
The internet is a place where people feel free to say the most unhinged things they'd never say irl to peoples faces. Considering that soo many men feel free to share their contempt of women online, this makes me think how many of these men do I personally know and men I interact with irl share these beliefs

Certainly a unique view to take on your 3rd sentence. Simply put, if we take your 'logic' then all women hate men, all whites hate blacks, all blacks hate Asians and so on so forth. Ignoring the fact that a sample of one is completely ignorable (and should be) you are looking at sites and posts you would normally look at i.e. little more than an echo chamber. It rather points to the issue being that you are probably surfing the wrong sorts of people, sites etc.

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