Close friend moving away to university?
I have become good, close friends with someone who's down to start uni, meaning I won't get to see them that often. While I support them in doing what they want (and I've told them this), I am a bit scared that he'll forget about me once he goes.
I know it's important for people to choose the route that's best for them, however I don't make friends easily and now that I've found someone who I do get on well with, they're about to embark on their next chapter.
I guess what I'm saying is, can I still be good friends with this person even though they're going to university? I did raise this with them and they assured me we would but I hear stories all the time about people who drift apart from others and that uni friends are the most important.
I know it's important for people to choose the route that's best for them, however I don't make friends easily and now that I've found someone who I do get on well with, they're about to embark on their next chapter.
I guess what I'm saying is, can I still be good friends with this person even though they're going to university? I did raise this with them and they assured me we would but I hear stories all the time about people who drift apart from others and that uni friends are the most important.
Original post by Anonymous
I have become good, close friends with someone who's down to start uni, meaning I won't get to see them that often. While I support them in doing what they want (and I've told them this), I am a bit scared that he'll forget about me once he goes.
I know it's important for people to choose the route that's best for them, however I don't make friends easily and now that I've found someone who I do get on well with, they're about to embark on their next chapter.
I guess what I'm saying is, can I still be good friends with this person even though they're going to university? I did raise this with them and they assured me we would but I hear stories all the time about people who drift apart from others and that uni friends are the most important.
I know it's important for people to choose the route that's best for them, however I don't make friends easily and now that I've found someone who I do get on well with, they're about to embark on their next chapter.
I guess what I'm saying is, can I still be good friends with this person even though they're going to university? I did raise this with them and they assured me we would but I hear stories all the time about people who drift apart from others and that uni friends are the most important.
I totally get it. Starting uni can make it feel like friendships might slip away, but don't stress too much! The fact that you've already had a chat and they've reassured you is a big plus.
Keeping a strong bond just takes a little effort on both sides. Stay in touch with regular video calls or messages to keep updated on each other’s lives. Organize visits whenever possible—those weekend trips can be a blast. Do activities you both love, even if it’s online gaming or a virtual book club. Be genuinely interested in their new experiences at uni.
Understand that things might shift a bit, and that's okay. Real friendships adapt and grow. New friends don't replace old ones; they just add to the circle. You've got a solid friendship—trust in that, and put in a little effort to keep it strong. You've got this! 🌟
Original post by Anonymous
I have become good, close friends with someone who's down to start uni, meaning I won't get to see them that often. While I support them in doing what they want (and I've told them this), I am a bit scared that he'll forget about me once he goes.
I know it's important for people to choose the route that's best for them, however I don't make friends easily and now that I've found someone who I do get on well with, they're about to embark on their next chapter.
I guess what I'm saying is, can I still be good friends with this person even though they're going to university? I did raise this with them and they assured me we would but I hear stories all the time about people who drift apart from others and that uni friends are the most important.
I know it's important for people to choose the route that's best for them, however I don't make friends easily and now that I've found someone who I do get on well with, they're about to embark on their next chapter.
I guess what I'm saying is, can I still be good friends with this person even though they're going to university? I did raise this with them and they assured me we would but I hear stories all the time about people who drift apart from others and that uni friends are the most important.
Hi @Anonymous#1
I have kind of experienced both sides of this - I did a gap year so had some of my friends move to uni and then I moved to university away from some of my friends. When I was on my gap year, I always made plans to see my friends when they came home. I also visited one of them at their university. Since starting university, I usually see my friends whenever I go back and enjoy getting to spend time with them.
In answer to your question, I would say yes you can definitely still be good friends with the person. Your forms of communication and how often you see each other might change but you can still be friends.
Hope that helps!
Sophie.
BCU Student Rep.
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