Rejected a woman because she had a child, now not sure of my decision

Hmmm this is a really deep one. so if i'm to get you right, you rejected her because she has a child and you are childless.?
Are you sure that's why or because you think the child will not accept you.
Either way, no one can decide whether you made the right decision except you. People can only give opinions.
However, if you think you don't want her because of the child, i'd advise you think really deep about it and make sure that later on you won't regret your decision but if you don't want her because you think the child will not accept you, you can talk to her about it and try to build a strong bond/ connection with the child and see the child as your own because you can't love the mother and hate the child in this case they are one and you can't separate them by taking one and ignoring the other

I have done that myself, I absolutely despise children.

I don't think hers would be a best though,if it's anything like her the opposite

Yes I am childless she has one child. Thanks for the advice.

I don't want children no, it's too complicated. Her and I are too old to do that now anyhow. I feel that her having had a kid with a guy complicates things. I'm not sure if the guys even still around actually. But yeah the child would need a lot of attention at least for the next ten years, I mean at least ten years until she's 18 I think. It's not the same as being on a level playing field and both being childless

This is an older persons issue but I don't know where to post some young people are wise. I rejected a woman because she has a child. Now I'm not sure if my decision because she is a rarity and absolutely lovely, we had some really sincere conversation and were both into it it looked promising. But I got cold feet because she had a kid and I am childless. Have I made the right decision?

Are you afraid Of being a father or something of that matter if you really love and care about her and you only backed out because of the kid is it because you don't think you will be a good father or you don't think the kid will like you I would just like some elaboration you don't have to if you don't want to but I need to know why the child affects the relationship before I can give a proper helpful answer

It's pretty easy to challenge a lot of this. At your age (I'm guessing roughly 35-40) any women that you meet is going to have a significant amount of background, friends, former partners and so on. They will have lived a lot of their life before meeting you, so there will always be people who know them better, knew them first, and shared significant and intimate experiences with them. They will also have more obligations, demands, and quirks than younger people because they have lived longer. There's generally more to adjust to when you're dating at a younger age.
For me, children are one of those things that can naturally be added to that mix. Is a child a significant obligation? Of course. Is it a significant obligation on you as a new partner? To a degree. There's always an obligation on you when you're interacting and spending time with someone else's child, particularly as a new partner. There is potential for you to become that child's family. I don't necessarily see how that complicates things, because as I say, there will always be family and friends of hers that you meet and interact with, and she will always have other obligations in terms of career, interests and so on even if she didn't have a child. I also think you're over estimating the time obligation. If this was a newborn then that's different, but an 8 year old will also her own hobbies and interests. You won't suddenly become a full time father. Your partner would be well used to being a single parent, and would naturally introduce you gradually rather than suddenly making you her new parent. Equally, her daughter may spend some time with her father, but that doesn't place any obligation on you. In fact it does the opposite, as it would give you two more time alone. I get the thoughts around your partner having had a child with another man, but at your age any woman you date will have likely had a notable number of partners. The fact of one of those resulting in a child is just, again, something that can happen.
All of that said, I am saying that to you as someone who has children with my wife, and we've been together since we were teenagers. My circumstances are different and my experiences, both in my relationship and in having children, are different. It would not be right of me to dismiss your concerns simply because I have had children and enjoy having children, because we're different people. I'm also not naive enough to think that my experience of having several children means you won't have an issue with one who is not your own. If you don't want to have children and don't want to be involved with children, that is your choice.
At the same time, I do agree with Strider that if I was to guess, this is something that you may regret. To my mind the more sensible approach to take, particularly given what else you've said about her, would be to pursue this, and if you simply cannot get on board with her having a child, or there are other complications such as with her ex, then break it off at that point. But it does seem to be that the decision was at least premature. In your position I would have least had given it a chance. If it's still an option, I'd seriously consider going back and seeing if you can pick things up again. The worst that happens is that after a relatively short time your concerns are realised and you break up. But it seems to me that there is a decent chance that this doesn't play out how you accept, that having a partner with a child isn't the negative experience you think it is, and that you end in a long term relationship with a wonderful partner. To my mind, I think that's worth taking a chance on.

Just that how could we be together alone when the kid has needs? And yeah I don't want the added complication of trying to get on with the kid, not that I'm saying it's a bad kid.

Just that how could we be together alone when the kid has needs? And yeah I don't want the added complication of trying to get on with the kid, not that I'm saying it's a bad kid.

This is an older persons issue but I don't know where to post some young people are wise. I rejected a woman because she has a child. Now I'm not sure if my decision because she is a rarity and absolutely lovely, we had some really sincere conversation and were both into it it looked promising. But I got cold feet because she had a kid and I am childless. Have I made the right decision?