My GF has mentioned having children for the second time?

Second time she's mentioned wanting to have children - not now, she says, but she would like children with me.

I told her that it's what I'd like too, but we'd have to be in a suitable environment (a bigger place, etc...)

Why is she asking me about children?

Reply 1

StriderHort

Why wouldn't she? people often talk about what they want to do in the future, and if you've said its also what you want, surly it's a shared goal to be discussed?

Did you think it was just never going to be mentioned again until these unspecified conditions are met? :confused:

Reply 2

Rakas21

Original post by Anonymous

Second time she's mentioned wanting to have children - not now, she says, but she would like children with me.
I told her that it's what I'd like too, but we'd have to be in a suitable environment (a bigger place, etc...)
Why is she asking me about children?

Women like to 'nest' and think of things like marriage and babies long before they may be practical.

It's generally a good thing (it means she views you as having long term potential to father her progeny) and is simply the result of delayed parenting being a modern social invention that cannot overcome instinct at a mental level. Back in the caves or pre WW2 society, the norm was pretty much to get at it once together (which would have been months rather than years).

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Reply 3

Anonymous #2

I'd be flattered, knowing modern women, that she doesn't think the grass is greener somewhere else. That she wants that with you. You might have a keeper.

Reply 4

anosmianAcrimony

It sounds like she's considering you as a long-term option. You wouldn't want to get into a relationship with a person who didn't want kids, if you eventually wanted kids. It's one of the major dealbreakers along with attitudes towards money, sex, religion, hygiene etc