My first relationship problem EVER haha

Ok so here's the story...

When I started yr12 mid of last yr there was this guy in my class I had an instant crush on. He's literally the definition of tall, dark and handsome. and I'm not even exaggerating. I would categorize him as a sort of bad-boy type cuz he's friends with the bad boys of the school and they ride bikes and have tats (lol), but he's super smart (like 74/75 in every math test smart) and spends a lot of his time in the library studying. He's like a toned down bad boy.

Around the beginning of the yr I noticed he started hanging around this other girl who's the DEFENITION of beautiful. She's literally perfect (ya'll might have another definition of perfect but I'm going by my own definition).

Anyway, they've been tgt for almost a year now, but I notice that he always watches me out of the corner of his eye. Whenever I drop my pen he's always very quick to pick it up for me. During physics lab when I'm having trouble with something he comes over to help me and if needed he spends most of the lab helping me instead of doing his own experiment.

I keep telling myself that it's nothing and that he has a gf and that I shouldn't overthink (cuz I tend to do that a lot)

Thing is, we technically aren't friends cuz we don't talk AT ALL. I know a few of his friends cuz we've done group projects tgt and he kinda knows that.

We're graduating from college at the end of this year and idk how to feel.

What do ya'll think about this? Am I overthinking??? Does he want to be friends or smth???

Reply 1

ViviPanda

I see a lot of people writing paragraphs and paragraphs of their relationship issues and I was determined not to do that. as someone who doesn't have the patience to read so much in one post, I made my story short and sweet for ya'll :hat2:

Reply 2

anosmianAcrimony

The main thing is that he's got a girlfriend (I assume you're sure that he's got a girlfriend). If that's true then what he wants from you is pretty clear - friends at most.

If you want to be better friends with him, then proactively talk to him more and suggest fun things to do together. If you don't want to be better friends with him (perhaps because crushing on him all the time when he's already attached could be uncomfortable) then that's totally valid too.

Reply 3

anosmianAcrimony

Also I'm gonna be honest, it sounds like you're crushing on his girlfriend too 😝

Reply 4

ViviPanda

Original post by anosmianAcrimony

Also I'm gonna be honest, it sounds like you're crushing on his girlfriend too 😝

yoooo no way. i'm just describing her!!!

Reply 5

Dunnig Kruger

This guy matters far less than what lessons you can learn from your interactions or lack of interactions with him.

You getting the skills to attract and retain a good quality boyfriend is far more important than whether you have a boyfriend at this time.

The 2 main skills you should be working on now are your social skills, especially your woman to man social skills.

And your taking action skills.

You can improve both of these significantly overnight by you deciding to take yourself and your life far less seriously than you have done up till now.

Start talking to this guy. And to a lot more people than you have been.
Fill your life with so much action that you don't have time to think. You just go ahead and do.
Become less trapped in your head and focus more on the things and the people around you.
Live for your own approval. Instead of living for the approval of others.

Reply 6

Emily's Teapot

If it doesn't work out can you introduce me to him? 😉

Reply 7

ilovejeongin143

Original post by ViviPanda

Ok so here's the story...
When I started yr12 mid of last yr there was this guy in my class I had an instant crush on. He's literally the definition of tall, dark and handsome. and I'm not even exaggerating. I would categorize him as a sort of bad-boy type cuz he's friends with the bad boys of the school and they ride bikes and have tats (lol), but he's super smart (like 74/75 in every math test smart) and spends a lot of his time in the library studying. He's like a toned down bad boy.
Around the beginning of the yr I noticed he started hanging around this other girl who's the DEFENITION of beautiful. She's literally perfect (ya'll might have another definition of perfect but I'm going by my own definition).
Anyway, they've been tgt for almost a year now, but I notice that he always watches me out of the corner of his eye. Whenever I drop my pen he's always very quick to pick it up for me. During physics lab when I'm having trouble with something he comes over to help me and if needed he spends most of the lab helping me instead of doing his own experiment.
I keep telling myself that it's nothing and that he has a gf and that I shouldn't overthink (cuz I tend to do that a lot)
Thing is, we technically aren't friends cuz we don't talk AT ALL. I know a few of his friends cuz we've done group projects tgt and he kinda knows that.
We're graduating from college at the end of this year and idk how to feel.
What do ya'll think about this? Am I overthinking??? Does he want to be friends or smth???

You need to keep reminding yourself that you're crushing on a taken man. As for the actions such as picking your pen up for you and helping you with work, he's literally just being nice. If you want to be friends with him, start talking to him but do not approach him with romantic intentions because that man is taken.

Reply 8

the bear

the important thing is to communicate by talking. passionate glances are all very well, but you need to use the medium of speech for things to progress.

:hat2:

Reply 9