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How do you choose your friends? Do you gravitate to people who are similar to you or is it mixture, otherwise you would run out of things to say?

Do all social groups share same thoughts? - Who actually braves the boundaries of the norm and talk to someone they would not usually?

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How do you choose your friends? Do you gravitate to people who are similar to you or is it mixture, otherwise you would run out of things to say?

Do all social groups share same thoughts? - Who actually braves the boundaries of the norm and talk to someone they would not usually?

(Just curious what other people think on the subject )
With good friends, the former definitely applies - they are the people who hold most sway over your emotions (you have the biggest fights with them, etc.). That isn't to say you can't get on well with people who are different, but (in my personal experience), I form much stronger friendships with people who are similar to me.

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How do you choose your friends? Do you gravitate to people who are similar to you or is it mixture, otherwise you would run out of things to say?

Do all social groups share same thoughts? - Who actually braves the boundaries of the norm and talk to someone they would not usually?

(Just curious what other people think on the subject )
I don't think you can ever really choose friends to start with. I feel people are draw to each other. Whether or not its smile that starts the conversation or they happened to be there a the time when you are with others. I have friends who are far different from me, different cultures, education and very different likes. This I think makes for more variety. You can share experiences and learn from others different from yourself.
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How do you choose your friends? Do you gravitate to people who are similar to you or is it mixture, otherwise you would run out of things to say?

Do all social groups share same thoughts? - Who actually braves the boundaries of the norm and talk to someone they would not usually?

(Just curious what other people think on the subject )

I would never make ceratin friends, eg. chavs, chavs and chavs because... well just becase.

Most of my friends are similar to me in mixture, but with some room for idividuality. You might say that we are all not interested in the same things, e.g. none of us are paritcularly interested in sporting matters, but we are all similar

We just met each other in mass conglomeration where different groups combined to make one large group.
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With good friends, the former definitely applies - they are the people who hold most sway over your emotions (you have the biggest fights with them, etc.). That isn't to say you can't get on well with people who are different, but (in my personal experience), I form much stronger friendships with people who are similar to me.
Oddly enough I don't find this. Some of my closest friends are very different to me. Also the most powerful relationships I've had (and generally I'm still friends with my ex's) have been with people who are completely different. For example, I am an A grade student (most of the time ) ; some of my friends are also like that, whereas some have never got an A in their lives and couldn't care less about it! Some of my friends do class A's like they were candy, whereas others protest against all drugs. My friends come from different backgrounds and have had different experiences, and accepting them as they are and learning about their ways of viewing things has made me a far more rounded person (I think..)

There's really only one thing I look for in my friends and that's loyalty. I need to know I can completely trust them. The other thing I appreciate is their time.. most of my friends lead busy lives, but it's nice when they take half an hour out to chat or even just sit and think together..

My loyalty and time are also things that I give to them..obviously.

(I actually visualise my friends as electrons in orbitals about a nucleus, or possibly planets in a solar system. I am at the heart of it and some of them are closer than others. A couple have eliptical orbits, so that sometimes they are closer and sometimes further away.. just something I thought I'd share.. :rolleyes: )
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How do you choose your friends? Do you gravitate to people who are similar to you or is it mixture, otherwise you would run out of things to say?

Do all social groups share same thoughts? - Who actually braves the boundaries of the norm and talk to someone they would not usually?

(Just curious what other people think on the subject )
how do i choose my firends?? i dont know.. if there is something we can talk about..or if we can chill together (like to go to the same places) then we spend more time together and become friend i guess..

i have friends all around the world (ethnic group, social class, gender, age does not matter for me as long as it is possible to talk to this particular person..if we share some interests..point of views..taste.. then friendship is very likely to develop)

does anybody has a similar approach to this issue?
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(I actually visualise my friends as electrons in orbitals about a nucleus, or possibly planets in a solar system. I am at the heart of it and some of them are closer than others. A couple have eliptical orbits, so that sometimes they are closer and sometimes further away.. just something I thought I'd share.. :rolleyes: )
thats a pretty cool analogy
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thats a pretty cool analogy
Why thank you
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I agree... Thats a good way of putting it... specially the eliptical thing...
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Most of mine seem to drift out of orbit then through moving be it either country or school, but I still keep in contact with some, which distinguishes them apart I guess.
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Since arriving at university all the best friends I've made have been through societies and some from my course - i.e. those with the same interests as me. I find we're never short of conversation!

The people in my halls are a funny mixture, none of us have much in common and most people argue a lot and ***** about people behind their backs so I find it really strange that they all count each other as "friends" since coming to uni. They're all living together next year too. I think making friends just because they're near to you is pure laziness and I can't understand them at all, but it's their choice I suppose. The number of times I walk into the kitchen and they're all sitting there in complete silence because they just have nothing to say to each other (and not the kind of comfortable silence you get with really good friends).
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someone you feel confortable around, and enjoy spending time with
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I do not think i have a friend that I have nothing in common with me but saying that the groups I associate with are quite diverse. We have the geeks, the core of which I have known since school, the weird grunger people who are quite insane, who also have their core of school friends. I have a very large friendbase online as well that actually makes up the majority of my friends in fact.
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good friends are like me but different in v sublte ways... but im not sure i can be gd frieds with me who are on the opposite end of the spectrum
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great friends are similar as they are different, which keeps the conversations going - otherwise it would be boring right ? I am not entirely sure, my friends don't share all the same interests me - but i can still talk about it with them, as they can with theirs.
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