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Me and my sister really want. Kitten but having African parents, they are traditionally against cats, well only my mum, my dad doesn’t mind. We have exhausted all our reasons and we want reasons to convince my mum to allow us to buy the cat, I have the money to buy, she doesn’t need to spend, help!!! :smile:

Reply 1

Just focus on how little your mum would actually need to do. You’ve got the money, so she won’t need to spend a penny, plus cats are super low-maintenance compared to dogs. They clean themselves, don’t need walks, and can be independent most of the time.

You could even suggest starting with a trial foster, so she can see if having a cat really changes anything

Reply 2

i have the same problem as well lol

Reply 3

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by Ghost1619
Me and my sister really want. Kitten but having African parents, they are traditionally against cats, well only my mum, my dad doesn’t mind. We have exhausted all our reasons and we want reasons to convince my mum to allow us to buy the cat, I have the money to buy, she doesn’t need to spend, help!!! :smile:

I'm also of African background, and my mum was against animals in general... but my sister got cats when she got her own place. When my dad passed away, my mum was obviously very upset... upon visiting my sister once, one of her cats sensed this, and actually sat with her for over 3 hours trying to comfort her. They bonded after that.

Also, not sure if you've ever had a problem with mice in your place, but having a cat will often keep them away. Cats and mice are natural enemies so the cat scent around the house should naturally repel mice; even if the cat won't actually hunt the mice.

I remember hearing on a game show, about one pop star (I forget which one), who wanted a dog. In order for him to get one, his parents said he had to prove that he was responsible and was capable of looking after animals. They first got some Woodlice and said that if they were fine after a week, he could have a different one. The woodlice were fine, so they went on to snails and then moving through animals that required more and more attention , love etc. By the time they got to gerbils (OSLT), he couldn't be bothered anymore and he gave up on the dog.

Obviously, your mum won't want insects in your place, but could you propose something similar to that? I thought that was pretty good parenting, myself lol.

Reply 4

In fact, parents are often against pets, and then love and care for them the most. I know because my dad used to be very much against any kind of animal at home.

Reply 5

That sounds like a tough situation! Sometimes parents just need time to warm up to the idea. Maybe start by showing her how independent and clean cats can be. They don’t need constant attention like dogs, and they actually help reduce stress.

Reply 6

just get the cat, she cant kick it out when its in the house

Reply 7

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by gsands
just get the cat, she cant kick it out when its in the house

As an African child, i can tell you she might give it out to someone else😭

Reply 8

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by gsands
just get the cat, she cant kick it out when its in the house

Why do you think we have cat shelters full of unclaimed cats?

Reply 9

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by Old Skool Freak
I'm also of African background, and my mum was against animals in general... but my sister got cats when she got her own place. When my dad passed away, my mum was obviously very upset... upon visiting my sister once, one of her cats sensed this, and actually sat with her for over 3 hours trying to comfort her. They bonded after that.
Also, not sure if you've ever had a problem with mice in your place, but having a cat will often keep them away. Cats and mice are natural enemies so the cat scent around the house should naturally repel mice; even if the cat won't actually hunt the mice.
I remember hearing on a game show, about one pop star (I forget which one), who wanted a dog. In order for him to get one, his parents said he had to prove that he was responsible and was capable of looking after animals. They first got some Woodlice and said that if they were fine after a week, he could have a different one. The woodlice were fine, so they went on to snails and then moving through animals that required more and more attention , love etc. By the time they got to gerbils (OSLT), he couldn't be bothered anymore and he gave up on the dog.
Obviously, your mum won't want insects in your place, but could you propose something similar to that? I thought that was pretty good parenting, myself lol.


Oh my gosh that’s such a good idea… I have two beautiful cats of my own that I earned through a similar method from my mum. I mean as an insect alternative you could always get a tamagotchi lol

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