Reply 1
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Original post by mblloog
I moved in last month and it’s been really **** so far, looking for advice or just anything helpful lol. I know this sounds fake but im just in a really bad situation looking for help
Im 20, nearly 32 stone and I think I should’ve deferred my entry until I lost some weight to be honest. I feel so freakish, my flatmates judge me and make comments when im in the kitchen. I feel like people are constantly staring at me, I know im probably the biggest at my uni and I can’t stop thinking about it. I haven’t made any friends but I do know that’s partly my fault because my confidence has taken quite a dip
My campus is huge and tbh im struggling to walk across it in time to get to my lectures. I have a lot of contact hours but I can’t stand up for long periods of times which means I miss a lot of it and I feel like im falling behind. I’ve spoken to the disability team but it’s quite an integral part to the degree so there’s not a lot they can do
Im 20, nearly 32 stone and I think I should’ve deferred my entry until I lost some weight to be honest. I feel so freakish, my flatmates judge me and make comments when im in the kitchen. I feel like people are constantly staring at me, I know im probably the biggest at my uni and I can’t stop thinking about it. I haven’t made any friends but I do know that’s partly my fault because my confidence has taken quite a dip
My campus is huge and tbh im struggling to walk across it in time to get to my lectures. I have a lot of contact hours but I can’t stand up for long periods of times which means I miss a lot of it and I feel like im falling behind. I’ve spoken to the disability team but it’s quite an integral part to the degree so there’s not a lot they can do
Go and see your Uni GP and ask for their help in loosing weight.
Reply 2
that sounds awful, i’m sorry you’re experiencing this 
i think the first thing you have to do is accept your body for what it is, yes you need to lose weight but it’s so important to build up your confidence first bcs low self esteem in itself is already a factor that can cause even more weight gain through comforting eating, if that makes sense. are there any communities/support groups at your uni or somewhere online (eg. facebook groups) for people like you to share your experiences and make friends? i think being in a space with individuals in the same situation could really help ease that feeling of being the odd one out.
as for the losing weight part remember that losing it slowly is way more sustainable than losing a bunch of weight at once, you don’t need to suddenly cut out all high calorie foods from your diet or eat one meal a day. just make some subtle changes like switching to low-fat dairy products, if a food has a reduced sugar alternative then get that instead, etc - that way you’d already be decreasing the amount of calories you consume without actually changing how much you eat or what you eat.
something else i found super helpful is when i cook homemade foods i add as much veg as possible (eg. carrots and peas in pasta, potatoes and carrots in soup, lettuce mixed with my rice to make it a salad, etc) to increase the volume of my food, which sounds counterintuitive but volume eating really helps make sure you feel satiated after a meal and makes you less likely to go for a second portion or a snack later on. also, i cannot stress this enough - popcorn is an AMAZING snack. it’s super low calorie, you could eat an entire large pack of popcorn for like the same amount of calories as 2 mars bars. not to mention that popcorn’s high ish in fibre, which helps promote fullness.
if you binge eat, figure out what triggers you - is it boredom? stress? comfort? whatever it is, channel those feelings into something else instead that’ll take your mind off of food, for me that’s gaming and playing with my cats. maybe you like to draw or paint, or put some calming music on and read a book. the goal at first shouldn’t be to totally stop binging at once, but even just reducing how often you binge eat can make a huge difference. it might also help to weave some of your binge foods into your regular diet, so instead of seeing them as bad foods you need to avoid at all costs you could intentionally treat yourself to them instead. for me, honouring my cravings in moderation helps prevent those cravings from accumulating and winding up as one massive binge of everything i want to eat.
physical activity is obviously a hard one to increase since you’re already struggling with getting to your lectures on time, but you should be able to make some slow progress without going on walks every day or doing some light workouts just by adjusting your diet. as you lose more weight stuff like walking should become more and more easier, so that’s something to think about for in the near future instead.
if after a month or two you find that you’re still struggling to lose weight i’d highly recommend talking to your gp, they’d probably just give you generic weight loss tips but you could ask to get referred for a blood test (request that they test your thyroxine levels, in case you have hyperthyroidism) and ask for support with your mental health too (this doesn’t have to wait obvs, you could go to your gp now about this if you’d like to).
hope this helps <3
ps. get new roommates. is there any possibility you could move to a different dorm? your roommates sound like self-absorbed *****.
i think the first thing you have to do is accept your body for what it is, yes you need to lose weight but it’s so important to build up your confidence first bcs low self esteem in itself is already a factor that can cause even more weight gain through comforting eating, if that makes sense. are there any communities/support groups at your uni or somewhere online (eg. facebook groups) for people like you to share your experiences and make friends? i think being in a space with individuals in the same situation could really help ease that feeling of being the odd one out.as for the losing weight part remember that losing it slowly is way more sustainable than losing a bunch of weight at once, you don’t need to suddenly cut out all high calorie foods from your diet or eat one meal a day. just make some subtle changes like switching to low-fat dairy products, if a food has a reduced sugar alternative then get that instead, etc - that way you’d already be decreasing the amount of calories you consume without actually changing how much you eat or what you eat.
something else i found super helpful is when i cook homemade foods i add as much veg as possible (eg. carrots and peas in pasta, potatoes and carrots in soup, lettuce mixed with my rice to make it a salad, etc) to increase the volume of my food, which sounds counterintuitive but volume eating really helps make sure you feel satiated after a meal and makes you less likely to go for a second portion or a snack later on. also, i cannot stress this enough - popcorn is an AMAZING snack. it’s super low calorie, you could eat an entire large pack of popcorn for like the same amount of calories as 2 mars bars. not to mention that popcorn’s high ish in fibre, which helps promote fullness.
if you binge eat, figure out what triggers you - is it boredom? stress? comfort? whatever it is, channel those feelings into something else instead that’ll take your mind off of food, for me that’s gaming and playing with my cats. maybe you like to draw or paint, or put some calming music on and read a book. the goal at first shouldn’t be to totally stop binging at once, but even just reducing how often you binge eat can make a huge difference. it might also help to weave some of your binge foods into your regular diet, so instead of seeing them as bad foods you need to avoid at all costs you could intentionally treat yourself to them instead. for me, honouring my cravings in moderation helps prevent those cravings from accumulating and winding up as one massive binge of everything i want to eat.
physical activity is obviously a hard one to increase since you’re already struggling with getting to your lectures on time, but you should be able to make some slow progress without going on walks every day or doing some light workouts just by adjusting your diet. as you lose more weight stuff like walking should become more and more easier, so that’s something to think about for in the near future instead.
if after a month or two you find that you’re still struggling to lose weight i’d highly recommend talking to your gp, they’d probably just give you generic weight loss tips but you could ask to get referred for a blood test (request that they test your thyroxine levels, in case you have hyperthyroidism) and ask for support with your mental health too (this doesn’t have to wait obvs, you could go to your gp now about this if you’d like to).
hope this helps <3
ps. get new roommates. is there any possibility you could move to a different dorm? your roommates sound like self-absorbed *****.
Reply 3
Some great advice above.
it is easier to start exercising when you've started to lose weight as you won't be struggling as much physically, or mentally if you are uncomfortable in the public eye.
So, for the future, have you got access to a gym, on-campus or locally with student rates? There will be trainers there who can help you with a personalised programme. Swimming is very good for you as it will take the pressure off your joints; maybe look for an aquarobics class. See if you can buy weights and a piece of sports equipment, such as a fold-up exercise bike, for your room; they can be quite cheap on ebay/charity websites or shops. Even just walking can help with physical and mental health.
Wishing you all the best.
it is easier to start exercising when you've started to lose weight as you won't be struggling as much physically, or mentally if you are uncomfortable in the public eye.
So, for the future, have you got access to a gym, on-campus or locally with student rates? There will be trainers there who can help you with a personalised programme. Swimming is very good for you as it will take the pressure off your joints; maybe look for an aquarobics class. See if you can buy weights and a piece of sports equipment, such as a fold-up exercise bike, for your room; they can be quite cheap on ebay/charity websites or shops. Even just walking can help with physical and mental health.
Wishing you all the best.
(edited 8 months ago)
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