Confused af

I’ll keep this brief .Recently started uni. Met a new friendship group who are wonderful. However, there’s this girl who is overly obsessed with me. She was practically begging me for my Snapchat and makes jokes saying will you be my gf etc a lot of gay jokes she makes but she claims she ain’t gay. I walked passed my friends today and said hi but I had to go and my other friends text me saying that she said she likes everything about me and finds me cute. She purposely finds ways to try and text me about the most randomest stuff and sends me selfies of her with a sentence and an x at the end.

All in all she’s a nice girl, but I’m not sure if she has a crush or an attachment issue. Just needed help to clarify.

Reply 1

NonIndigenous

Obsessed people weird me out.

The quicker someone develops 'feelings' for you, the quicker they are capable of also loosing those feelings. It's a symptom of their overall emotional volatility, usually people with an 'anxious' attachment style (which is not entirely the same as having 'anxiety' - although it is related).

Emotionally stable people usually take longer to form a strong emotional connection, and are consistent about it. Sometimes confused with 'avoidant' people, who also take ages to from a strong emotional connection, but are usually not consistent about it and will instead send you mixed signals.

Ok. I hope that wasn't presumptuous. If she hasn't disrespected any of your boundaries, then she might not be any of what I said above, and might just be genuinely interested in you and very extroverted about it at the same time.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

I don’t think she has an insecure attachment style. I think she’s still trying to find out who she really is but she’s in denial with herself, but part of me really thinks that she puts herself out as gay, especially when she wants to know what I get up to often and tries to hold my hand. She is very nice to me but I just need clarity before any rumours start

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

As well as this ever since I met this group she’s always made the most effort with me in terms of getting to know me but she got rlly offended when I didn’t give my snap to her and started asking my friend if I like her as a person

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

She is very extroverted too and a bit hyper

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

I did show my friends the pictures she’s been sending me and I say to them do u get these too and they say no. She purposely finds ways to try and bump into me, hug me hold my hand and my friends have started to notice