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im lost....

Hi, I'm a Year 12 student doing my A Levels, and I feel like I've reached a really low point. Life doesn’t feel worth it anymore, and I don’t know what I’m doing or why I should keep going. I see everyone around me going to these amazing universities, accomplishing big things, and I just wonder if it’s even worth thinking about university for me with my grades. It would be helpful if someone could look at them and tell me if there’s even any hope.

I want to do medicine at university, but I’m starting to question if life is even worth it at all or if I should keep trying. My GCSEs are:

- Health and Social Care - 9
- English Literature - 8
- English Language - 8
- Maths - 7
- Business - 7
- RE - 7
- Sciences (I did triple) - 6
- French - 5

I know I could push for A’s at A Level if I try—I’m already getting A’s in class tests—but why go through all that pressure if I end up disappointed anyway? I just feel so alone, so hopeless, and I can’t tell anyone. Everyone else seems to be moving forward, bound to become successful and achieve so much.

My A Levels are in Maths, Biology, and Chemistry, and I’m considering doing an EPQ, but I’m not sure yet. Should I just stop while I’m ahead and avoid the disappointment of not getting into any university because of my GCSEs? Or should I even bother with A Levels at all? It feels like my only options are to settle for an average job, maybe working at Tesco or something, because nothing else seems worth it anymore.

Some days, it feels crushing to look at my grades. They feel like this heavy label I can’t escape, as if they’re proof that I’ll never be good enough to reach my goals. It’s affecting me mentally in ways I can’t put into words—every day is a reminder of the gap between me and everyone else. I feel trapped in this cycle of disappointment and doubt, and it's like there’s no point in trying. It’s draining me, making everything seem pointless, like no matter what I do, I’ll never reach where I want to be. This feeling of falling behind everyone else is haunting, and it makes me feel so alone. so yh...thats where im at Any advice would be really appreciated. I just feel so lost.

edit:dw im not like really really sad,im just worried a lil bit
(edited 1 month ago)
Original post by cupquake
im lost....
Hi, I'm a Year 12 student doing my A Levels, and I feel like I've reached a really low point. Life doesn’t feel worth it anymore, and I don’t know what I’m doing or why I should keep going. I see everyone around me going to these amazing universities, accomplishing big things, and I just wonder if it’s even worth thinking about university for me with my grades. It would be helpful if someone could look at them and tell me if there’s even any hope.
I want to do medicine at university, but I’m starting to question if life is even worth it at all or if I should keep trying. My GCSEs are:
- Health and Social Care - 9
- English Literature - 8
- English Language - 8
- Maths - 7
- Business - 7
- RE - 7
- Sciences (I did triple) - 6
- French - 5
I know I could push for A’s at A Level if I try—I’m already getting A’s in class tests—but why go through all that pressure if I end up disappointed anyway? I just feel so alone, so hopeless, and I can’t tell anyone. Everyone else seems to be moving forward, bound to become successful and achieve so much.
My A Levels are in Maths, Biology, and Chemistry, and I’m considering doing an EPQ, but I’m not sure yet. Should I just stop while I’m ahead and avoid the disappointment of not getting into any university because of my GCSEs? Or should I even bother with A Levels at all? It feels like my only options are to settle for an average job, maybe working at Tesco or something, because nothing else seems worth it anymore.
Some days, it feels crushing to look at my grades. They feel like this heavy label I can’t escape, as if they’re proof that I’ll never be good enough to reach my goals. It’s affecting me mentally in ways I can’t put into words—every day is a reminder of the gap between me and everyone else. I feel trapped in this cycle of disappointment and doubt, and it's like there’s no point in trying. It’s draining me, making everything seem pointless, like no matter what I do, I’ll never reach where I want to be. This feeling of falling behind everyone else is haunting, and it makes me feel so alone. so yh...thats where im at Any advice would be really appreciated. I just feel so lost.
Let me start by saying that life is never not worth living... It may take us in directions we did not expect or consider but it is never not worth living. Just because your grade predictions are not what you hoped does not mean you won't do better, if you give up now then you won't do well - it's a cliche but you will lose 100% of the races you do not enter. My son was predicted to get 4's & 5's in his GCSE's and actually got 7's & 8's, so the prediction system is not particularly good. If you give up then you will convince yourself that you could have done it, but if you will only truly know if you actually put the effort in... If you try and fail then there is no shame in that, but you only stand a chance of succeeding if you put the effort in any try, and you might get what you want. By not trying you will just make the worst outcome a 100% probability, but if you try then you stand a decent chance of getting what you really want - and if you don't make the medical course then good grades will never count against you and get you onto an alternatively good course. Just because life doesn't happen the way we hoped it would, does not mean that it's not a good life.
Reply 2
Original post by cupquake
im lost....
Hi, I'm a Year 12 student doing my A Levels, and I feel like I've reached a really low point. Life doesn’t feel worth it anymore, and I don’t know what I’m doing or why I should keep going. I see everyone around me going to these amazing universities, accomplishing big things, and I just wonder if it’s even worth thinking about university for me with my grades. It would be helpful if someone could look at them and tell me if there’s even any hope.
I want to do medicine at university, but I’m starting to question if life is even worth it at all or if I should keep trying. My GCSEs are:
- Health and Social Care - 9
- English Literature - 8
- English Language - 8
- Maths - 7
- Business - 7
- RE - 7
- Sciences (I did triple) - 6
- French - 5
I know I could push for A’s at A Level if I try—I’m already getting A’s in class tests—but why go through all that pressure if I end up disappointed anyway? I just feel so alone, so hopeless, and I can’t tell anyone. Everyone else seems to be moving forward, bound to become successful and achieve so much.
My A Levels are in Maths, Biology, and Chemistry, and I’m considering doing an EPQ, but I’m not sure yet. Should I just stop while I’m ahead and avoid the disappointment of not getting into any university because of my GCSEs? Or should I even bother with A Levels at all? It feels like my only options are to settle for an average job, maybe working at Tesco or something, because nothing else seems worth it anymore.
Some days, it feels crushing to look at my grades. They feel like this heavy label I can’t escape, as if they’re proof that I’ll never be good enough to reach my goals. It’s affecting me mentally in ways I can’t put into words—every day is a reminder of the gap between me and everyone else. I feel trapped in this cycle of disappointment and doubt, and it's like there’s no point in trying. It’s draining me, making everything seem pointless, like no matter what I do, I’ll never reach where I want to be. This feeling of falling behind everyone else is haunting, and it makes me feel so alone. so yh...thats where im at Any advice would be really appreciated. I just feel so lost.
There’s always a point to life, sometimes it’s difficult to see it and know what it is, but there’s never not a reason to keep going. Grades seem like the world and a half at the moment and for some people it does define them. I strongly believe it shouldn’t, because if something goes wrong it just does, doesn’t make you any less intelligent or important but a simple grade would say otherwise. People will accomplish great things early on, and that’s amazing for them, but that’s not a reflection on you and what you should be doing. I’d say if you want to go onto further education, grades do not mean everything and your personal statement (I think it’s a different format for you, but effectively the same sort of stuff goes in) can weigh quite heavily on your application. This is all to say, if you don’t want to go to uni and you’re fed up of education, there always other options to consider that don’t make you any less successful than your peers.

If it’s any consolation, I achieved very similar grades at GCSEs, which aren’t by any means bad but I get if you’re predicted more it can feel a bit disappointing, and I’m going fairly strong! I’ve been offered 2 astrophysics courses at 2 Russel groups, in spite of my 6 in physics at GCSE, because in a very blunt way they don’t really care. There’s always hope and you should strive to set up the building blocks for what makes you happy in the future and what makes you happy now, because really success is very personal, and I choose to measure my success with how many obstacles I can overcome.

Good luck in your studies, if you don’t do as well as you hoped there’s always clearing and gap years to figure things out and if you happen to go through either of those, it isn’t a reflection on you, it’s simply a different path.
Reply 3
Original post by Maddie07
There’s always a point to life, sometimes it’s difficult to see it and know what it is, but there’s never not a reason to keep going. Grades seem like the world and a half at the moment and for some people it does define them. I strongly believe it shouldn’t, because if something goes wrong it just does, doesn’t make you any less intelligent or important but a simple grade would say otherwise. People will accomplish great things early on, and that’s amazing for them, but that’s not a reflection on you and what you should be doing. I’d say if you want to go onto further education, grades do not mean everything and your personal statement (I think it’s a different format for you, but effectively the same sort of stuff goes in) can weigh quite heavily on your application. This is all to say, if you don’t want to go to uni and you’re fed up of education, there always other options to consider that don’t make you any less successful than your peers.
If it’s any consolation, I achieved very similar grades at GCSEs, which aren’t by any means bad but I get if you’re predicted more it can feel a bit disappointing, and I’m going fairly strong! I’ve been offered 2 astrophysics courses at 2 Russel groups, in spite of my 6 in physics at GCSE, because in a very blunt way they don’t really care. There’s always hope and you should strive to set up the building blocks for what makes you happy in the future and what makes you happy now, because really success is very personal, and I choose to measure my success with how many obstacles I can overcome.
Good luck in your studies, if you don’t do as well as you hoped there’s always clearing and gap years to figure things out and if you happen to go through either of those, it isn’t a reflection on you, it’s simply a different path.

tyy
Reply 4
Original post by cupquake
tyy

No worries!
You haven't listed a single grade there that is a fail.

I'm genuinely baffled as to what you are so worried about. What is it you want to do for a career? Just figure that out first, and then go for it!

I don't see the problem here honestly.

Edit: okay I have just seen you want to do medicine. Right, well look at entry requirements for medicine. If there's any GCSEs that require a push (POSSIBLY the sciences?), just resit them. In the meantime, work on getting decent A Level grades.
There's really no great tragedy here that can't be fixed.
(edited 1 month ago)
You can’t be serious, if you get a good ucat and minimum A* AA predicted, you could even get into UCL or Imperial for medicine
Ik your trying to find consolation, but ngl your post is just putting others down who have worse gcses than you…
For example I’ve applied to the highest ranking DENTAL school (more competitive than med) in the UK with very similar GCSEs to you…
So bffr
Original post by cupquake
im lost....
Hi, I'm a Year 12 student doing my A Levels, and I feel like I've reached a really low point. Life doesn’t feel worth it anymore, and I don’t know what I’m doing or why I should keep going. I see everyone around me going to these amazing universities, accomplishing big things, and I just wonder if it’s even worth thinking about university for me with my grades. It would be helpful if someone could look at them and tell me if there’s even any hope.
I want to do medicine at university, but I’m starting to question if life is even worth it at all or if I should keep trying. My GCSEs are:
- Health and Social Care - 9
- English Literature - 8
- English Language - 8
- Maths - 7
- Business - 7
- RE - 7
- Sciences (I did triple) - 6
- French - 5
I know I could push for A’s at A Level if I try—I’m already getting A’s in class tests—but why go through all that pressure if I end up disappointed anyway? I just feel so alone, so hopeless, and I can’t tell anyone. Everyone else seems to be moving forward, bound to become successful and achieve so much.
My A Levels are in Maths, Biology, and Chemistry, and I’m considering doing an EPQ, but I’m not sure yet. Should I just stop while I’m ahead and avoid the disappointment of not getting into any university because of my GCSEs? Or should I even bother with A Levels at all? It feels like my only options are to settle for an average job, maybe working at Tesco or something, because nothing else seems worth it anymore.
Some days, it feels crushing to look at my grades. They feel like this heavy label I can’t escape, as if they’re proof that I’ll never be good enough to reach my goals. It’s affecting me mentally in ways I can’t put into words—every day is a reminder of the gap between me and everyone else. I feel trapped in this cycle of disappointment and doubt, and it's like there’s no point in trying. It’s draining me, making everything seem pointless, like no matter what I do, I’ll never reach where I want to be. This feeling of falling behind everyone else is haunting, and it makes me feel so alone. so yh...thats where im at Any advice would be really appreciated. I just feel so lost.
edit:dw im not like really really sad,im just worried a lil bit

Hiya,

I’m so sorry to hear that you’re feeling so low and it such a horrible place mentally! The first thing I’d encourage you to do is to reach out to your friends and family, speak to them about how you’re feeling. Ask them for some support and advice. Please, please don’t suffer in silence! There is always light at the end of the tunnel and you will get through this dark time. I know it’s difficult to see the positives when you’re feeling this way but there will be a way forward. If you don’t feel like you can reach out to friends or family, reach out to your gp or one of the many amazing charities that exist (I’d suggest MIND). I think your priority here should be your mental health. It’s very hard to see things clearly and make good decisions when you’re feeling as low as you are!

I personally don’t understand the grading system here, as I went to high school in another country. I’d recommend listening to the advice others have left for you. But also remember that these grades don’t define who you are as a person and certainly do not mean that life is over. I personally really struggled in high school and left with nothing! I went to collage and studied hair dressing and made a very successful career working in London, Mayfair. But later I did want to study and thought it wasn’t possible but it was! After spending most of my life thinking I wasn’t academic or good enough for uni, I studied an access course and have just graduated university! So even if uni isn’t for you right now, it doesn’t mean it won’t be in the future!

Honestly, there’s so much pressure for people to go to uni straight from school but it’s not the right path for everyone. Think about what you actually want to do when you finish school. If you don’t want to do uni straight away then that’s fine! It’s okay to just work, or go to collage or whatever! Also, whatever you decide t do when you leave school, isn’t what you have to do forever. I’m 33 and have just graduated as an ODP (healthcare) which is a complete change.

Don’t be so hard on yourself. You’re young and have your whole life ahead of you. There’s no rush in making these big and important decisions. Take your time and treat yourself kindly.

I hope this advice helps some and I really hope you start to feel better soon.

Sophie 🙂
Reply 8
Your GCSEs are perfectly fine, you are overthinking it. You achieved A*A*A*AAABB - a strong set of grades. Sure, they aren't exceptional, but they certainly shouldn't hold you back. Focus on the things you can change rather than worrying about those you can't.

If you give up this early, you are setting yourself up for failure. There are still so many hurdles to go: A-Level predictions, personal statement, UCAT, interviews, etc. each of which is orders of magnitude more important than your GCSEs. Don't get so hung up on the first hurdle you tripped up on that you give up on the rest of the race. Success is made by persistence not individual performances.

Hope that helps, and good luck for your med application

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