Strict mum I NEED HELP

Hey everyone, in dire need of advice because my mom’s over-the-top strictness could be a sitcom episode. I’m 17, doing A-levels, and prepping for uni next year. Here’s the rundown:
Phone Jail: My phone’s on lockdown tighter than Fort Knox. I get 30 glorious seconds to check messages, then it’s back to solitary confinement in her drawer. No social media—NOT EVEN Pinterest! Apparently, the internet is a den of doom. Told my friends, so now I get about as many messages as a telegraph office in 2023. Absolute joy.
Uni Dictator: She’s got this genius plan where I only apply to two unis. Because, you know, why would I need options? I want to apply to five for some semblance of security, but nope. Even my teachers think she’s on another level of strictness. But, her word is law.
Fashion Police: She’s got me decked out in outfits that could double as camping tents. We’re not poor—I asked for a medium size jumper because I’m average-sized, but at 5'3", it’s like wearing a circus tent. Logic? Never heard of it. Branded jeans? Haha, dream on. Apparently, my waist isn’t worthy. She vetoes anything that’s remotely stylish.
Grade Grinch: Scored 74% on a test and got the delightful response of “not good enough.” Tried the whole “expressing my feelings” thing, but she insists it’s “for my own good” and won’t budge. Promises things will be different when I turn 18, but her promises are about as reliable as a chocolate teapot.
Trapped and Stressed: This whole circus is tanking my self-esteem. Talked to teachers, but it’s like discussing quantum physics with a goldfish. Desperately need advice on dealing with this madness. Is it as ridiculous as it feels to be treated like this at my age?

we got the grade Grinch exactly spot on matching, but the rest my mum is fine with, i mean what i do i really lock in and do a lot of revision one day like 5 hours a day, and get good results and make her feel proud and do it for a bit and then she will ease of knowing i know what i am doing, then it will get better , or maybe try talking to her about how much stress she puts you under and thats whats causing a dip in your performance.

thank u so much its good to get this off my chest lol

Hey everyone, in dire need of advice because my mom’s over-the-top strictness could be a sitcom episode. I’m 17, doing A-levels, and prepping for uni next year. Here’s the rundown:
Phone Jail: My phone’s on lockdown tighter than Fort Knox. I get 30 glorious seconds to check messages, then it’s back to solitary confinement in her drawer. No social media—NOT EVEN Pinterest! Apparently, the internet is a den of doom. Told my friends, so now I get about as many messages as a telegraph office in 2023. Absolute joy.
Uni Dictator: She’s got this genius plan where I only apply to two unis. Because, you know, why would I need options? I want to apply to five for some semblance of security, but nope. Even my teachers think she’s on another level of strictness. But, her word is law.
Fashion Police: She’s got me decked out in outfits that could double as camping tents. We’re not poor—I asked for a medium size jumper because I’m average-sized, but at 5'3", it’s like wearing a circus tent. Logic? Never heard of it. Branded jeans? Haha, dream on. Apparently, my waist isn’t worthy. She vetoes anything that’s remotely stylish.
Grade Grinch: Scored 74% on a test and got the delightful response of “not good enough.” Tried the whole “expressing my feelings” thing, but she insists it’s “for my own good” and won’t budge. Promises things will be different when I turn 18, but her promises are about as reliable as a chocolate teapot.
Trapped and Stressed: This whole circus is tanking my self-esteem. Talked to teachers, but it’s like discussing quantum physics with a goldfish. Desperately need advice on dealing with this madness. Is it as ridiculous as it feels to be treated like this at my age?

I agree that she's very strict, but do you ever consider there's some logic to her strictness? She shouldn't be policing your life like she is, but I do think young people's obsession with social media could potentially cause many problems for them. I don't think being on your mobile phone constantly and using social media constantly is a good thing because you're living in a false reality. Sure, it's your life and you should do what you feel like, but try to live within the boundaries.
I think many problems arise when you feel weighed down instead of letting yourself work within the confines. In every situation you face in life, you should find a way to work it to your advantage.
As for grades, don't let them or your mum dictate how you're meant to feel. You scored 74% on a test? And? You can improve and get better, or you can tell your mum that grades aren't important and the education system is built to pressurize young people instead of helping them realize they can be anything they want to be.
When you turn 18 you can leave your house and never come back if you so choose, you can find your way in life with the people you care about and build the life you want. I know people want their comforts, but the only way you can move forward is by taking chances and go full force into what you want and take it without relenting.