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Claustrophobia in bed

It's really strange, but I really hate sleeping in the same bed with other people or even my boyfriend, even if it's a double bed

I feel really like, constricted and like I can't breathe, and I get really really agitated even if they aren't touching me or over the other side of the bed

I also get really funny about being touched, like at all, when I'm trying to sleep (for instance being hugged) It makes me feel the same way

Does anyone else get feelings like that or is it just my own weird self?

Reply 1

I don't get it, however I can understand why you do. Maybe you just like keeping yourself to yourself when your sleeping. The thought of someone being awake while your about to nod off is pretty weird... especially if your prone to 1 night stands or something haha :wink:

Reply 2

_MaLc_
I don't get it, however I can understand why you do. Maybe you just like keeping yourself to yourself when your sleeping. The thought of someone being awake while your about to nod off is pretty weird... especially if your prone to 1 night stands or something haha :wink:


I don't mind them being awake, it's just I feel like my space has been invaded and It gets hard to breathe for some reason :s-smilie:

Reply 3

I'm the same. I hate sharing my bed with girls. Mates are fine, they just pick a spot and pass out. I hate it when a girl spoons me and then falls asleep...

Reply 4

I don't get it personally, sounds a bit weird to me!

Reply 5

mikeyd85
I'm the same. I hate sharing my bed with girls. Mates are fine, they just pick a spot and pass out. I hate it when a girl spoons me and then falls asleep...


You share a bed with your mates?

Reply 6

WibbleWooble
You share a bed with your mates?


Yeah. I'll give em my sleeping bag and let em kip on my bed. Some of them won't do it, others will. I don't really mind tbh.

Reply 7

im the opposite i sleep so much better when there is someone else there!

Reply 8

mikeyd85
Yeah. I'll give em my sleeping bag and let em kip on my bed. Some of them won't do it, others will. I don't really mind tbh.


Yeah, I've had to share a bed with my friends before and it wasn't as bad as it was with like a partner or something

It also really gets to me when their face is in the same direction as mine
God I sound so weird

Reply 9

Loo
I don't mind them being awake, it's just I feel like my space has been invaded and It gets hard to breathe for some reason :s-smilie:


It's just a 'personal space' thing. I don't understand how it'd be hard to breathe though, I think you just need to relax a bit. Are you a little uptight in general?

Reply 10

_MaLc_
It's just a 'personal space' thing. I don't understand how it'd be hard to breathe though, I think you just need to relax a bit. Are you a little uptight in general?


Nope, I'm normally laid back, and It's the exact opposite when I'm awake, I love hugging and cuddling etc. It's just when I'm trying to sleep that I get really really agitated

Reply 11

I have the opposite :s-smilie:

I tend to start hugging people in bed when I'm asleep, leaving a trail of confused friends in my path

Reply 12

Yuffie
I have the opposite :s-smilie:

I tend to start hugging people in bed when I'm asleep, leaving a trail of confused friends in my path


Haha, if someone started hugging me whilst they were asleep I'd probably have a mini panic attack but not try and get them off me as I'd feel too rude :frown:

Many a time have I just lay there awake for the whole night due to that

Reply 13

I find it hard to sleep in the same bed with people. Just can't fall asleep.

Reply 14

Do you mind being like it or would you want to be able to sleep in beds with people?

Reply 15

Loo
It also really gets to me when their face is in the same direction as mine
God I sound so weird


Me and you are actually the same person. I hate that too. I always sleep in the same spot, facing the same direction, always with my back to the wall.

Reply 16

Yuffie
Do you mind being like it or would you want to be able to sleep in beds with people?


I'd really like it, sometimes my boyfriend feels like I'm being cold towards him or something when I just completely face away from him

I've explained and I think he understands, but I still think he feels like I just don't like hugging him or whatever when It's not like that at all

I'd really like to be able to get over it but I doubt I will be able to as it just gets worse as I grow older haha

Reply 17

mikeyd85
Me and you are actually the same person. I hate that too. I always sleep in the same spot, facing the same direction, always with my back to the wall.



Haha same! At least other people don't like it. I'd like to know the psychological processes behind it, it'd be interesting to find out why we're like that

Reply 18

I know this is an old thread, but I had to Google why I feel claustrophobic when I sleep on the wall side. Usually, I sleep on the outside of the bed, even when I sleep by myself. But last night I fell asleep next to the wall, and it was horrible! I dreampt of freaking out because I was next to the wall, and woke up to my hand in my partners face, and them asking what I was doing to them. I don't know what it is but I can't stand being next to the wall, it gives me anxiety attacks.

Reply 19

I get this too. I have always got really claustrophobic sleeping in the same bed as someone else. Even since I was a young teen. I think it's because I can struggle to get to sleep and I sleep very lightly, so any movement in the bed/snoring etc can wake me and it effects me the next day. I also feel like I have no space and that I'm constricted, I think it's a personal space thing also and that when I sleep I want the freedom to move about freely without effecting someone else's sleep. I stayed over a friends a couple times and they took the whole bed up and I was very restricted and I was cold and too shy to ask them to move and I was kept awake all night and I think the claustrophobia may have started there.Any thoughts? Is anyones situation the same?
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