Should I live with them in the next year?

This year, I'm living with three other people and actually they are my friends. I'm currently thinking whether to stay for another year. The house itself is great—it’s spacious, well-located, and a good place to live. My flatmates are nice, but I find myself uncomfortable around one of them for no specific reason; I just find them a bit annoying and tend to avoid them.

Even though the house is generally nice, I’m not happy with my room. It’s the smallest in the house, and they chose rooms by first come, first served. The largest room is nearly double the size of mine, yet we all pay the same rent. This makes me feel dissatisfied. Living with friends also gives me a feeling of being monitored.

I’m unsure if I should stay another year or move out. I have think of moving out, but I worry about finding a place with a similar or larger room. Even though mine is the smallest here, it’s still larger than some of my friends' rooms. I also wonder if I could find anyone who are suitable to live with. I also worried how my current flatmates would feel if I decided to leave.

Reply 1

sr90sr10

Hey,
I hear you and I feel If you are not happy and comfortable around then it's high time you should move out. This definitely impacts your mood and other things on a day-to-day basis for a longer run. Start looking for a better place, If you find a good one consider moving. Meanwhile try to sit and have a chat with your friends about the room issues, see If they are ready to hear you out if not then you should consider your friendship. Off course when you move out it is going to be difficult to adapt but sometimes it's nice to step out of our comfort zone and see what fits best for our mental health.

Reply 2

University of Sunderland Student Ambassador

Official Rep

Original post by Whattttttttt

This year, I'm living with three other people and actually they are my friends. I'm currently thinking whether to stay for another year. The house itself is great—it’s spacious, well-located, and a good place to live. My flatmates are nice, but I find myself uncomfortable around one of them for no specific reason; I just find them a bit annoying and tend to avoid them.
Even though the house is generally nice, I’m not happy with my room. It’s the smallest in the house, and they chose rooms by first come, first served. The largest room is nearly double the size of mine, yet we all pay the same rent. This makes me feel dissatisfied. Living with friends also gives me a feeling of being monitored.
I’m unsure if I should stay another year or move out. I have think of moving out, but I worry about finding a place with a similar or larger room. Even though mine is the smallest here, it’s still larger than some of my friends' rooms. I also wonder if I could find anyone who are suitable to live with. I also worried how my current flatmates would feel if I decided to leave.

Hello,
Hey! I can really identify to your position. Living with friends can be wonderful, but it can also provide its own set of issues. It sounds like your house has a lot of pros, particularly the location and size, which is fantastic!
However, I understand how difficult it may be to feel uneasy with one housemate. It's difficult when there's no obvious explanation, but occasionally personalities simply don't mix. Setting some limits, if possible, or finding ways to engage more with your other flatmates may help to balance things out.
As for your room arrangement, I understand why you're unsatisfied, especially because you're all paying the same rate. It's definitely worth discussing with your flatmates if you're comfortable. Perhaps they might be willing to discuss the rent situation, especially if it seems unfair.
When determining whether to stay or leave, it may be helpful to consider the pros and drawbacks. Consider what you want in a living situation for next year—do you want to be around friends, or do you value having a larger room and more personal space? Finding a place with a pleasant mood and compatible housemates can be difficult, but it is certainly feasible. You could also opt for a mixed household where you would feel less monitored and more independent.
If you decide to move out, be open with your current flatmates. They might understand, especially if you explain your reasoning. Just remember that whatever you select should feel right to you. Good luck making your decision!
I hope this is helpful.
Kind regards,
Mrunali Kalbhor,
University of Sunderland Student ambassador