Is it worth telling friend she’s hurt my feelings?

I’ve created a similar post but not about this issue specifically.

So- last week I said to a uni friend about living together, we were both drunk but remembered our entire conversation bc we since spoke about other things from the conversation we had.

Anyway, my suggestion was moving in together for a second year house. Yesterday she told me her course friend has asked her to move in with her and the course mates friend group…and she said yes and is now looking for a house with them.

She never mentioned what we spoke about at all, then when we were discussing the topic she said I could ask another friend of mine. She never flat out said no I don’t want to live with you but it has hurt my feelings a bit that she didn’t even acknowledge my offer- plus she’s agreed to live with people she doesn’t even know (apart from the one friend, it’s going to be a flat of 5/6).

Am I being over sensitive? I thought I was quite close to her so that’s why I feel more hurt.

Should I bring this up? Like say it’s hurt my feelings a bit

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

What are you hoping to get out of telling her now? You should have said something straight away when she told you that she had accepted to live with someone else. Coming back to the subject now will just make them feel ill at ease and she’ll probably cut you off completely. That might be a good thing if she’s someone you can’t count on but that depends on how close a friend you thought she was. Find another group of friends to live with next year. They’ll be loads of people looking for others to share with.

Reply 2

Zarek

I would be inclined to leave it. Her preference to share with someone else doesn’t necessarily undermine your friendship - there are lots of intangible inputs in to this decision. It puts her on the spot to justify something in a way that might not be fair. If you do raise it, do it sensitively and think beforehand what could be a good outcome from the discussion