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No contact for 8 months, and now she’s back?

Hey, I met this very shy girl at school, we sat together in class, and there was some good chemistry, we’d talk a lot, and things felt natural, even though she was a bit guarded. She’d mentioned having social anxiety, so I tried to be patient and take it slow. We'd hang out after class until I decided I wanted to pursue something serious so I asked her out on a proper date. The date went kinda so-so, but we still made plans to visit her hometown. But right after, she pulled back completely. A few days later, she just told me "I’m not looking for a relationship right now” with no further explanation.
I was a bit confused and hurt, but she seemed serious, so I said ok and cut contact to move on. Some weeks later I heard she was “disappointed” that I’d cut contact, but honestly, I was hurt by how she just went cold without giving a proper explanation.
It’s been 8 months since we last talked, and she just sent me a sweet early morning text congratulating me on achieving a big career milestone I’d mentioned ages ago, which I’d told her I’d probably reach around this month. I didn’t even know she had a new number.
I just said thank you but I'm genuinely wondering what she’s up to, cause she's definitely not the type to make the first move
That's a narcissist. Be safe x
Original post by TheKitty.x
That's a narcissist. Be safe x

That seems a little judgmental based on just a couple of paragraphs. It's hard to know what might be going on in her life.

I do agree though, if she stays so hot and cold she might not be the one.
Original post by Anonymous
Hey, I met this very shy girl at school, we sat together in class, and there was some good chemistry, we’d talk a lot, and things felt natural, even though she was a bit guarded. She’d mentioned having social anxiety, so I tried to be patient and take it slow. We'd hang out after class until I decided I wanted to pursue something serious so I asked her out on a proper date. The date went kinda so-so, but we still made plans to visit her hometown. But right after, she pulled back completely. A few days later, she just told me "I’m not looking for a relationship right now” with no further explanation.
I was a bit confused and hurt, but she seemed serious, so I said ok and cut contact to move on. Some weeks later I heard she was “disappointed” that I’d cut contact, but honestly, I was hurt by how she just went cold without giving a proper explanation.
It’s been 8 months since we last talked, and she just sent me a sweet early morning text congratulating me on achieving a big career milestone I’d mentioned ages ago, which I’d told her I’d probably reach around this month. I didn’t even know she had a new number.
I just said thank you but I'm genuinely wondering what she’s up to, cause she's definitely not the type to make the first move

dont jump into it straight away. if she's acting one way at a point and then immediately switching up, then theres no saying she wont do it again. i'd say act distant, let her chase u. give small replies and if u see her double texting then theres a chance she might want you again.
She’s playing games. Girls do this so you chase them, but then get turned off when you do. Childish behaviour.

That distance and not being in contact has her thinking about you and wanting to come back. Don’t give her your all as it’s likely that she will do something like this again.
Original post by Anonymous
Hey, I met this very shy girl at school, we sat together in class, and there was some good chemistry, we’d talk a lot, and things felt natural, even though she was a bit guarded. She’d mentioned having social anxiety, so I tried to be patient and take it slow. We'd hang out after class until I decided I wanted to pursue something serious so I asked her out on a proper date. The date went kinda so-so, but we still made plans to visit her hometown. But right after, she pulled back completely. A few days later, she just told me "I’m not looking for a relationship right now” with no further explanation.
I was a bit confused and hurt, but she seemed serious, so I said ok and cut contact to move on. Some weeks later I heard she was “disappointed” that I’d cut contact, but honestly, I was hurt by how she just went cold without giving a proper explanation.
It’s been 8 months since we last talked, and she just sent me a sweet early morning text congratulating me on achieving a big career milestone I’d mentioned ages ago, which I’d told her I’d probably reach around this month. I didn’t even know she had a new number.
I just said thank you but I'm genuinely wondering what she’s up to, cause she's definitely not the type to make the first move

Focus on your work.
Original post by Anonymous
Hey, I met this very shy girl at school, we sat together in class, and there was some good chemistry, we’d talk a lot, and things felt natural, even though she was a bit guarded. She’d mentioned having social anxiety, so I tried to be patient and take it slow. We'd hang out after class until I decided I wanted to pursue something serious so I asked her out on a proper date. The date went kinda so-so, but we still made plans to visit her hometown. But right after, she pulled back completely. A few days later, she just told me "I’m not looking for a relationship right now” with no further explanation.
I was a bit confused and hurt, but she seemed serious, so I said ok and cut contact to move on. Some weeks later I heard she was “disappointed” that I’d cut contact, but honestly, I was hurt by how she just went cold without giving a proper explanation.
It’s been 8 months since we last talked, and she just sent me a sweet early morning text congratulating me on achieving a big career milestone I’d mentioned ages ago, which I’d told her I’d probably reach around this month. I didn’t even know she had a new number.
I just said thank you but I'm genuinely wondering what she’s up to, cause she's definitely not the type to make the first move

As she pulled back right in the beginning and then you two had no contact for 8 months, I do not think, she is playing games. And she a) might have not been able to develop strong enough feelings (friends have chemistry, too) or b) there was something else in her life going on, what hindered her to pursue a relationship (plan to move, mental health, parents, inexperience with dating, etc. ...)

So just take it, as what it is, a message. May be nothing, maybe friendship, maybe more.
Original post by Anonymous
Hey, I met this very shy girl at school, we sat together in class, and there was some good chemistry, we’d talk a lot, and things felt natural, even though she was a bit guarded. She’d mentioned having social anxiety, so I tried to be patient and take it slow. We'd hang out after class until I decided I wanted to pursue something serious so I asked her out on a proper date. The date went kinda so-so, but we still made plans to visit her hometown. But right after, she pulled back completely. A few days later, she just told me "I’m not looking for a relationship right now” with no further explanation.
I was a bit confused and hurt, but she seemed serious, so I said ok and cut contact to move on. Some weeks later I heard she was “disappointed” that I’d cut contact, but honestly, I was hurt by how she just went cold without giving a proper explanation.
It’s been 8 months since we last talked, and she just sent me a sweet early morning text congratulating me on achieving a big career milestone I’d mentioned ages ago, which I’d told her I’d probably reach around this month. I didn’t even know she had a new number.
I just said thank you but I'm genuinely wondering what she’s up to, cause she's definitely not the type to make the first move

i think if you're genuinely curious about what shes up to, just talk to her. there's nothing wrong with that. if your relationship with her begins to develop, friendship or more, stay a bit guarded (by guarded i don't mean closed off, i mean js aware of what's going on), make sure that you communicate your feelings clearly. is she the type to be closed off?
She probably has issues. Let her work through them. Find someone who is ready and is mentally stable.
Original post by Anonymous
Hey, I met this very shy girl at school, we sat together in class, and there was some good chemistry, we’d talk a lot, and things felt natural, even though she was a bit guarded. She’d mentioned having social anxiety, so I tried to be patient and take it slow. We'd hang out after class until I decided I wanted to pursue something serious so I asked her out on a proper date. The date went kinda so-so, but we still made plans to visit her hometown. But right after, she pulled back completely. A few days later, she just told me "I’m not looking for a relationship right now” with no further explanation.
I was a bit confused and hurt, but she seemed serious, so I said ok and cut contact to move on. Some weeks later I heard she was “disappointed” that I’d cut contact, but honestly, I was hurt by how she just went cold without giving a proper explanation.
It’s been 8 months since we last talked, and she just sent me a sweet early morning text congratulating me on achieving a big career milestone I’d mentioned ages ago, which I’d told her I’d probably reach around this month. I didn’t even know she had a new number.
I just said thank you but I'm genuinely wondering what she’s up to, cause she's definitely not the type to make the first move

she be missin u fr , date her and then dump her on the first date . get revenge before she gets revenge on you . GAME IS GAME BRO REMEMBER
Original post by sdsajdsada
she be missin u fr , date her and then dump her on the first date . get revenge before she gets revenge on you . GAME IS GAME BRO REMEMBER


how immature of you

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