Questioning whether I should continue friendship

Hi!

I confronted a friend recently because she had been acting odd for awhile and it just got to a point where I had to ask what was going on.

There were something’s I already suspected were said like I can be defensive when we have discussions and that we often disagree/share the same values - which I get and have been trying to work on for awhile because obviously you never see yourself in that way.

But she said the main problem came from when she made a new friend and when we hanged out as a three and me and the other girls joked about something that reminded her of our previous friendship where she felt isolated because at one point we would go and revise for are exams that were coming up and she was not taken the at that time and we thought she’d distract us. - I only found out recently and this happened about three years ago for around 2 weeks. when looking back I never viewed in that way but obviously apologized if that how she made her feel as Isolating someone was always something I considered to be against my moral and was horrified that I could’ve partake in it. Like, I remember her and the original friend wanted to abandon a girl they invited to go cinema and I was horrified and said I wouldn’t go if they did such a thing.

She also said that she doubted my loyalty which always to be in the way that if I thought she was wrong I wouldn’t defend her. I found this hard cause when we were in the original trio she was really upset about what was going on in her studies and went to each teacher, argues with them in order to defend her. This is what any friend would do but was against my normal behavior of what if do for myself and I am usually quite shy and quiet

The first trio ground ended about three years ago and the comment was made less than a year ago. We were best friends in between that time but She recently she got close to the new friend who she sid she didn’t like (at the time she never gave me a proper reason so just left it) and that’s when she started to act iffy towards me. She said little sly comments that I always brushed off because I didn’t think she meant it, but admitted that all those comments were on purpose and that she was proud of making them because she was defending herself no matter if they made me feel like ****. The most recent one was inviting me with her friend (which I only found out on the way) and she used it as an opportunity to show me how she felt 3 years ago when she was being isolated and being that she was successful.

There’s a lot more context but I’d be writing half a book but I don’t know if she was valid in what she has done to me in the past month because of the isolation I made her feel 3 to 4 years ago that had never been a problem in the time before recently . Everyone around me thinks she’s in the wrong and that she’s using it as an excuse. I also contacted the previous friends to check if what she said was true but she disagreed or say she did similar things…but idk

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AhsokaTano-

As someone who's been bullied, has a toxic friend, had clingy friends and seen friendship drama in my group, you should leave. She's not making you feel the best, and feeling proud by making sly comments, which just means she aint gonna care any more.

ik how it feels to be betrayed by someone, but dw, you'll get over it - just dm me (insta)

~~(sirius_stuff)~~

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