regret my first kiss

i had my first kiss when i was so drunk after a motive. id been talking to the guy for a week but no flirting until that night when we were both drinking. his hands were roaming a lot and we were making out for like 10 mins. then like 2 weeks later he ghosted me and i cant get over him as i cant stop thinking about that kiss and wishing i was less drunk for it so i could have made it more 'appropriate' if that makes sense. i have to see him in school and i literally cant get over him bc of this. any help or advice or similar situations would be much appreciated

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

Original post by taylorswift4life

i had my first kiss when i was so drunk after a motive. id been talking to the guy for a week but no flirting until that night when we were both drinking. his hands were roaming a lot and we were making out for like 10 mins. then like 2 weeks later he ghosted me and i cant get over him as i cant stop thinking about that kiss and wishing i was less drunk for it so i could have made it more 'appropriate' if that makes sense. i have to see him in school and i literally cant get over him bc of this. any help or advice or similar situations would be much appreciated

nobody can help you now can they. Choose better decisions in the future or keep crying

Reply 2

Zarek

21

Its no big deal. Dating is full of missteps, it’s just about learning a little from each one. Hold your head high, treat him with distain and aim for a better experience second time around

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

You are very sweet. Sometimes in life you will encounter very superficial people. You are young and making mistakes it is part of growing up. For your safety I will advise not to consumate alcohol in the presence of people you don’t know (or if you do know them even, you cannot trust anyone this days lol) as they might take advantage of you. Ghosting never gets easier, it’s a coward move people pull every now and then, but don’t take it personal. It’s more about them and than it is about you. Rejection often is protection, probably he was not the guy for you. Don’t rush into things, get to know people first, you have so much time to experience love and intimacy. don’t let peer pressure make you think you need a boyfriend at all costs, some of my friends had their first boyfriend in their late 20’s and they had a better experience than my other friends who had them in their teens. I am aware there are a lot of common phrases and cheese remarks in my post, but I talk from experience lmao.

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anosmianAcrimony

20

Honestly I get the feeling a lot of first kisses are like this - they're hyped up a lot but often people feel regret about the circumstances. Don't worry about it too much, and make the next one better and more intentional!

One way you could make that more likely is by leaving the alcohol out... sometimes I think people drink just to be able to abdicate responsibility for whatever comes next. So less alcohol, fewer regrets.

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Misskamado

3

Original post by taylorswift4life

i had my first kiss when i was so drunk after a motive. id been talking to the guy for a week but no flirting until that night when we were both drinking. his hands were roaming a lot and we were making out for like 10 mins. then like 2 weeks later he ghosted me and i cant get over him as i cant stop thinking about that kiss and wishing i was less drunk for it so i could have made it more 'appropriate' if that makes sense. i have to see him in school and i literally cant get over him bc of this. any help or advice or similar situations would be much appreciated

omg cute but i feel like their other guys better than him cuz girl that's just your first kisser not your first lover

Reply 6

PinkMobilePhone

22

You'll have other kisses and they will make your first kiss seem completely unimportant. Don't worry about it.

Reply 7

Anonymous #3

Original post by taylorswift4life

i had my first kiss when i was so drunk after a motive. id been talking to the guy for a week but no flirting until that night when we were both drinking. his hands were roaming a lot and we were making out for like 10 mins. then like 2 weeks later he ghosted me and i cant get over him as i cant stop thinking about that kiss and wishing i was less drunk for it so i could have made it more 'appropriate' if that makes sense. i have to see him in school and i literally cant get over him bc of this. any help or advice or similar situations would be much appreciated

honestly the best advice i can give is don’t force yourself to move on straight away let yourself feel everything first then that way you can release those feelings completely and not have resurfacing feelings if this is someone you want to leave in the past. It is completely valid for you to be feeling like this even if he ghosted you, remember he was your first kiss and that alone will be a factor influencing how you feel, so don’t let that carry your feelings, remember him as a person and if you actually like him and respect his actions which I don’t think sound respectable (but i don’t know the full extent of course). In terms of seeing him in school, avoid!! from experience it’s best to keep a distance, don’t look for him, don’t worry about what he is doing or anything like that (easier said than done but it’s a start to even try) you will be fine and you will move on and the past cannot be changed.

Reply 8

Picnicl

17

Is this the 1950s? My grandma kissed me. It's just a kiss. THAT kiss does not have to be what you call 'My First Kiss'. He's either someone worth knowing for longer or isn't. Seems like he isn't. Maybe you'll provide/have a great romance with someone else but it likely won't and shouldn't be with this fly by night guy.

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