uni life

Anonymous #1

i’m finding uni life to be so lonely. i use to get in with my flatmates but now no one talks to me.

Reply 1

McGinger

Original post by Anonymous

i’m finding uni life to be so lonely. i use to get in with my flatmates but now no one talks to me.

Do you talk to them?

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Original post by McGinger

Do you talk to them?

yes but somethings changed someone who wasn’t here much is here a lot and they don’t like me but we like get on. but i caught someone of them talking about me

Reply 3

McGinger

Original post by Anonymous

yes but somethings changed someone who wasn’t here much is here a lot and they don’t like me but we like get on. but i caught someone of them talking about me

Saying what?

Reply 4

University of Bath

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Original post by Anonymous

yes but somethings changed someone who wasn’t here much is here a lot and they don’t like me but we like get on. but i caught someone of them talking about me

Hi OP,

I'm sorry to hear you're being made to feel uncomfortable - you certainly shouldn't have to deal with behaviour like that especially when you have not done anything wrong.

I would advise here to simply address this with your flatmates - 'hey, I overheard you talking the other day and it sounded like you were talking about me. Can I ask what that was all about or if I've offended you in some way?' You may find that they did not mean to upset you at all and did not realise the impact they had on you. Its always better to clear the air because then everyone can move on.

In the meantime I'd recommend simply being as friendly as you can with your flatmates. Suggest things to do - going out into town as a group for a meal, doing a flat film night or cooking session if you feel comfortable enough. Just let them know that you want to be friendly and engage with them.

I really hope this helps, best of luck 🙂

Holly
University of Bath

Reply 5

hallamstudents

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Original post by Anonymous

i’m finding uni life to be so lonely. i use to get in with my flatmates but now no one talks to me.

Hi there,

Uni can be really tricky when you feel lonely and feel like you don't have many friends who you can talk to and do things with.

If you have heard that your flatmates have been taking about you, it might be worth talking to them about this. It does not have to be confrontational at all, just tell them what you have heard and give them the chance to explain as they might not have said it, or have meant it how you have heard it. If this is the case, there is no reason for you to not be friends and they may have also thought that you were being distant but this could clear it up.

If not, there are lots of other ways to make friends. Have you tried joining a society? I know everyone says this but they really are great ways of making friends as you meet so many people this way. It might be worth having a look at the societies that your uni offers and see if you like the sound of any as they are a great way of making friends. The socials are fun too!

You could also have a look and see if your student union puts any events on. The SU at your uni will quite often put different events on which might be fun and you might like the sound of some of them. These are great ways of making friends too as the people you meet there will also be students which is great. At Hallam, the SU puts on 'give it a go' events where you try new things with a group of other students. They have done things such as theme parks, going for coffees, ice hockey games etc. Have a look as your SU might do a similar thing!

Another way of making friends is on your course. Have you met many people this way? Try and sit next to new people in your lectures and seminars and try and make conversations with them! Most people will be up for making friends and will want to talk to new people so they won't think that it is odd that you are doing this! if you do group work this is also a good way of meeting people so make sure you get involved and talk to people when doing this.

You could also have a look on social media as you can often find some people this way too. There are often groups on Facebook for different unis and I know some people though these groups so it is worth having a look on here and seeing if you make any friends this way.

I hope some of this helps,

Lucy -SHU student ambassador.

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UCLan Student

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Original post by Anonymous

i’m finding uni life to be so lonely. i use to get in with my flatmates but now no one talks to me.

Hey there,

My name is Siobhan and I am a third year student at UCLAN.

I want to start by saying I woudln't worry toop much about this as ou are definitely not the only one who is goign through this right now. In fact I am going through this right now myself so I might know a bt about hwo you are feeling.

Reply 7

UCLan Student

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Original post by Anonymous

i’m finding uni life to be so lonely. i use to get in with my flatmates but now no one talks to me.

Hey there, my name is Siobhan and I am a third year student at UCLAN

First off, I would like to say that you shouldn't worry yourself too much with this as you are definitely not the only one who is going through this. I went through this in first year and I am again in third year so I might know a bit about how you are feeling. Here are some things that I found helpful:

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I left a little note on my door/kitchen which had a bit of info about me such as my name, my course, where I'm from and my socials (you don't have to do all that if you done want to). This helped my flatmates know me a bit more about my interests and me as a person which was a great way to open conversations!

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I invited my flatmates to do a movie night in first year and it was a great to to break the ice and get to know each other

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I went to societies events and uni events such as quizzes and parties and invited my flatmates to come along. But I also went to events myself to make friends in other areas and meet new people!

I know it's harder said then done, but I would honestly not try to stress to much if you are not the closests to your flatmates as there are so many opportunities for you to make other friends in uni, whether that be in your course or in societies/clubs etc. But I hope that this has helped in any way

Please let me know if I can help in any other way!!

Siobhan (student ambassador)

Reply 8

WrexhamUniReps

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Original post by Anonymous

i’m finding uni life to be so lonely. i use to get in with my flatmates but now no one talks to me.

Hi,

Sorry to hear that you are feeling like this.

I would advise you to go and check out what activities and opportunities your student union has to offer as they can provide lots of different things for you to join in with and make new friends within the process.

I hope this helps,

Matt
Wrexham Uni Reps

Reply 9

Kingston Zhi En

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Original post by Anonymous

i’m finding uni life to be so lonely. i use to get in with my flatmates but now no one talks to me.

Hey there, I totally understand how isolating uni life can sometimes be, but it won't always stay that way🤗 I was in a similar situation during my first year at uni but eventually stepped out of my comfort zone and managed to meet and make new friendships by joining different clubs, and working part time as a student ambassador in uni! Other than your flatmates, you might make new friends within your course or during uni events 🙂 hang in there, although it may not seem that way, many people are seeking new friendships as well! I hope you come to enjoy your uni life and journey.

Zhi En
Kingston Student Rep.