Feeling stuck... at almost 29
Hi,
Ive had a hard year. I lost a relationship, I thought was going to last forever due to his infertility and emotional unavailability. I was diagnosed with Gallstones and I am struggling with pain and eating every single day for the past 9 months prior to my diagnosis and surgery date.
Lastly, my career.
I have a Master's in Public Health and although my current job in the Civil Service isn't PH, I have been applying for the past 1-2 years. Ive been in my current role for 3 years.
I feel stuck and like the job rejections, even though I am brushing them off - sting a bit.
My mother constantly makes me feel like I am not doing enough. Invalidates my career and its trajectory.
I know she wants me to work in public health, but no matter how good my applications are, I cannot seem to land an interview. I have had 2 interviews in 2 years. It's a bloody joke.
Anyway, feeling disconnected, disheartened and demoralised.
Has anyone been in a similar situation and can help me navigate this time?
Thank you.
Ive had a hard year. I lost a relationship, I thought was going to last forever due to his infertility and emotional unavailability. I was diagnosed with Gallstones and I am struggling with pain and eating every single day for the past 9 months prior to my diagnosis and surgery date.
Lastly, my career.
I have a Master's in Public Health and although my current job in the Civil Service isn't PH, I have been applying for the past 1-2 years. Ive been in my current role for 3 years.
I feel stuck and like the job rejections, even though I am brushing them off - sting a bit.
My mother constantly makes me feel like I am not doing enough. Invalidates my career and its trajectory.
I know she wants me to work in public health, but no matter how good my applications are, I cannot seem to land an interview. I have had 2 interviews in 2 years. It's a bloody joke.
Anyway, feeling disconnected, disheartened and demoralised.
Has anyone been in a similar situation and can help me navigate this time?
Thank you.
Reply 1
Maybe get any job in the meanwhile while you are looking.
Keep applying and going!
As vague as this sounds, maybe get in touch with agencies with regards to your field.
There is a lot of support out there such as:
-The Samaritans, you can call 116 123, which is available 24 hours a day
-Mind, 0300 123 3393-Saneline, 0300 304 7000, from 4.30pm-10.30pm
-The mix, 0800 808 4994, 11am-11pm
-SHOUT, text 852258, 24 hour text service
-Crises, 741741, text service
-Papyrus, 0800 068 4141, if you have thoughts of suicide or in emotional distress
-Rethink mental health, 0300 5000 927
-No Panic, 0800 138 8889
-Relate, they have a chat advisor
-NHS mental health, 111
-Calm, calm.com-
Mental Health 24/7: 0800 008 6516
-hubofhope website, useful contact information for your local area
You can self refer yourself to talking therapies on the NHS website.
There is the mind forum
Also Facebook groups
You can join support groups You can contact a crises team if things get very bad
Plenty of resources online, infor mation regarding well being.
Keep applying and going!
As vague as this sounds, maybe get in touch with agencies with regards to your field.
There is a lot of support out there such as:
-The Samaritans, you can call 116 123, which is available 24 hours a day
-Mind, 0300 123 3393-Saneline, 0300 304 7000, from 4.30pm-10.30pm
-The mix, 0800 808 4994, 11am-11pm
-SHOUT, text 852258, 24 hour text service
-Crises, 741741, text service
-Papyrus, 0800 068 4141, if you have thoughts of suicide or in emotional distress
-Rethink mental health, 0300 5000 927
-No Panic, 0800 138 8889
-Relate, they have a chat advisor
-NHS mental health, 111
-Calm, calm.com-
Mental Health 24/7: 0800 008 6516
-hubofhope website, useful contact information for your local area
You can self refer yourself to talking therapies on the NHS website.
There is the mind forum
Also Facebook groups
You can join support groups You can contact a crises team if things get very bad
Plenty of resources online, infor mation regarding well being.
Reply 2
Original post
by AnonymousHi,
Ive had a hard year. I lost a relationship, I thought was going to last forever due to his infertility and emotional unavailability. I was diagnosed with Gallstones and I am struggling with pain and eating every single day for the past 9 months prior to my diagnosis and surgery date.
Lastly, my career.
I have a Master's in Public Health and although my current job in the Civil Service isn't PH, I have been applying for the past 1-2 years. Ive been in my current role for 3 years.
I feel stuck and like the job rejections, even though I am brushing them off - sting a bit.
My mother constantly makes me feel like I am not doing enough. Invalidates my career and its trajectory.
I know she wants me to work in public health, but no matter how good my applications are, I cannot seem to land an interview. I have had 2 interviews in 2 years. It's a bloody joke.
Anyway, feeling disconnected, disheartened and demoralised.
Has anyone been in a similar situation and can help me navigate this time?
Thank you.
Ive had a hard year. I lost a relationship, I thought was going to last forever due to his infertility and emotional unavailability. I was diagnosed with Gallstones and I am struggling with pain and eating every single day for the past 9 months prior to my diagnosis and surgery date.
Lastly, my career.
I have a Master's in Public Health and although my current job in the Civil Service isn't PH, I have been applying for the past 1-2 years. Ive been in my current role for 3 years.
I feel stuck and like the job rejections, even though I am brushing them off - sting a bit.
My mother constantly makes me feel like I am not doing enough. Invalidates my career and its trajectory.
I know she wants me to work in public health, but no matter how good my applications are, I cannot seem to land an interview. I have had 2 interviews in 2 years. It's a bloody joke.
Anyway, feeling disconnected, disheartened and demoralised.
Has anyone been in a similar situation and can help me navigate this time?
Thank you.
How are you doing? Don’t worry about your mum, sometimes they don’t realise they aren’t articulating very well, so with regard to PH, what about looking for a funded PhD like a fellowship in an area that interests you? What do you like? (Just remember, the tough moments make us stronger, well done for having the strength to ask 😊)
Reply 3
Original post
by AnonymousHi,
Ive had a hard year. I lost a relationship, I thought was going to last forever due to his infertility and emotional unavailability. I was diagnosed with Gallstones and I am struggling with pain and eating every single day for the past 9 months prior to my diagnosis and surgery date.
Lastly, my career.
I have a Master's in Public Health and although my current job in the Civil Service isn't PH, I have been applying for the past 1-2 years. Ive been in my current role for 3 years.
I feel stuck and like the job rejections, even though I am brushing them off - sting a bit.
My mother constantly makes me feel like I am not doing enough. Invalidates my career and its trajectory.
I know she wants me to work in public health, but no matter how good my applications are, I cannot seem to land an interview. I have had 2 interviews in 2 years. It's a bloody joke.
Anyway, feeling disconnected, disheartened and demoralised.
Has anyone been in a similar situation and can help me navigate this time?
Thank you.
Ive had a hard year. I lost a relationship, I thought was going to last forever due to his infertility and emotional unavailability. I was diagnosed with Gallstones and I am struggling with pain and eating every single day for the past 9 months prior to my diagnosis and surgery date.
Lastly, my career.
I have a Master's in Public Health and although my current job in the Civil Service isn't PH, I have been applying for the past 1-2 years. Ive been in my current role for 3 years.
I feel stuck and like the job rejections, even though I am brushing them off - sting a bit.
My mother constantly makes me feel like I am not doing enough. Invalidates my career and its trajectory.
I know she wants me to work in public health, but no matter how good my applications are, I cannot seem to land an interview. I have had 2 interviews in 2 years. It's a bloody joke.
Anyway, feeling disconnected, disheartened and demoralised.
Has anyone been in a similar situation and can help me navigate this time?
Thank you.
Bad joke, but focus, that you are 29 and thus still have plenty of time, you are much better of, than people in the same situation at 39.
I would take step after step:
1) Get healthy again.
2) Do something fun to treat yourself, that can be as simple as taking private singing lessons or a camping trip or something big, like travelling through China on a bycycle. (You are not often single+young+so desperate you dare to do unreasonable stuff just for fun.)
3)Problem with interviews is, that when you are depressed it is difficult to radiate confidence... but then, you do not apply for your mom, but for yourself. Theoretically you could even study again. So just focus, that you just need one job offer, not ten and look after jobs, which have the potential to make you happy/get you further. This can be a job nearby home, so you have a short commute giving you more time for hobbies, or that job with a lot of client contact, providing you with a lot of transferable skills, or working in a supermarket stacking shelves if that is the best for you?
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