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Withdrawn from my course i feel unfairly

So i was taking resits from first year this year, and frankly i feel the communication was shocking. I was never told when i was resitting or anything and ive now missed the first assessment deadline which means im being withdrawn from my course. I appealed and they’ve shut me down, so looks like it’s game over. I’ve always struggled with mental health and they are aware of this. I’m now stuck because it means i will have to move out of my uni accommodation i have no where else to go other than family in cornwall which means leaving my job and all my friends. I have no idea what to do, i’m genuinely stuck and lost. What hurts most is i failed and now i have to tell everyone that and it feels there’s nothing i can do. I just was looking for some advice on where to go next.

Reply 1

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by Imjustkrn
So i was taking resits from first year this year, and frankly i feel the communication was shocking. I was never told when i was resitting or anything and ive now missed the first assessment deadline which means im being withdrawn from my course. I appealed and they’ve shut me down, so looks like it’s game over. I’ve always struggled with mental health and they are aware of this. I’m now stuck because it means i will have to move out of my uni accommodation i have no where else to go other than family in cornwall which means leaving my job and all my friends. I have no idea what to do, i’m genuinely stuck and lost. What hurts most is i failed and now i have to tell everyone that and it feels there’s nothing i can do. I just was looking for some advice on where to go next.

It is best to see your GP about your mental health.

Can you retake them, retake the year?

You can study any degree you want at The Open University.

There is a lot of support out there such as:

-The Samaritans, you can call 116 123, which is available 24 hours a day

-Mind, 0300 123 3393-Saneline, 0300 304 7000, from 4.30pm-10.30pm

-The mix, 0800 808 4994, 11am-11pm

-SHOUT, text 852258, 24 hour text service

-Crises, 741741, text service

-Papyrus, 0800 068 4141, if you have thoughts of suicide or in emotional distress

-Rethink mental health, 0300 5000 927

-No Panic, 0800 138 8889

-Relate, they have a chat advisor

-NHS mental health, 111

-Calm, calm.com-

Mental Health 24/7: 0800 008 6516

-hubofhope website, useful contact information for your local area

You can self refer yourself to talking therapies on the NHS website.

There is the mind forum

Also Facebook groups

You can join support groups

You can contact a crises team if things get very bad

Plenty of resources online, infor mation regarding well being.

Reply 2

Life is a journey etc, there will always be new opportunities to explore and retry (I went back to uni in my 30s after totally blowing college as a teen) even if it feels a bit overwhelming now. Could you get a more full time/rent paying job where you are? move in with a friend? lots of work about for Christmas etc, even if not big money.

But one thing I'd want to ask, for the sake of accountability. You say their communication was awful, how was yours? did you ask when you were resitting? I know I'm speaking from exp here, but that's the sort of thing I'd have been pretty proactive/pestering people about, if I knew it was a resit and also that I was already somewhat out of the normal class loop. I get you're saying you struggled with mental health which can often affect maintaining contact, I'm just asking in general.

Reply 3

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by StriderHort
Life is a journey etc, there will always be new opportunities to explore and retry (I went back to uni in my 30s after totally blowing college as a teen) even if it feels a bit overwhelming now. Could you get a more full time/rent paying job where you are? move in with a friend? lots of work about for Christmas etc, even if not big money.
But one thing I'd want to ask, for the sake of accountability. You say their communication was awful, how was yours? did you ask when you were resitting? I know I'm speaking from exp here, but that's the sort of thing I'd have been pretty proactive/pestering people about, if I knew it was a resit and also that I was already somewhat out of the normal class loop. I get you're saying you struggled with mental health which can often affect maintaining contact, I'm just asking in general.

I appreciate your reply. I love my current job, it’s not one i plan to stay at forever, but there isn’t enough hours going around to make up the money i’d need which is all the more stressful. I’d possibly have to get a second job which would be possible. And no i do take some accountability i struggle a lot with communicating from my side as well, i have my gp to prove that too. Sometimes my problem is ill find it hard to ask for things because i feel it being a nusance etc. And then it just builds up over time, Like i’m fully aware i should’ve asked more i just sometimes can’t and i don’t even really know why. I’ve been seeking therapy for a year now and ive still not got anything, ive been with a crisis team for some of this year because of how bad things have gotten at times, but once i spiral i cant seem to help myself. But i do feel they should’ve done more especially considering they have been aware of this for the uni and we’ve had many conversations about how to help and work around it. What annoys me most about the whole situation is i feel ive let myself down, im really good at what i do, was regularly getting firsts or close to and i’ve potentially just killed my dream because i get scared to reach out sometimes, i just feel a bit stupid.

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