Is first relationship bit confused and unsure

So our relationship started a month ago. He is really nice guy. He is protective, supportive, caring and love me so much. He had crush on me for months and finally he ask me out and I liked him as well so I said yes.

This is not his first relationship. But this is my first relationship. And I never had a thought about a certain type. However, At first I was excited about the relationship, but suddenly I feel unsure and I'm confused. Sometimes I feel like this is not going to work. But I don't feel like going away from him as well.

I've been single for my whole life. And I'm not emotionally sensitive person (but he is). So my caring side is less than his. He always says I'm the girl he was looking for and I'm the best person for him. But I'm still confused about this.

Reply 1

Dunnig Kruger

Why are you unsure and confused? Why do you feel like this is not going to work?
Your feelings and your thoughts may be well founded.

An extremely common mistake is to spend too long with one's first love. Sunken cost fallacy.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Original post by Dunnig Kruger

Why are you unsure and confused? Why do you feel like this is not going to work?
Your feelings and your thoughts may be well founded.
An extremely common mistake is to spend too long with one's first love. Sunken cost fallacy.

Actually I don't know what I want in a relationship. I don't know if he is the right person for me. I'm so confused. He also know that I'm confused and unsure about this. Should we continue for at least 2 more months and see if I develop more deep feelings for him or should we break up now?

Reply 3

Surnia

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Original post by Anonymous

So our relationship started a month ago. He is really nice guy. He is protective, supportive, caring and love me so much. He had crush on me for months and finally he ask me out and I liked him as well so I said yes.
This is not his first relationship. But this is my first relationship. And I never had a thought about a certain type. However, At first I was excited about the relationship, but suddenly I feel unsure and I'm confused. Sometimes I feel like this is not going to work. But I don't feel like going away from him as well.
I've been single for my whole life. And I'm not emotionally sensitive person (but he is). So my caring side is less than his. He always says I'm the girl he was looking for and I'm the best person for him. But I'm still confused about this.

Get some perspective. You haven't been single your 'whole life' because you should be well into your teens before you start concerning yourself with dating and relationships.

If you dated properly, and for a sensible amount of time, you'll have a reasonable idea of his character, as in, you should have gone out together, judged how the conversation flowed and seen how he interacts with other people as well as you.

There's no guarantees of how a relationship will work out, but you're not giving it a chance. If you treat each other in a loving and caring way, can talk, can enjoy the silences and be supportive what's to worry about? Enjoy what you have, as I don't see what the issue is here.

Reply 4

Zarek

It’s not being sure what you want, and it is common. It can be confusing for the partner who is more serious as it seems like mixed messages and leads to extra upset when the breakup comes. Tell him you want to take things slowly or see if you can end it amicably