17 year old girl seeing a 30 year old man
Objectively need your opinions- should I intervene and tell her parents/ college??
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Yes. Although the age of consent in England + Wales is 16, there are additional laws that protect up to 18yo. This is potentially, and most likely, exploitation and chances are she will not see it. 100% tell someone.
Original post by Anonymous
Yes. Although the age of consent in England + Wales is 16, there are additional laws that protect up to 18yo. This is potentially, and most likely, exploitation and chances are she will not see it. 100% tell someone.
only problem is it’s my ex girlfriend and she may not take it well. All of her friends know but they’ve done nothing to stop it so far. She was 16 when she met him
Original post by Anonymous
only problem is it’s my ex girlfriend and she may not take it well. All of her friends know but they’ve done nothing to stop it so far. She was 16 when she met him
Report it anonymously
Original post by Anonymous
only problem is it’s my ex girlfriend and she may not take it well. All of her friends know but they’ve done nothing to stop it so far. She was 16 when she met him
If you report it to her college, she will not know it was you who reported it because of their own safeguarding regulations.
thank you i’ll try
Original post by Anonymous
If you report it to her college, she will not know it was you who reported it because of their own safeguarding regulations.
she doesn’t go to the college anymore. I’m hoping they will still have some sort of contact with her though
Original post by Anonymous
Yes. Although the age of consent in England + Wales is 16, there are additional laws that protect up to 18yo. This is potentially, and most likely, exploitation and chances are she will not see it. 100% tell someone.
Only if they were in responsibility over her. e.g. a teacher.
Original post by paub
if she is your x leave well alone. thou a bit odd its legal and it will either petter out or last. nothing to do with you.
yeah i’m in two minds tbh. I want nothing to do with her and don’t want my name associated with her
Original post by Anonymous
Yes. Although the age of consent in England + Wales is 16, there are additional laws that protect up to 18yo. This is potentially, and most likely, exploitation and chances are she will not see it. 100% tell someone.
What are these "additional laws" exactly?
The only ones that I'm aware of are in regards to a relationship if the older party is in a position of trust (e.g. a teacher, counsellor etc.), or making explicit visual recordings (e.g. photo's, videos etc.).
There may well be proposals to introduce a "Romeo and Juliet" type law that exists in some European countries (for example, this would make it illegal if, say, there was a 5+ year age gap), but, to my knowledge this has not become mandatory in the UK yet.
Although morally questionable, unless there's evidence he's got explicit images of her, or he's abusing a position of trust, I don't think he's actually broken the law.
https://www.cps.gov.uk/legal-guidance/rape-and-sexual-offences-chapter-6-consent
(edited 2 months ago)
Original post by Anonymous
Objectively need your opinions- should I intervene and tell her parents/ college??
1000 percent why is a 30 year old dating someone that is still technically a child.
Original post by Old Skool Freak
What are these "additional laws" exactly?
The only ones that I'm aware of are in regards to a relationship if the older party is in a position of trust (e.g. a teacher, counsellor etc.), or making explicit visual recordings (e.g. photo's, videos etc.).
There may well be proposals to introduce a "Romeo and Juliet" type law that exists in some European countries (for example, this would make it illegal if, say, there was a 5+ year age gap), but, to my knowledge this has not become mandatory in the UK yet.
Although morally questionable, unless there's evidence he's got explicit images of her, or he's abusing a position of trust, I don't think he's actually broken the law.
https://www.cps.gov.uk/legal-guidance/rape-and-sexual-offences-chapter-6-consent
The only ones that I'm aware of are in regards to a relationship if the older party is in a position of trust (e.g. a teacher, counsellor etc.), or making explicit visual recordings (e.g. photo's, videos etc.).
There may well be proposals to introduce a "Romeo and Juliet" type law that exists in some European countries (for example, this would make it illegal if, say, there was a 5+ year age gap), but, to my knowledge this has not become mandatory in the UK yet.
Although morally questionable, unless there's evidence he's got explicit images of her, or he's abusing a position of trust, I don't think he's actually broken the law.
https://www.cps.gov.uk/legal-guidance/rape-and-sexual-offences-chapter-6-consent
The law gives extra protection to all under-18-year-olds, regardless of whether or not they are over the age of consent. It is illegal:
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to take, show or distribute indecent photographs of a child under the age of 18 (this includes images shared through sexting or sharing nudes)
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to sexually exploit a child under the age of 18
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for a person in a position of trust (for example teachers or care workers) to engage in sexual activity with anyone under the age of 18 who is in the care of their organisation.
https://learning.nspcc.org.uk/child-protection-system/children-the-law
Original post by Old Skool Freak
What are these "additional laws" exactly?
The only ones that I'm aware of are in regards to a relationship if the older party is in a position of trust (e.g. a teacher, counsellor etc.), or making explicit visual recordings (e.g. photo's, videos etc.).
There may well be proposals to introduce a "Romeo and Juliet" type law that exists in some European countries (for example, this would make it illegal if, say, there was a 5+ year age gap), but, to my knowledge this has not become mandatory in the UK yet.
Although morally questionable, unless there's evidence he's got explicit images of her, or he's abusing a position of trust, I don't think he's actually broken the law.
https://www.cps.gov.uk/legal-guidance/rape-and-sexual-offences-chapter-6-consent
The only ones that I'm aware of are in regards to a relationship if the older party is in a position of trust (e.g. a teacher, counsellor etc.), or making explicit visual recordings (e.g. photo's, videos etc.).
There may well be proposals to introduce a "Romeo and Juliet" type law that exists in some European countries (for example, this would make it illegal if, say, there was a 5+ year age gap), but, to my knowledge this has not become mandatory in the UK yet.
Although morally questionable, unless there's evidence he's got explicit images of her, or he's abusing a position of trust, I don't think he's actually broken the law.
https://www.cps.gov.uk/legal-guidance/rape-and-sexual-offences-chapter-6-consent
This.
The police don't do anything even if there's an 19 year old and a 14 year old. The BBC even made a show about young mums and had them on TV once. They won't do anything about a girl probably pursuing somebody she wants.
Original post by Anonymous
Objectively need your opinions- should I intervene and tell her parents/ college??
it's legal. you have no grounds to report him
you can try and talk to her - bc the guy is definitely just another predator, most men who date teens are - but it's probably not gonna change ****. i doubt you'll get through to her. when i was in my teens, i was exactly the same. you're just really naive at 16, 17. like, you think older guys are so responsible, they drive, they can protect you and offer you more and bs like that...
Original post by Jess_hx0
1000 percent why is a 30 year old dating someone that is still technically a child.
More than likely, he sees this as considerably more casual (or at least less of a future) than she does. He gets a hot, young girl who's easily impressed and won't want marriage, kids or very serious commitment anytime soon.
Thats not a defense of him but it answers your question.
Original post by Jess_hx0
1000 percent why is a 30 year old dating someone that is still technically a child.
This is just a way of you saying that young people are more immature than they used to be. 17 cannot be a child because we allow people 16 or over to have sex. A civilised nation does not legally allow children to have sex.
There seems to be push from young people for a change in laws but I wonder what some of their motives are. If it's just 'she might leave me for a 30 year old because I've got no money' that's not really a compelling case because if you've got nothing more than lack of money to bring to a relationship then that's not a meaningful relationship.
My suggestion:
Those aged 16 or 17 can only have sex with those aged 21 or under.
(edited 2 months ago)
Original post by Picnicl
This is just a way of you saying that young people are more immature than they used to be. 17 cannot be a child because we allow people 16 or over to have sex. A civilised nation does not legally allow children to have sex.
There seems to be push from young people for a change in laws but I wonder what some of their motives are. If it's just 'she might leave me for a 30 year old because I've got no money' that's not really a compelling case because if you've got nothing more than lack of money to bring to a relationship then that's not a meaningful relationship.
There seems to be push from young people for a change in laws but I wonder what some of their motives are. If it's just 'she might leave me for a 30 year old because I've got no money' that's not really a compelling case because if you've got nothing more than lack of money to bring to a relationship then that's not a meaningful relationship.
struggling to see your point there…
It's gross but not a crime to 'report' and ultimately none of your business.
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