How to deal with favoritism and unfairness?
I have been dancing at the dance club in my university for around 2 years now. we’re doing ballroom latin. I’ve been through many auditions and now i am in the highest level we have. through all this time, i improved very quickly, even after taking a break, and people always seemed to notice. I always got complimented and to be honest, i myself think i am one of the best dancers in the group. i memorize very fast, never had issues with counting, always told my body suits the dance very well etc. However, through all the shows that we had, i was never once in a place where i didn’t feel like a back up dancer.
There’s this one girl that started with me. She was always a favorite. Teacher’s favorite, there are some students who are in charge and she’s also their favorite and bff. all of the shows we did, she was always in the best spot. all of the social media posts, she’s always put forward in every post with at least 2-3 pics of her. it’s almost like the whole club is just there for her to be the main character. i’ve never seen someone being favored so very obviously.
you might think she’s just better, more talented or experienced. it’s none of that. she’s not so different and much better than most of the dancers who are being treated like her back-ups. I’m not even saying this just for myself, but i know that there’s at least 3-4 more dancers who are just as good. we have shows at the end of the year, for 3 days. she always gets to be in a pattern thats in the front, will be seen most and always gets to be in the first two days.
I tried everything, not just improving my dance but i’m also doing my best to help the club and our community. I know my responsibilities, i get along well with everyone. Nothing helps to be finally noticed. i have heard from these people in charge before things like “you have a star shine, you look so good on stage” than why can’t i ever be seen now?
they’re very sharp with not arguing about the pattern. it’s an absolute NO to complain about it. if i ever try to talk i’ll be seen as selfish, like i’m trying to be put forward and ruining the team work. we can’t ever ask about why this girl is being favored.
do you think there’s anything that could be done to change this? or have you experienced something similar? i just wanted to come here and talk because i’m honestly so exhausted, sick of feeling like i’m not enough.
There’s this one girl that started with me. She was always a favorite. Teacher’s favorite, there are some students who are in charge and she’s also their favorite and bff. all of the shows we did, she was always in the best spot. all of the social media posts, she’s always put forward in every post with at least 2-3 pics of her. it’s almost like the whole club is just there for her to be the main character. i’ve never seen someone being favored so very obviously.
you might think she’s just better, more talented or experienced. it’s none of that. she’s not so different and much better than most of the dancers who are being treated like her back-ups. I’m not even saying this just for myself, but i know that there’s at least 3-4 more dancers who are just as good. we have shows at the end of the year, for 3 days. she always gets to be in a pattern thats in the front, will be seen most and always gets to be in the first two days.
I tried everything, not just improving my dance but i’m also doing my best to help the club and our community. I know my responsibilities, i get along well with everyone. Nothing helps to be finally noticed. i have heard from these people in charge before things like “you have a star shine, you look so good on stage” than why can’t i ever be seen now?
they’re very sharp with not arguing about the pattern. it’s an absolute NO to complain about it. if i ever try to talk i’ll be seen as selfish, like i’m trying to be put forward and ruining the team work. we can’t ever ask about why this girl is being favored.
do you think there’s anything that could be done to change this? or have you experienced something similar? i just wanted to come here and talk because i’m honestly so exhausted, sick of feeling like i’m not enough.
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