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need 2nd year housing advice

whilst i know i don't want to live with my flatmates again next year im a bit stuck. i have another friend group (using that term loosely) but i don't know how to ask where they are with their house hunt or if they'd even be willing to let me join their group. if i do get to join them, another girl who asked me about housing who i don't massively want to live with would be upset.
should i just suck it up and ask the first group directly at the risk of looking weird/ being pitied? should i stick with the other girl even though im not very convinced? should i look for something else entirely?
(edited 2 months ago)
Original post by moiramistakeee
whilst i know i don't want to live with my flatmates again next year im a bit stuck. i have another friend group (using that term loosely) but i don't know how to ask where they are with their house hunt or if they'd even be willing to let me join their group. if i do get to join them, another girl who asked me about housing who i don't massively want to live with would be upset.
should i just suck it up and ask the first group directly at the risk of looking weird/ being pitied? should i stick with the other girl even though im not very convinced? should i look for something else entirely?

Hello!

Having done the whole flat/housing search 4 years in a row, it has always been the flatmate dynamic that concerned me the most, so I understand this sentiment all too well.

My first thing I have to say is ALWAYS do what is right for you, go with your gut and don't worry about feeling a certain way about it as hard as it is to do sometimes.

Where you will live for a whole year is very important - it is not something to let worries about potentially upsetting someone, or feeling like you might be judged if you asked to live with a group of people, get in the way of what is right for you.

Both for yourself and any other concerned parties, there are many options of where you can live - flat share, house share, university halls, private sector halls - so if you are concerned about other people, know that they have many options still, as do you!

Quite often if you have certain requirements, many providers will try their best to accommodate and fulfil your needs - for example if you have a preference for the specification of people you would like to live with. As a Master's student, I requested to live with two 3rd Year friends I have and the rest to be 3rd Year and Master's students. Remember that you are a customer at the end of the day and many providers want to do what is right for you in order to have you stay with them, not just for a year, but two or even three!

Also, who knows - sometimes living with someone unexpected is a blessing in disguise - so make sure you keep your options open!

Finally, I just want to emphasise that while it is good to get accommodation sorted early on, you are in no rush, and shouldn't let external pressures, both from providers and potential roommates rush you into a decision that is very important. I have sorted my accommodation in spring each year running now (that being said, accommodation in Liverpool and my own university tends to have availability throughout the year even until year 13 results day/clearing) as I have done what is right for me. Have it on your mind, but don't let others rush you into a decision that needs to be the best one for you!

I hope some of what I have said has been useful, and wish you the best with accommodation and future flatmates. If you want to ask or need anything else, let me know!

Have a Happy Holidays and a Happy New Year! 🎄🎇

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