bf blocked and unadded me randomly out of anger (URGENT) XX
ok so quick context for background info
This is my 1st relationship, and we have been together for 2 years. my bf is very anti woman. and what i mean, is when he's seeing a girl (aka me) he will cut off contact with every girl he knows because he thinks its 'disloyal.' Some people might say that this is good, but personally i feel like its healthy to speak to other girls (AT ACQUAINTANCE LEVELS, NOT on a personal level) so that he doesnt just have a male perspective when it comes to girls and relationships etc. (i hope this makes sense)
However, recently he's become very distant and dry towards me, and he's been talking to a lot of other girls, and he's being wayy to friendly. for example, he will send them purple snaps on snapchat, have inside jokes etc. and this makes me very worried since this is not like him at all. Lately ive been feeling very neglected, and it makes me feel like he doesnt consider me like a girlfriend at all, as if im the acquaintance.
Yesterday, i went on his account and i saw him messaging this girl, they were talking about video games. Out of anger, I called him a 'beg' and i told him to stop talking to her, or at least ask me about it. he got really angry, and called me a beg as well, for talking to boys. and yes, he has full access to all my accounts so he can clearly see exactly who im talking to and what im saying. he told me 'lets see who's the beg now, because we're done.' and BLOCKED ME.
and yes, he straight up blocked me. Removed me off everything.
Then, a good 8 hours later, he messaged me through his cousin's phone, asking me to accept his friend request on snap.
What should i do?? If he's being this petty, is it worth going back and forgiving him?? In my eyes, i feel like a dog on a leash, and that he's only coming back to me because he misses the pleasure i gave him, not because he regrets his actions.
am i overthinking, should i just get back with him, or should i move on?
This is my 1st relationship, and we have been together for 2 years. my bf is very anti woman. and what i mean, is when he's seeing a girl (aka me) he will cut off contact with every girl he knows because he thinks its 'disloyal.' Some people might say that this is good, but personally i feel like its healthy to speak to other girls (AT ACQUAINTANCE LEVELS, NOT on a personal level) so that he doesnt just have a male perspective when it comes to girls and relationships etc. (i hope this makes sense)
However, recently he's become very distant and dry towards me, and he's been talking to a lot of other girls, and he's being wayy to friendly. for example, he will send them purple snaps on snapchat, have inside jokes etc. and this makes me very worried since this is not like him at all. Lately ive been feeling very neglected, and it makes me feel like he doesnt consider me like a girlfriend at all, as if im the acquaintance.
Yesterday, i went on his account and i saw him messaging this girl, they were talking about video games. Out of anger, I called him a 'beg' and i told him to stop talking to her, or at least ask me about it. he got really angry, and called me a beg as well, for talking to boys. and yes, he has full access to all my accounts so he can clearly see exactly who im talking to and what im saying. he told me 'lets see who's the beg now, because we're done.' and BLOCKED ME.
and yes, he straight up blocked me. Removed me off everything.
Then, a good 8 hours later, he messaged me through his cousin's phone, asking me to accept his friend request on snap.
What should i do?? If he's being this petty, is it worth going back and forgiving him?? In my eyes, i feel like a dog on a leash, and that he's only coming back to me because he misses the pleasure i gave him, not because he regrets his actions.
am i overthinking, should i just get back with him, or should i move on?
Reply 1
If I were in your shoes I'd move on... This sounds like really childish behaviour from him. If you get back with him, this is not the last tantrum he'll throw 
Reply 2
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by anosmianAcrimonyIf I were in your shoes I'd move on... This sounds like really childish behaviour from him. If you get back with him, this is not the last tantrum he'll throw
yeah this is so true... im just finding it quite difficult, because im always getting upset over how he can just do that.
Reply 3
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Go for the preemptive dumping, you’ll feel much better for it in the long term
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by ZarekGo for the preemptive dumping, you’ll feel much better for it in the long term
Definitely. If she gets back together, she'll end up dumping him somewhere down the line anyway, and when she does she'll have the additional feeling of "why on earth did I let this guy waste EVEN MORE of my time??"
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by Anonymousyeah this is so true... im just finding it quite difficult, because im always getting upset over how he can just do that.
That's very understandable, this is upsetting for sure!
Reply 6
Yeah I'd walk away, and find a relationship that isn't so dominated by mistrust
This whole needing access to each others accounts and spying on each other and your friends? not normal at all. Also the idea that you can't interact with the opposite sex is toxic and sexist as all hell, (he's pretty much saying women have no value outside of mating and that he himself can not be trusted)
If this is your first relationship, and you've never cheated, then you 100% don't deserve to be putting up with this mans baggage and nonsense.
This whole needing access to each others accounts and spying on each other and your friends? not normal at all. Also the idea that you can't interact with the opposite sex is toxic and sexist as all hell, (he's pretty much saying women have no value outside of mating and that he himself can not be trusted)
If this is your first relationship, and you've never cheated, then you 100% don't deserve to be putting up with this mans baggage and nonsense.
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by StriderHortYeah I'd walk away, and find a relationship that isn't so dominated by mistrust
This whole needing access to each others accounts and spying on each other and your friends? not normal at all. Also the idea that you can't interact with the opposite sex is toxic and sexist as all hell, (he's pretty much saying women have no value outside of mating and that he himself can not be trusted)
If this is your first relationship, and you've never cheated, then you 100% don't deserve to be putting up with this mans baggage and nonsense.
This whole needing access to each others accounts and spying on each other and your friends? not normal at all. Also the idea that you can't interact with the opposite sex is toxic and sexist as all hell, (he's pretty much saying women have no value outside of mating and that he himself can not be trusted)
If this is your first relationship, and you've never cheated, then you 100% don't deserve to be putting up with this mans baggage and nonsense.
yeah ur so right. i went to school today and i tried not to make eye contact with him. i don’t think he cares that much to be honest. he’s done so much stuff to me, for example he made me cry in front of his friends and didn’t even bother to apologise until one of his friends told him to say sorry to me. personally thinking about all this stuff and his childish behaviour is actually making me feel like he ain’t worth my time.
i did so much for him, why this sudden change?
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by anosmianAcrimonyDefinitely. If she gets back together, she'll end up dumping him somewhere down the line anyway, and when she does she'll have the additional feeling of "why on earth did I let this guy waste EVEN MORE of my time??"
true. but it obviously makes me a little sad because he used to care about me so much. it’s only recently that he’s been acting distant to me. he openly admitted to me that i’m not the source of his entire happiness and that he finally felt secure about himself. but that’s no excuse to drop me entirely, is it?
if his ego is going to be that high and if he’s going to air me like this, is it best to just leave it . i feel like i’m worth so much more.
Reply 9
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I'd leave him. Having full access to your phone to observe conversations with others is not normal behaviour. Why was this even implemented?
You're worth a lot more than you realise, and someone out there will treat you miles better with additional respect than this guy ever will.
You're worth a lot more than you realise, and someone out there will treat you miles better with additional respect than this guy ever will.
Reply 10
I don't think he wants to be in a relationship with you anymore. I think you should move on.
My hunch is that he was looking for you to give him an excuse to lash out and break up. He acted rashly. He probably hasn't secured a replacement for you, yet. Hence why he is messaging you again.
That's speculation on my part - but it's a common pattern with these sorts of mentally volatile people.
My hunch is that he was looking for you to give him an excuse to lash out and break up. He acted rashly. He probably hasn't secured a replacement for you, yet. Hence why he is messaging you again.
That's speculation on my part - but it's a common pattern with these sorts of mentally volatile people.
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