My boyfriend can't stay hard or ejaculate
Basically what the title says. All through our relationship he's struggled to stay hard and he's never managed to ejaculate around me or by himself and we've been together for 6 months now. Is there anything that can be done as he feels really bad about it
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Reply 1
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by AnonymousBasically what the title says. All through our relationship he's struggled to stay hard and he's never managed to ejaculate around me or by himself and we've been together for 6 months now. Is there anything that can be done as he feels really bad about it
There can be many reasons for these problems. They can include stress, anxiety, medical conditions or lifestyle factors.
It is important that he meet a doctor (urologist) to rule out any organic pathology.
He should not take pills that can help with erectile dysfunction, but they must be prescribed by a specialist doctor.
Sandro
Reply 2
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by NitrotolueneThere can be many reasons for these problems. They can include stress, anxiety, medical conditions or lifestyle factors.
It is important that he meet a doctor (urologist) to rule out any organic pathology.
He should not take pills that can help with erectile dysfunction, but they must be prescribed by a specialist doctor.
Sandro
It is important that he meet a doctor (urologist) to rule out any organic pathology.
He should not take pills that can help with erectile dysfunction, but they must be prescribed by a specialist doctor.
Sandro
What can we do to help it?
Reply 3
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by AnonymousWhat can we do to help it?
Not much if you’ve been patient and tried different approaches over the course of 6 months.
As above, there’s a whole bunch of things that might be causing this so a doctors appointment is the first step.
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by Admit-OneNot much if you’ve been patient and tried different approaches over the course of 6 months.
As above, there’s a whole bunch of things that might be causing this so a doctors appointment is the first step.
As above, there’s a whole bunch of things that might be causing this so a doctors appointment is the first step.
We're both new to this and don't really know what we're doing either which doesn't help. We have tried a few different things too.
Reply 5
i assume you are both in your early 20s
Reply 6
i think your boyfriend needs to see a doctor. erectile dysfunction can be a real problem
Reply 7
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by H8Courtship217i assume you are both in your early 20s
Yes we are both 20
Reply 8
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by AnonymousYes we are both 20
Has he been to the doctor yet?
Reply 9
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by ageshallnotHas he been to the doctor yet?
Nope
Reply 10
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by AnonymousYes we are both 20
lucky, lots of people go well into their 20s, or even 30s as virgins or older
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by AnonymousNope
Then that's the next step, without question.
Reply 12
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by AnonymousBasically what the title says. All through our relationship he's struggled to stay hard and he's never managed to ejaculate around me or by himself and we've been together for 6 months now. Is there anything that can be done as he feels really bad about it
I struggle to stay hard and it was from too much masturbating when younger. just focus on giving receiving pleasure to each other build up trust and reduce performance anxiety.
morning sex will help and assisting Puting on condom.
Viagra short term fix, it can be brought own brand very cheaply at chemist, but does have side effects. Can cause flush/ head ache but I feel for you both.
Reply 13
Viagara could be a short term fix. Aside from this, I would advise going to the GP and getting tested for testosterone levels. You can order private tests for about £30 online if he feels too embarrassed to do this. Has he had this issue before, or are you his first sexual partner? Is there something troubling him e.g. stress, relationship issues? I know these can sometimes be difficult to answer in honesty at fear of hurting the other/yourself but they're important questions to ask.
I know the effect this can have on confidence and if you truly want to be together, then sex is quite an important aspect of a relationship and it's important you work on this together. Well done for reaching out, it's not an easy thing to do :-)
Best of luck x
I know the effect this can have on confidence and if you truly want to be together, then sex is quite an important aspect of a relationship and it's important you work on this together. Well done for reaching out, it's not an easy thing to do :-)
Best of luck x
Reply 14
He's admitted to doing prone masturbation and he said he's only recently found out that it can cause problems. Idk what we can do to fix it
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by AnonymousHe's admitted to doing prone masturbation and he said he's only recently found out that it can cause problems. Idk what we can do to fix it
I feel for you both, masturbation very nice sensation but does have consequences.. lots self love with each other, and your bf touching himself but not climaxing... bringing himself ti brink then holding back.. msg me privately if need be and will relay what sex therapist advised me im Loz nurse from Cornwall but confess am 46.
Reply 17
the unfortunate unintended consequences too.much masturbation..explained from brain perspective https://youtu.be/pkZXEf304ss
but with love and compassion trust between you both, you can harden the wood of your bf pencil pardon pun & satisfy each others mind body and soul
but with love and compassion trust between you both, you can harden the wood of your bf pencil pardon pun & satisfy each others mind body and soul
Reply 18
Hi, Honestly it happen with boys and same with girls. Sex is not always about ejacuation or Orgasm. sometimes you do sex and at last nothing happen. I would suggest you both openly speak to each other about your fantasy, your tell him what are your body parts which are prone when he touches, kiss you there. You also wear some seductive dress or show him some seductive sign. Which you easily learn from internet. Everything will be well soon. Don't take much stress.
Reply 19
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by AnonymousBasically what the title says. All through our relationship he's struggled to stay hard and he's never managed to ejaculate around me or by himself and we've been together for 6 months now. Is there anything that can be done as he feels really bad about it
I feel for your bf, been there myself. lots reassurance massage foreplay and remember it’s not you, he still thinks your amazing, think time of day too e.g tiredness won’t help.. save play time to mornings? I am sorry did not see this post earlier
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