So lonely at Uni?
Hi,
I'm a first year at a Uni local to me. I have made some nice friends but recently I feel as if they don't really understand me as much as they do with each other. I often feel as I'm left out of the conversations (ik they don't do this on purpose) and it feels like they are speaking to each other rather than me. When I try to join in, they don't really seem motivated to talk to me. It really doesn't help that I commute. There's a really big social event coming up and unfortunately I'm not able to make it. Everyone else is able to get there and it feels awful. I just would like some advice on how to feel less alone.
I'm a first year at a Uni local to me. I have made some nice friends but recently I feel as if they don't really understand me as much as they do with each other. I often feel as I'm left out of the conversations (ik they don't do this on purpose) and it feels like they are speaking to each other rather than me. When I try to join in, they don't really seem motivated to talk to me. It really doesn't help that I commute. There's a really big social event coming up and unfortunately I'm not able to make it. Everyone else is able to get there and it feels awful. I just would like some advice on how to feel less alone.
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by AnonymousHi,
I'm a first year at a Uni local to me. I have made some nice friends but recently I feel as if they don't really understand me as much as they do with each other. I often feel as I'm left out of the conversations (ik they don't do this on purpose) and it feels like they are speaking to each other rather than me. When I try to join in, they don't really seem motivated to talk to me. It really doesn't help that I commute. There's a really big social event coming up and unfortunately I'm not able to make it. Everyone else is able to get there and it feels awful. I just would like some advice on how to feel less alone.
I'm a first year at a Uni local to me. I have made some nice friends but recently I feel as if they don't really understand me as much as they do with each other. I often feel as I'm left out of the conversations (ik they don't do this on purpose) and it feels like they are speaking to each other rather than me. When I try to join in, they don't really seem motivated to talk to me. It really doesn't help that I commute. There's a really big social event coming up and unfortunately I'm not able to make it. Everyone else is able to get there and it feels awful. I just would like some advice on how to feel less alone.
Have you asked about staying over with friends for social events? or even if your university offer halls rooms on day rates to help with staying over?
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by AnonymousHi,
I'm a first year at a Uni local to me. I have made some nice friends but recently I feel as if they don't really understand me as much as they do with each other. I often feel as I'm left out of the conversations (ik they don't do this on purpose) and it feels like they are speaking to each other rather than me. When I try to join in, they don't really seem motivated to talk to me. It really doesn't help that I commute. There's a really big social event coming up and unfortunately I'm not able to make it. Everyone else is able to get there and it feels awful. I just would like some advice on how to feel less alone.
I'm a first year at a Uni local to me. I have made some nice friends but recently I feel as if they don't really understand me as much as they do with each other. I often feel as I'm left out of the conversations (ik they don't do this on purpose) and it feels like they are speaking to each other rather than me. When I try to join in, they don't really seem motivated to talk to me. It really doesn't help that I commute. There's a really big social event coming up and unfortunately I'm not able to make it. Everyone else is able to get there and it feels awful. I just would like some advice on how to feel less alone.
Hi there,
I hope you are doing good. I feel sorry for you and I can understand how it feels when you are trying to fit in your own friend group and when things seems to feel different even though everyone is the same. I can feel you. But always remember if there is someone that is always going to be there for you will be you . You must be thinking easier said than done right? But trust me this is just a phase of your life. After a few years you might think about these days and feel naive to think this way. Now let's talk about how you can feel less lonely, Try making new friends, joining new hobbies, try writing journals or poems or drawing; it doesn't have to be nice or flawless dear. Just do what makes you feel at ease and keeps you busy as well. I try going on a walk or playing with my neighbour's dog when i feel lonely.
Hope this helps
Regards
Amanjoti | Coventry University Student Ambassador |
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by AnonymousHi,
I'm a first year at a Uni local to me. I have made some nice friends but recently I feel as if they don't really understand me as much as they do with each other. I often feel as I'm left out of the conversations (ik they don't do this on purpose) and it feels like they are speaking to each other rather than me. When I try to join in, they don't really seem motivated to talk to me. It really doesn't help that I commute. There's a really big social event coming up and unfortunately I'm not able to make it. Everyone else is able to get there and it feels awful. I just would like some advice on how to feel less alone.
I'm a first year at a Uni local to me. I have made some nice friends but recently I feel as if they don't really understand me as much as they do with each other. I often feel as I'm left out of the conversations (ik they don't do this on purpose) and it feels like they are speaking to each other rather than me. When I try to join in, they don't really seem motivated to talk to me. It really doesn't help that I commute. There's a really big social event coming up and unfortunately I'm not able to make it. Everyone else is able to get there and it feels awful. I just would like some advice on how to feel less alone.
Advice I’ve heard is to “turn half your brain off” when conversing with others - just go with the flow and make connecting points from what you’ve said and what they’ve said - to what you would say next. Stay calm and be more freely open conversing instead of feeling an overwhelming pressure to decide what to say next!
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