Preferred Name at Uni

Hi, I'm just finish my ucas application and im starting to receive offers.
Im a trans man but I'm not out at my college so I didn't feel comfortable putting my preferred name on my application. It's the away to add it before I start uni next year. I'm also worried about my parents finding out so is the away to do that without them knowing?
I feel like I'm in an awkward possibly because my dead name is my middle name, which is in English while my first name is staying the same as it gender neutral in my native language. But no one calls me it except my family and family friends so it feels really awkward when people especially teachers say it. So at college I've been going by my middle name.
I just want to start Uni without having to correct people constantly and then also explain myself.
If it helps I've applied to UEA, Reading, Southampton and Nottingham Trent
Thank you for ant help and advice.

Hi, I'm just finish my ucas application and im starting to receive offers.
Im a trans man but I'm not out at my college so I didn't feel comfortable putting my preferred name on my application. It's the away to add it before I start uni next year. I'm also worried about my parents finding out so is the away to do that without them knowing?
I feel like I'm in an awkward possibly because my dead name is my middle name, which is in English while my first name is staying the same as it gender neutral in my native language. But no one calls me it except my family and family friends so it feels really awkward when people especially teachers say it. So at college I've been going by my middle name.
I just want to start Uni without having to correct people constantly and then also explain myself.
If it helps I've applied to UEA, Reading, Southampton and Nottingham Trent
Thank you for ant help and advice.

Hi there,
First of all, congratulations on finishing your UCAS application and starting to receive offers—that’s a huge milestone! It’s completely understandable that you’d want to navigate this transition in a way that feels comfortable and authentic to you, so let me reassure you that universities, including UEA, are generally very supportive when it comes to chosen names and gender identity.
At UEA, for example, once you’ve accepted an offer, you’ll be able to access your student record system. From there, you’ll have the option to update your preferred name, which is what will appear on class lists, your university email, and any non-official communications. Your legal name would still be used on official documents like degree certificates unless you choose to legally change it later.
If you’re worried about your parents finding out, rest assured that updating your preferred name for university use doesn’t change your legal name or appear on documents sent to them, like tuition fee invoices. You can handle this discreetly, and universities respect your privacy in such matters.
It might also be worth contacting the admissions or student services team at the universities you’ve applied to. UEA, for instance, has a dedicated student support service and a really welcoming LGBTQ+ community. They’ll be happy to guide you through updating your details and ensuring your start at university is as smooth as possible.
Lastly, since you mentioned feeling awkward being called by your current name, starting university could be a great fresh start for introducing your preferred name. By updating your details early, lecturers and peers will only know you by the name you choose, and you won’t have to explain yourself repeatedly.
You’re taking a big step forward, and it’s okay to feel nervous about this process, but universities prioritise creating an inclusive and supportive environment for all students. If you need any more help or advice, don’t hesitate to ask! 😊
Best,
Daniel
PhD Biology