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hair loss and comparing myself impacting my confidence

hey,
im currently writing this post whilst in tears 😭, but ive been experiencing a lot of hair loss as a 19yr old girl. It has been happening since i was 16, but i didn't think much of it as I thought it was the hormones kicking in. But now it’s gone to a point where I lose a 2 handfuls of hair, especially after i wash my hair, I don’t ever colour or use heat on my hair. My hair’s thinned a lot. I used to have the most thickest and prettiest hair, and it’s been impacting my confidence. I spoke to my mum just after my shower right now whilst in tears and showed her the amount i lost but she didnt seem to care. She just laughed at me and picked out my other flaws and made me feel bad about them. I know it’s silly to cry over my hair, but I’m a girl, my hair is important to me. I said that to her, but she and my sister just laughed at me. I want to speak to a doctor about it, but my mum kept making fun and yelling at me saying it isnt a big issue. They didnt seem to really understand, so I just went to the bathroom to cry it out. But all i think abt is now is how worthless I am. Ive got acne that started off after i started a scrub 2 years ago and I cannot control or stop. I’m not in uni bc i took a gap year to apply for a competitive course, and my parents make me feel like a failure. I feel like I’m not worth anything or good at anything. I dont feel pretty, smart or anything. What maked it worse to me is that 4 months ago i realised my ex bf was talking to multiple girls behind my ack after i managed to access his socials. That obvs broke me. But they were all so pretty and all I do now is compare myself. I dont know what to do. I feel like i have no value.
oh girl this breaks my heart :frown: but just to let you know, you can book your own gp appointments, and if you feel anxious take along one of your friends. i’m so sorry your mum and sister treated you that way! you do have value, try to stay positive❤️
Original post by Anonymous
hey,
im currently writing this post whilst in tears 😭, but ive been experiencing a lot of hair loss as a 19yr old girl. It has been happening since i was 16, but i didn't think much of it as I thought it was the hormones kicking in. But now it’s gone to a point where I lose a 2 handfuls of hair, especially after i wash my hair, I don’t ever colour or use heat on my hair. My hair’s thinned a lot. I used to have the most thickest and prettiest hair, and it’s been impacting my confidence. I spoke to my mum just after my shower right now whilst in tears and showed her the amount i lost but she didnt seem to care. She just laughed at me and picked out my other flaws and made me feel bad about them. I know it’s silly to cry over my hair, but I’m a girl, my hair is important to me. I said that to her, but she and my sister just laughed at me. I want to speak to a doctor about it, but my mum kept making fun and yelling at me saying it isnt a big issue. They didnt seem to really understand, so I just went to the bathroom to cry it out. But all i think abt is now is how worthless I am. Ive got acne that started off after i started a scrub 2 years ago and I cannot control or stop. I’m not in uni bc i took a gap year to apply for a competitive course, and my parents make me feel like a failure. I feel like I’m not worth anything or good at anything. I dont feel pretty, smart or anything. What maked it worse to me is that 4 months ago i realised my ex bf was talking to multiple girls behind my ack after i managed to access his socials. That obvs broke me. But they were all so pretty and all I do now is compare myself. I dont know what to do. I feel like i have no value.

Please visit Dermatologist, can help to resolve your hair loss issue 👍
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Original post by Anonymous
hey,
im currently writing this post whilst in tears 😭, but ive been experiencing a lot of hair loss as a 19yr old girl. It has been happening since i was 16, but i didn't think much of it as I thought it was the hormones kicking in. But now it’s gone to a point where I lose a 2 handfuls of hair, especially after i wash my hair, I don’t ever colour or use heat on my hair. My hair’s thinned a lot. I used to have the most thickest and prettiest hair, and it’s been impacting my confidence. I spoke to my mum just after my shower right now whilst in tears and showed her the amount i lost but she didnt seem to care. She just laughed at me and picked out my other flaws and made me feel bad about them. I know it’s silly to cry over my hair, but I’m a girl, my hair is important to me. I said that to her, but she and my sister just laughed at me. I want to speak to a doctor about it, but my mum kept making fun and yelling at me saying it isnt a big issue. They didnt seem to really understand, so I just went to the bathroom to cry it out. But all i think abt is now is how worthless I am. Ive got acne that started off after i started a scrub 2 years ago and I cannot control or stop. I’m not in uni bc i took a gap year to apply for a competitive course, and my parents make me feel like a failure. I feel like I’m not worth anything or good at anything. I dont feel pretty, smart or anything. What maked it worse to me is that 4 months ago i realised my ex bf was talking to multiple girls behind my ack after i managed to access his socials. That obvs broke me. But they were all so pretty and all I do now is compare myself. I dont know what to do. I feel like i have no value.
Hey. It might just be deficiencies. I've had thinner hair as I've grown and more recently my parting looks really bad. Forget your mum, just call the GP to talk about your symptoms. Say you're worried about deficiencies, and tell them any other symptoms you might have like fatigue, low mood etc. They'll get you a blood test and prescribe supplements if you need them. My skin has also been bad recently, and I know it really gets you down about things, especially when your skin/hair was healthy before. It will get better though and you'll start feeling like yourself again.

Your family have some major issues to be treating you like that. I'm assuming they're miserable or find satisfaction tearing people down. That reflects their own deep issues and doesn't reflect you whatsoever. I would recommend distancing yourself from them. Focus on yourself, your life, your health. I really mean it, it's the best thing you can do right now. Really really take care of yourself.
Reply 4
Original post by Anonymous
hey,
im currently writing this post whilst in tears 😭, but ive been experiencing a lot of hair loss as a 19yr old girl. It has been happening since i was 16, but i didn't think much of it as I thought it was the hormones kicking in. But now it’s gone to a point where I lose a 2 handfuls of hair, especially after i wash my hair, I don’t ever colour or use heat on my hair. My hair’s thinned a lot. I used to have the most thickest and prettiest hair, and it’s been impacting my confidence. I spoke to my mum just after my shower right now whilst in tears and showed her the amount i lost but she didnt seem to care. She just laughed at me and picked out my other flaws and made me feel bad about them. I know it’s silly to cry over my hair, but I’m a girl, my hair is important to me. I said that to her, but she and my sister just laughed at me. I want to speak to a doctor about it, but my mum kept making fun and yelling at me saying it isnt a big issue. They didnt seem to really understand, so I just went to the bathroom to cry it out. But all i think abt is now is how worthless I am. Ive got acne that started off after i started a scrub 2 years ago and I cannot control or stop. I’m not in uni bc i took a gap year to apply for a competitive course, and my parents make me feel like a failure. I feel like I’m not worth anything or good at anything. I dont feel pretty, smart or anything. What maked it worse to me is that 4 months ago i realised my ex bf was talking to multiple girls behind my ack after i managed to access his socials. That obvs broke me. But they were all so pretty and all I do now is compare myself. I dont know what to do. I feel like i have no value.

I am very sorry to hear of this, BUT do not despair because you are young and likely it is a temporary thing. I would book appointment with a GP. There are a number of good things ,such as tablet form MINOXIDIL (as opposed to the usual topical minoxidil which you put on scalp). Tablet (i.e Oral) Minoxidil is very good and will help greatly. But first go see Doctor.
stress ,anxiety can cause hairloss ,so do best to stay calm . Also get yourself a good Multivitamin and Biotin tablets from BOOTS or similar store. Biotin is very good for hair. INFACT ask your GP /Doctor to give you a Blood Test for Vitamin Levels firstly as could be a lack of a certain vitamin like Iron etc >
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