Lesbian problems

Hello, I have this best friend of mine well she used to be my best friend. We was both in relationships at the end of last year. I was with my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years and she was with her girlfriend of 6 years. We ended up falling in love with each other naturally and catching feelings therefore we had to do the right thing and break up with our partners. Her breakup was more sticky as she wasn’t getting on well with her partner during the time and they was also living together in a flat. She moved out of the flat due to being in love with me and we was seeing each other for 8 months. During this time her ex was still in love with her but feelings wasn’t the same on my friends part as she had feelings for me. However during the end of the 8 months she decided that we wasn’t working out as we were getting toxic and decided she wanted to end things and keep the friendship as she didn’t want to loose me at all and if we carried on like the way we was this may lead to us not wanting anything to do with each other at all and she didn’t want that as we was friends before and we also share the same friendship group. I was very hurt over the breakup and we still stayed very close friends but I still wanted more than being friends. How ever a few weeks into being friends she told me that she missed her ex girlfriend and the flat they lived at and wanted to get back with her. I was extremely heartbroken by this and couldn’t believe what was happening therefore I went mad and said a lot of hurtful things to her and her ex due to how upset I was. It took a while for us to become good friends again as I was hurt from her getting back with her ex and she was upset with how I reacted to her getting back with her ex as I was threatening, would say hurtful things and made her out to be a **** person. The easiest thing would of been to cut all ties completely but she was my best friend and I didn’t want to loose her. Plus she was in my friendship group so when we would go out she would get invited. That was another reason we decided to stay friends to keep the peace in the friendship group. However last time we went out a month ago she was very close and flirty with me and we was speaking on text for 2 days later flirting and her saying she still finds me attractive and would of kissed me etc. She said feelings came back on that night out due to how close we became again. The week later she went away for the weekend with her girlfriend and she told her girlfriend about the flirting and feelings on the night out between me and her and the girlfriend was a little bit upset but forgave her as she said it could be worse and as long as it doesn’t happen again. My friend told me that she regretted it and won’t happen again. I haven’t seen her in 2 or 3 weeks and I know we are going out soon again as a group maybe she won’t do anything but I’m not sure as I never expected her to do what she had done last month when we went out. It’s giving mixed signals and uncertainty and I don’t think her girlfriend should of forgave her. However it’s hard when I still have feelings for her

i know it is hard to accept but even though you may still have feelings for her and vice versa she clearly doesn't respect you enough to deserve you girlyy
at some point you will learn same with everyone else that no friendship is worth keeping if the other person doesn't respect you no matter how long its been going on for (mixed signals is NOT respect for your feelings)
you will be SO much happier if you remove yourself from this toxic situation and give yourself time to process what's happened - not saying you should drop her completely cut all ties etc (although that is what i would do but i understand not everyone is willing to be alone lmao) but just distance yourself from her for a while and allow yourself to be disappointed over it as it sounds really upsetting (つ╥﹏╥)つ
i hope you are doing okay and take care of yourself whatever decision you make please make it for YOU and only YOU not a relationship but for your happiness
i really hopes this helps even if its just a tiny bit

Hello, thank you so much for your advice. When she told me she regretted it and it won’t happen again I came out and told her I still had feelings for her and she said she was unaware of my feelings and thought I was over her. I have no idea why she would flirt with her ex behind her girlfriends back who she asked for back! It makes no sense. I guess I have some sort of separation issues as she was very close to me and I still would go to her to tell anything to and still do. As I’m going through a lot at the moment I feel I can only tell her things and confide in her more than any of my other friends so it’s hard…

it sounds rough 😭 i cant see why she would think that you would get over her that quickly considering you were best friends and making you aware she was talking to exes etc it just seems deliberately mean and i have a bad feeling about it based on what you have said
like i said what i would do is just distance myself so i can give my brain some time to process what has happened and make a decision that is in my best interest
if you need anyone to talk to btw about anything than please reach out im always here !! i really hope things will get better for you but your doing amazing <3

Hello, I have this best friend of mine well she used to be my best friend. We was both in relationships at the end of last year. I was with my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years and she was with her girlfriend of 6 years. We ended up falling in love with each other naturally and catching feelings therefore we had to do the right thing and break up with our partners. Her breakup was more sticky as she wasn’t getting on well with her partner during the time and they was also living together in a flat. She moved out of the flat due to being in love with me and we was seeing each other for 8 months. During this time her ex was still in love with her but feelings wasn’t the same on my friends part as she had feelings for me. However during the end of the 8 months she decided that we wasn’t working out as we were getting toxic and decided she wanted to end things and keep the friendship as she didn’t want to loose me at all and if we carried on like the way we was this may lead to us not wanting anything to do with each other at all and she didn’t want that as we was friends before and we also share the same friendship group. I was very hurt over the breakup and we still stayed very close friends but I still wanted more than being friends. How ever a few weeks into being friends she told me that she missed her ex girlfriend and the flat they lived at and wanted to get back with her. I was extremely heartbroken by this and couldn’t believe what was happening therefore I went mad and said a lot of hurtful things to her and her ex due to how upset I was. It took a while for us to become good friends again as I was hurt from her getting back with her ex and she was upset with how I reacted to her getting back with her ex as I was threatening, would say hurtful things and made her out to be a **** person. The easiest thing would of been to cut all ties completely but she was my best friend and I didn’t want to loose her. Plus she was in my friendship group so when we would go out she would get invited. That was another reason we decided to stay friends to keep the peace in the friendship group. However last time we went out a month ago she was very close and flirty with me and we was speaking on text for 2 days later flirting and her saying she still finds me attractive and would of kissed me etc. She said feelings came back on that night out due to how close we became again. The week later she went away for the weekend with her girlfriend and she told her girlfriend about the flirting and feelings on the night out between me and her and the girlfriend was a little bit upset but forgave her as she said it could be worse and as long as it doesn’t happen again. My friend told me that she regretted it and won’t happen again. I haven’t seen her in 2 or 3 weeks and I know we are going out soon again as a group maybe she won’t do anything but I’m not sure as I never expected her to do what she had done last month when we went out. It’s giving mixed signals and uncertainty and I don’t think her girlfriend should of forgave her. However it’s hard when I still have feelings for her