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do you think age of consent should be 18 in uk not 16 considering 16 year olds are considered childrean legally in uk ?

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Reply 1

I agree it should be 18

Reply 2

16 is fine. Raising it to 18 won't stop 16/17 year olds having their first sexual experiences together, it will just criminalise them.

Reply 3

No, it serves little purpose and 16 year olds are not generally considered children, that ends at puberty. Was that the only argument for raising it?

As @Gazpacho. says, such a change wouldn't stop most of the 16-17 years olds doing what they're going todo, it just risks seriously criminalising them.

Reply 4

It would be a better age and as you say clear up the disparity with adulthood. However 16 was was probably set for practical reasons and would be problematic to change. You don’t really want to criminalise teens for this. I see a strong argument for an age gap rule for under 18s though

Reply 5

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by Zarek
It would be a better age and as you say clear up the disparity with adulthood. However 16 was was probably set for practical reasons and would be problematic to change. You don’t really want to criminalise teens for this. I see a strong argument for an age gap rule for under 18s though

I'm 20 and I'd feel weird being with anyone under 18, but I'm not very strict when it comes to people that are older than me. The annoying aspect of the time we all spend as a teenager is that we grow up in such a way that someone who is 18 is a lot more mature than someone who's 16 despite only being two years apart. There's no difference at all between someone who's 24 and another who is 26.

I think having it at 16 is the balance between different schools of thought on the age of consent. There are a number of countries where the age is lower, some have it at 13 which is the average age when puberty starts. Even though I think that's far too young, it is vaguely reasonable as that's the age when teenagers start to become interested in it. In practise though, it's a recipe for disaster.

I don't believe that raising it to 18 makes sense. It would be consistent with other things, as they wouldn't be classed as minors, but by that age there will be plenty of people who have had sexual experience without any issues coming from it. As has been said before, raising the age of consent would just cause headaches for 16 and 17 year olds with little benefit. Equally, lowering it is unlikely to increase the rate that teenagers have sex - if they're that determined they'll do it regardless, and I used to know someone who had lost it at 14 and regretted it - but will likely cause even more issues with age gaps.

I think an age gap rule would work but only if it's sensibly laid out. There is no way a 16 year old should be sleeping with a 40 year old and I think most people would agree with me on that, but it is within reason that they'd sleep with a twenty year old, even if I'm not comfortable with it myself. For balance, the age gap rule could be set up so that 16 and 17 year olds could only do it with people up to 4 years older.

Reply 6

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by Anonymous
do you think age of consent should be 18 in uk not 16 considering 16 year olds are considered childrean legally in uk ?

I think it should be 18. Sexual relations with 16 year olds of the same age approximatley is okay but what isn't is that a 61 year old could have sex with a 16 year old and it is fully legal. 16 year olds have nowhere near the same responsibilties, understanding of the world and even maturity as the average 18 year old leaving them open for exploitation.

I think anyone who is 25+ and is sleeping with a 16 year old needs to be investigated, it's straight up creepy and anyone who defends that point needs to take a look at themselves. I understand it criminalises 16 year olds having sexuals interactions however, it will still happen and it is a partial 'sacrifice' in order for pedophiles who sit right on the line of legality to actually get caught and punished.

Reply 7

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by Doomotron
I'm 20 and I'd feel weird being with anyone under 18, but I'm not very strict when it comes to people that are older than me. The annoying aspect of the time we all spend as a teenager is that we grow up in such a way that someone who is 18 is a lot more mature than someone who's 16 despite only being two years apart. There's no difference at all between someone who's 24 and another who is 26.
I think having it at 16 is the balance between different schools of thought on the age of consent. There are a number of countries where the age is lower, some have it at 13 which is the average age when puberty starts. Even though I think that's far too young, it is vaguely reasonable as that's the age when teenagers start to become interested in it. In practise though, it's a recipe for disaster.
I don't believe that raising it to 18 makes sense. It would be consistent with other things, as they wouldn't be classed as minors, but by that age there will be plenty of people who have had sexual experience without any issues coming from it. As has been said before, raising the age of consent would just cause headaches for 16 and 17 year olds with little benefit. Equally, lowering it is unlikely to increase the rate that teenagers have sex - if they're that determined they'll do it regardless, and I used to know someone who had lost it at 14 and regretted it - but will likely cause even more issues with age gaps.
I think an age gap rule would work but only if it's sensibly laid out. There is no way a 16 year old should be sleeping with a 40 year old and I think most people would agree with me on that, but it is within reason that they'd sleep with a twenty year old, even if I'm not comfortable with it myself. For balance, the age gap rule could be set up so that 16 and 17 year olds could only do it with people up to 4 years older.

After reading this I agree honestly. An age gap cap would be the best. 16 year olds can have an age cap of a maximum of 20 (4 years). After 18 it is then lifted.

Reply 8

You realise that from 1967 until 1994 it was 21 for men being sexual with other men, don't you? (Until 1969, 21 was the 'age of majority', when people were legally adults.) It then went to 18 until 2000, when it was made equal.

And for women, it was 12 for hundreds of years until it was raised to .. 13 in 1875. 16 didn't happen until 1885.

Some people are mature and informed enough to be sexual with other people at 16, some are not (and in some cases, won't be for many years / ever).

16 is absolutely an arbitrary age, but the alternatives are worse.

Reply 9

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by unprinted
You realise that from 1967 until 1994 it was 21 for men being sexual with other men, don't you? (Until 1969, 21 was the 'age of majority', when people were legally adults.) It then went to 18 until 2000, when it was made equal.
And for women, it was 12 for hundreds of years until it was raised to .. 13 in 1875. 16 didn't happen until 1885.
Some people are mature and informed enough to be sexual with other people at 16, some are not (and in some cases, won't be for many years / ever).
16 is absolutely an arbitrary age, but the alternatives are worse.

I was going to bring up the point about the age of gay consent, but this post beat me to it lol.

Just to add, the age was 21 back then partially because of the attitudes to homosexuality at that time (which was completely illegal prior to 1967); attitudes and perceptions changed in the mid 90's. In addition, it was also higher because it was believed at the time that some teenagers go/ went through gay phases (when they think they might be gay, but later grow up to be straight), and so needed protection from doing something they may regret. Just to add, until 2004, there was NO official law regarding lesbian sex (apparently Queen Victoria thought it was impossible for two women to fall in love with each other 🤣😮🤪).


Original post
by Anonymous
do you think age of consent should be 18 in uk not 16 considering 16 year olds are considered childrean legally in uk ?

Still, back to the original question, I think 16 is a good age for consent. It's slap-bang in the middle of one's teenage years so neither here nor there, and it's not like you have to have sex when you're 16. With a decent sex-education behind them, I'd have thought most people would be OK. According to this thread, it seems most people are waiting to have sex anyway.

https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=7539435

I don't think raising the age of consent (or even introducing a 'Romeo & Juliet' type rule) is realistically going to change anything. All I hear is this hysteria about middle aged men who would jump at the chance to sleep with someone on their 16th birthday, but honestly, in the grand-scheme of things, how many guys actually do this? I'm not claiming to speak for every man on the planet, but I do know, and have known, a lot of different kind of guys (with respect to ages, religious / political beliefs, ethnicities, professional / social status etc.)… and they're almost all adamant that they would never knowingly sleep with someone under the age of 18; despite everyone knowing that the legal age of consent is 16 in England, Scotland and Wales. I've only ever encountered one person on here who seemed to openly advocate grown men sniffing around 16 year olds, but I think they were also quite young, and I don't think they had a rational grip on reality. Even so, most people said "I'd rather she was at least18" (for the record, the individual in question hasn't posted on here for over a year now).

Fair enough, I do see the occasional post on here from concerned friends of someone aged 16/17 in a relationship with a much older partner... but assuming this board is a representation of real life, it doesn't suggest it's a big enough problem to require a fundamental law change. Furthermore, I've yet to see a single report where someone was involved in such a relationship where it seriously messed them up for life. I don't mean later having a mild regret or "the ick"

And although the description may technically be correct, I don't like referring to 16-17 year olds as children; personally, I think that's an emotive term for them. IMHO, the term "children" refers to pre-pubescent kids running around in primary school playing tag or with dolls. It's a world away from a teenager who's doing or completed their GCSE's, can get part time work and take their first steps into adulthood. I don't see why people can't refer to them as adolescents or simply teenagers. It all just smacks of people wrapping them up in cotton wool and (dare I say it) a reluctance to grow up and accept responsibility for their actions.
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Reply 10

Original post
by Anonymous
do you think age of consent should be 18 in uk not 16 considering 16 year olds are considered childrean legally in uk ?

Well they're still gonna do it. But as previous users said, an age-gap rule should be in place. In other European countries, the age of consent is really low, but there's an age-gap rule of 4 years when the person in question is under 18. That makes the most sense.

Reply 11

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by elareare
Well they're still gonna do it. But as previous users said, an age-gap rule should be in place. In other European countries, the age of consent is really low, but there's an age-gap rule of 4 years when the person in question is under 18. That makes the most sense.

i would agree i find wrong the likes of 60 year olds can date 16 year olds

Reply 12

Original post
by Anonymous
i would agree i find wrong the likes of 60 year olds can date 16 year olds

yeah, that should 100% be illegal

Reply 13

Original post
by Gazpacho.
16 is fine. Raising it to 18 won't stop 16/17 year olds having their first sexual experiences together, it will just criminalise them.

to a degree i agree but if age of consent will always still be 16 i think there should be a few changes like 16 17 year olds can t have sex with anyone more then 4 years older then them to stop much older individuals taking advantage of them as they are not legally adults and once they turn 18 none of that matters

Reply 14

Original post
by Anonymous
to a degree i agree but if age of consent will always still be 16 i think there should be a few changes like 16 17 year olds can t have sex with anyone more then 4 years older then them to stop much older individuals taking advantage of them as they are not legally adults and once they turn 18 none of that matters

Again, I will ask the question:- TO WHAT EXTENT IS THIS A REAL ISSUE?

As per my previous post, from my experience, the vast majority of grown men choose to wait until he / she is at least 18 anyway. What evidence is there to show that a significant number of older men are seriously interested in 16-17 year olds? Even on this board, real-life examples are few and far between.

If you don't think 16 year olds are physically / mentally mature enough to have sex, full stop, then that's fair enough. But all this talk of much older men taking advantage of 16 year olds, seems to be hyper-focusing on a problem that possibly only barely exists?

Reply 15

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by Old Skool Freak
Again, I will ask the question:- TO WHAT EXTENT IS THIS A REAL ISSUE?
As per my previous post, from my experience, the vast majority of grown men choose to wait until he / she is at least 18 anyway. What evidence is there to show that a significant number of older men are seriously interested in 16-17 year olds? Even on this board, real-life examples are few and far between.
If you don't think 16 year olds are physically / mentally mature enough to have sex, full stop, then that's fair enough. But all this talk of much older men taking advantage of 16 year olds, seems to be hyper-focusing on a problem that possibly only barely exists?

Yeah, and mass terrorist attacks barely happen/exists. Just because it is a niche thing on your opinion and isn't common, doesn't mean it should not be adressed and regulated.

Turning a blind eye to something serious just because "it doesn't happen that often" is terrible. What if they was your future daughter or young sister/cousin who was affected, talking to a 60 year old man and it's perfectly legal (God forbid). Then I bet you would be campaigning your ass off for the law to change.

Reply 16

Original post
by Anonymous
Yeah, and mass terrorist attacks barely happen/exists. Just because it is a niche thing on your opinion and isn't common, doesn't mean it should not be adressed and regulated.
Turning a blind eye to something serious just because "it doesn't happen that often" is terrible. What if they was your future daughter or young sister/cousin who was affected, talking to a 60 year old man and it's perfectly legal (God forbid). Then I bet you would be campaigning your ass off for the law to change.

What if you future 18yo daughter or young sister/cousin was talking to a 62 year old man and it's perfectly legal (God forbid).

Reply 17

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by Quady
What if you future 18yo daughter or young sister/cousin was talking to a 62 year old man and it's perfectly legal (God forbid).

It's definetley better than 16 though. 16 year olds cannot post explicit content, watch the hub etc but they can have sex? At least 18 makes more sense, they are able to do those things, they have started university, most likley can drive and have a lot more responsibilities and knowledge. Of course it's not good but it's certainly better than 16.

Reply 18

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by Anonymous
It's definetley better than 16 though. 16 year olds cannot post explicit content, watch the hub etc but they can have sex? At least 18 makes more sense, they are able to do those things, they have started university, most likley can drive and have a lot more responsibilities and knowledge. Of course it's not good but it's certainly better than 16.

How old are you?

Reply 19

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by Quady
How old are you?

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